I am almost 26 and cannot keep it up... Do I have a problem?

[Anonymous]

Like I have no health problems, and I am just a little upset that I cannot keep it up long enough... She tells that it is not a big problem, but it is... It is hurting my confidence a little, and I just cannot focus properly, because I am too concerned with trying to keep it up... She even goes down on me, and even though she is doing a great job with fellatio, even then I am having trouble trying to stay hard or even cum for that matter.

Should I swallow some pride, and invest in Viagra? Is it completely normal for someone my age to invest in this? I am just so confused, and disappointed in myself... I know it is a psychological issue, NOT a physical one, but would it still help me?

[cetm_]

Well don't take it too bad, I can lose an erection just by mentally sabotage myself or if a problem gets me too worried... Happens you know, what you can do to improve your erections is doing kegels, eat pomegranate or watermelons, pineapple works too , in the shower you can make manual exercises that improves blood flow, actually some people use this to get more size , there are devices to this purpose too as well , one of the popular is bathmate, people who tried it swear to have longer and harder erections, one pill of zink and one of vit D3 (1000ui) makes great blood flow too and a great supplement for normal day to day diet , also get in mind that constant sex makes the dick muscle tissue sore so recovery time it's needed, its not like smashing your meat over and over and expect it will stay like nothing happened, some actors broke their dicks by trying some positions like reverse cowgirl and the surgery is horrible hehe

[20yearsolder]

When you masturbate that you keep a full erection? Could be performance anxiety. Could have a medical issue. Maybe she just doesn't turn you on enough

[Asker]

I have no problem getting an erection and achieving orgasm through masturbation.

[20yearsolder]

So that should tell you something. It's probably not a physical problem. So then you go to the other option sub, maybe you're not really attracted to her. It doesn't feel amazing when you're inside her.

[Asker]

Never had sex, because of it. Still a virgin, because I cannot keep it up... I am attracted to her, and she does a great job keeping it up through fellatio, but as soon as she stops, or that I have to move, my erection softens.

[20yearsolder]

It's not a low testosterone thing or when you were masturbating it wouldn't stay hard. When you are kissing or touching her breasts or rubbing her vagina, do you get erect

[Asker]

Yes, even when she sits on my lap too.

[20yearsolder]

You get fully hard when she is sitting on your lap? But if she takes your dick out of your pants then you have an issue with it going soft

[Anonymous]

Sounds like anxiety to me. It’s not uncommon with sexually inexperienced men. Your failures cause you more anxiety and then you’re overthinking it. You probably don’t need viagra at 26, although you can discuss that with your doctor to see if it’s an option. If you have an understanding partner, just try to relax and let things happen naturally. I dated a guy who had the same issue. He’d go limp every time trying to put it in and would get so
upset at himself. So one day after he had failed, I didn’t let him get dressed. We laid in bed naked and just talked. After awhile his mood lifted and we were joking around and then he started kissing and touching me. Pretty soon he was hard and nature took over. He had no issues after that. Success breeds success. So don’t be hard on yourself. This is in your head and you can get past it. If you have an understanding partner, just keep trying.

[Asker]

She is so understanding. I couldn't ask for a more understanding person. I just beat myself up hard over it, and I just need some expertise to combat the problem, because I really do want to fix it now, rather than let it wait... Especially since I am not getting any younger, and it can become a concern for starting a family.

[Opinion Owner]

You can get checked out by your doctor to ease your mind but, chances are, they’re going to tell you it’s psychological and not physical. You have a caring partner. Don’t put pressure on yourself. Go into sex with no expectations. Just have fun with it.

[Asker]

Yes, but I am sure that they could find something to help me keep an erection... After all, a lot of my anxiety does come from the fact I am not able to hold a strong erection.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure there are drugs on the market that can help with erections but you can become dependent on them. I would discuss that carefully with your doctor.

[Asker]

I will speak to her about it.

[bangyourhead]

Yes, viagra will help. Would probably be something worth getting just so you get out of your head about it.

[TheFlak38]

the problem is that she is a complete turn off.

[Asker]

No? If she was, I wouldn't be trying multiple times with her, nor would I be posting this question, if I really wanted to have sex with her?

[Twalli]

Talk to a doctor about your problem.

[Asker]

That may be an option down the line. I will have to go ask my family doctor, and see if she can help me out, because I just need something to help me get the ball rolling.

[NightOwl8801]

You could have low testosterone levels...
Get to the doctor and have bloodwork done, all levels of hormones , testosterone , cholesterol, everything...

[Asker]

I may consider that route eventually. I will speak to my doctor, and see what she has to say. She's rather clever, and I know she will find out what's wrong.

[NightOwl8801]

Good luck

[Asker]

Thanks. I just needed to know if going my family doctor would be the best step after trying a couple more times.

[Anonymous]

Good see a dr.