I am always used for sex?

[Anonymous]

So i have always felt used for sex by men every time i try dating they are curious to have sex with me i am attractive face with curvy body nobody is interested to know me as a person but always say man who will marry you will be very lucky i have been with almost 25 relationships and it was about sex only and when i say no to it they ghost me...


What is my fault? Men see me only as sex object

[FilmGuy93]

Copied from another answer I wrote recently:

I'm going to give you the same piece of advice I give to every woman in your position. When a woman tries and consistently fails to hold men's attention, it means at least one, and probably some combination of the following three things;

1. Because she leads with her looks, she isn't giving men anything besides her looks to bond with. She needs to communicate her hobbies more clearly, and speak about her interests with confidence.
2. Because of the company she keeps and the social circles she moves in, she doesn't interact with men who would have any interest in bonding with her outside of a sexual context. Lets be real, most women's girlfriends aren't... the best...
3. Because of her personality and the way she carries herself, she makes herself a headache/overall unpleasant to deal with. The only men who will put up with her only want sex, because sex is the only time she isn't causing problems.
I guarantee you that your problem falls into at least one of the above categories. Being a spiritually clean and uplifting person will bring spiritually uplifting men into your life.

[Asker]

Strongly disagree to all of these points i am non of these most guys i have been with had major trust issues at first one threatened to kill me if i cheat him later cheated on me with 4 girls

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like your problem falls into the first and second categories; those being who you let into your social circle and confidence in expressing yourself to men. Don’t be afraid to be discerning!

[oddwaffle]

Men will always see you as a sex object. There is no way around it. That's what going on top of their heads before they can slow down to look for a wife. The important part is for you to find the man rather than letting him find you.

You need to "get to know" the guy and identify his traits that you want. Usually, wealth, present of other family members and willingness to settle down.

Once you have determined that he is a suitable candidate then be open with him and tell him what you desire. Or just simply seduce him.

Being passive is not going to help you. Sometimes guys will just ignore you because they forgot.

[FallonSamuels]

Hey sweetie.


I’m so sorry to hear that. It is very important to set and have boundaries in place. If you’re not looking for casual sex, it would be beneficial to tell guys that upfront. If they ghost you cause of that then it’s their loss; and it kind of narrows down your dating pool and eliminates men who aren’t looking for a long term relationship. It seems most of the guys you’re meeting aren’t ready for the type of commitment you’re looking for and that’s okay. I hope this helps

[Asker]

Yes i always tell them that but they ghost of i say no to sex

[FallonSamuels]

If someone ghosts you cause of that then they don’t deserve to be in your life. Although it might hurt, they’re actually doing you a favour. Tell them that you aren’t looking to have sex with someone who isn’t committed to you. I really hope you find your person soon

[Irishgirl02]

The trick is to take sex off the table and this weeds out the guys who are intrested in a relationship and possibly marriage from the guys who just want sex. If a guy thinks you are promiscuous he in most cases won't want anything serious.

Make him work for it and assess your value.

[MrCommodore]

You need to change your approach to dating, as its repeatedly giving you the same results.

Perhaps try seeking male friends only, then after a while see if something develops from that. Join a club, like martial arts or something and develop a connection first.

[OfMiceandMen]

Exactly what Irishgirl02 said.

[HighValue]

You should have waited for a few months into a relationship before having sex. The ones that want it right away aren't interested in a relationship, they just want to use you. Sadly, now that you have had so many partners most good guys won't be interested.

Did you have sex with all 25 people you were with?

Do you dress provocatively/revealing or post pictures online dressed that way?

[Asker]

I only had sex once and i never wear revealing cloths because i can't wear them

[Asker]

And rest 24 guys ghosted me because i didn't let them have sex

[JPresidente]

Don’t give up the cake so soon. Make them pursue you for you and not your body.

[savagewolf22]

Because you have only boobs n holes to offer in relationship...

[Asker]

U sound like a person who only see women as sex toy

[savagewolf22]

Aww you know me so well... 😘❤️

[shanshu]

It sucks but you need to hold of sex during dating until a guy will stick around, if they ghost you they ghost you. They arnt worth your time

[peterrezeeek]

cuz u made ur self cheap when u lost ur virginity.. thats why i advice girls to save them bodies until they get married.. so it was ur fault.
i will try to explain it to u simply :
u r attractive and beautiful, so any man would be like to find way to fuck u, so they lie and fool u.. getting married and building a family is expensive so cheap sex with some lies they see it perfect,
finally i advice all girls to still virgin untill they find a serious man to marry.

[panamared1]

Find an app just for friends, not a dating app

[YourToy69]

Yes, they do. You need to develop the art of hooking them well

[Anonymous]

Why do you not enjoy sex?

[Anonymous]

Because you let it happen.