I am going to ask this guy if he's actually sexually attracted to me. Does this sound ok?

[Candykanelove]

I've been having sex with this guy for a year now. We've been friends with benefits but I don't know if he's actually sexually attracted to my body type. I see where he follows models on social media. This is why I'd like to ask him if he is sexually attracted to women with my body type. Or if he is only attracted to models and skinny women.

Even if we are only friends with benefits I still think it's important that both people are sexually attracted to each other because it's physical and we see each other naked. And I don't see anything wrong with a woman wanting to know that I man who sees her naked is sexually attracted to her.

I am going to say this to him...

I'd like to talk to you about something but I don't want you to think I'm trying to start drama or that I'm trying to argue. I want clarity about something. (Are you sexually attracted to women who have my type of body? Or are you only attracted to models and skinny women).

Then I'll tell him why I'm asking because I am sexually attracted to him and I enjoy having sex with him. And I want the feelings to be mutual.

[ohsheeT]

Time out hold on wait up think about this for a second

He's with you as a friend has a lover

Of course he's sexually attracted to you and your body and your mind and your heart and your soul otherwise she's not going to be doing it

Common sense is going to say yes he's attracted to models he's probably attracted to big women too

But he's with you so of course he's attracted to your body

Let me go ahead and ask him the question but there's better questions that you can be asking him

[Paul_in_Indy]

If he has been having consistent sex with you for sometime, then he’s definitely attracted to you. You have ample experimental data to show that he sexually attracted to you

[DevikaButts95]

You've already brought this up to him and he has said he finds you sexually attractive. You're insecurely starting drama.

[Candykanelove]

I just don't understand why he pretends to be sexually attracted to me.

[DevikaButts95]

He doesn't.

[DevikaButts95]

As in he doesn't pretend, he's sexually attracted to you.

[Paris13]

If he is Bedding you down with a friends with benefits Deal, You are His Type in Bed. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xxoo

[OlderAndWiser]

And what if the feeling isn't mutual?

[Candykanelove]

Then I'll stop seeing him duh it's not rocket science.

[OlderAndWiser]

I’ve never done the friends with benefits thing, but I thought it was just about getting laid and you weren’t supposed to have any feelings.

[Candykanelove]

Wanting someone you fuck to be physically attracted to you isn't about having feelings.

[Billlewis]

Sure, why not?

[Billlewis]

Thank you very much for the point, I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, if it's okay..

[Summeroflove]

Seems like he’s using you. But ok. No he’s not sexually attracted if he’s having sex with you.

[Candykanelove]

You can't even talk proper English get lost.

[Summeroflove]

Lmao. You just don’t like my answer.

[Summeroflove]

I mean. You don’t seem to understand someone has sex with you but you don’t know if he’s sexually attracted

[Candykanelove]

I mean you're just upset that no one wants to have sex with you.

[Summeroflove]

Lmfao. Thanks for thinking about my sex life.

[Summeroflove]

But. Okay. Tell yourself whatever you want about me if it makes you feel better about yourself.

[Candykanelove]

It's funny how you think you can tell me whether a man is sexually attracted to me or not. You don't even know this man get a life.

[Summeroflove]

If he’s having sex with you…

[Summeroflove]

The only thing that’s funny is you. Stop being so pathetic.

[Candykanelove]

A man will have sex with anybody..

[Summeroflove]

Not all men are like that lol.

[BarryLiverstone]

You would already know if he’s attracted

[Candykanelove]

Obviously, I don't know if I'm asking him this...

[BarryLiverstone]

Actually you do know. It’s easy to tell. When you get naked does his penis get hard?

[Candykanelove]

His penis getting hard doesn't mean he's sexually attracted to me. A man's penis will get hard for any woman. You know this...

[BarryLiverstone]

No I actually will disagree. If there is a lack of sexual attraction the penis will stay soft. I’m a guy, I have a penis, I know what happens when I’m not attracted to someone

[Candykanelove]

If guys couldn’t get hard for someone they aren’t attracted to male rape wouldn’t be as much of a thing.

[BarryLiverstone]

Male rape? Now you are equating a messed up brain of a rapist to all guys. Do you believe the guy you are hooking up with is capable of raping someone?

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m not here to argue, was trying to help you by giving my perspective. Have a nice night

[Candykanelove]

Of course you're going to go away because you know what I'm saying is true.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s not true. I honestly disagreed with you. You can read what I wrote

[Candykanelove]

So men don't get hard when they rape women? Yeah ok..

[BarryLiverstone]

Guys who rape get hard. And their brain is messed up. You know that not all guys rape right? Most guys have normal brains and are not abusive like that

[Candykanelove]

Why doesn't he follow women on social media with my body type?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because it’s a spectrum of attraction. People are not solely attracted to one body type. Usually when following others the idea is to see the fantasy. To go for the best look. But they can still be attracted to someone who isn’t a model. For example you said you are attracted to him right? But I’m guessing he doesn’t look like hairy styles.

[Candykanelove]

To go for the best look? Wow well if he thinks those women are the best. And that's what he fantasizes about then why doesn't he just find those types he likes Instead of pretending to be sexually attracted to me when he's not? It makes no sense.

[BarryLiverstone]

But I asked you. Are you sexually attracted to him and attracted to hairy styles? Because then I could say the same you just did

[BarryLiverstone]

But hey, I’ll say this in good faith. I can be attracted to someone who is a “10” or “9”. And I can also be attracted to someone who is a 6 and 5. Just because I’m attracted to a 10 doesn’t mean I would exclusively only pursue that type.

[Candykanelove]

I am attracted to him I've never been attracted to a man has much as I am to him. This is why I'm saying I don't want to continue having sex with him. If he's not sexually attracted to me and if he thinks these models are the best. Like don't use me for sex just because you can't get the models you really want.

[BarryLiverstone]

There you go. Then talk to him and tell him you don’t just want to be used for sex. Usually when someone says that they want more than just sex, want to start a romantic relationship and build up feelings. If you tell him that’s your expectation and he says he only wants to hook up, then you can make a decision

[Candykanelove]

I'm not saying I want to be in a romantic relationship this has nothing to do with a relationship. I just don't want to have sex with him if he's not physically to me.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ok, well you have been doing it for a year so maybe something has changed? Anyway I’m not sure I can be of much help. Guess you will talk to him and find out

[Candykanelove]

So maybe something has changed? Like what?

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m not a mind reader. That’s for you to answer. Did something change this month? You were having sex with him in February and didn’t ask if he sees you as attractive. Now you want to know

[Candykanelove]

Febuaray? What are you even talking about? The last time I had sex with him was last month. Yeah, he told me last month he wouldn't have sex with a woman he's not attracted to. But that's obviously BS because he's not attracted to me and he's having sex with me. So you're saying because we've been having sex for a year he's not attracted to me anymore? Well if that's the case then why won't he just say this? Instead of acting like he's still attracted to me?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope that’s not what I am saying. You said you were having sex for at least a year. I was asking why would you be questioning him now when you didn’t wonder 8 months ago? And you just told me that recently he told you that he wouldn’t have sex with someone he’s not attracted to. So now you know

[Candykanelove]

But he's lying because if he was attracted to me he wouldn't be following half-naked models on social media that look nothing like me.

[BarryLiverstone]

Go back to when I said I am attracted to 10s and 6s.. I mean you know him better than any of us and he may be lying. But my ex used to gush over Jason Mamoa and followed him online. Does this mean she only found Jason sexually attractive?

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m going to bed, gotta work later today and I need sleep. Hasta

[Candykanelove]

You're calling me a six because I'm not a model? Yeah, whatever well she's your ex so obviously she must have liked Jason Mamoa more..

[Sunnybeach123]

If his penis gets hard to you he's sexually attracted to you. When I see a woman and I get an erection because of her, I'm sexually attracted to her.

[Candykanelove]

A man can get hard and not be sexually attracted to a woman. If guys couldn’t get hard for someone they aren’t attracted to male rape wouldn’t be as much of a thing.

[Sunnybeach123]

I'm always attracted to a woman when I look at her and my penis gets bigger.

[Candykanelove]

Yeah, that's why I'm saying a man will get hard from any woman.

[Sunnybeach123]

No, my penis is very picky.

[James899]

Yes. it sounds good. but i have some suggestions and doubts.

[Candykanelove]

You have some suggestions and doubts? WTF? Get lost troll.

[LoverOfBooty23]

Go for it

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness. Talk about being stupidly insecure. You've been having sex with him for a damn year. If he wasn't sexually attracted to you he wouldn't be fucking sleeping with you idiot.

I seriously hope he ends things with you for being so stupid and so insecure. The only reason you would want to ask this is because you are fishing to see if he wants a relationship with you.

[Candykanelove]

You're a moron just because a man has sex with a woman doesn't mean he's sexually attracted to her. A man will fuck any and everything. Me wanting to know if the man who's been fucking me for a year is actually attracted to me isn't being insecure. Any woman in her right mind would want to know this. Wanting to know if a man who sees you naked is not insecure all women want to know this. You seriously hope he ends things with me for being so stupid and so insecure? You really are fucking stupid if you don't understand why a woman wants to feel desirable by a man she's fucking. It's no different than a man wanting to know a woman likes his penis size. If he was actually sexually attracted to my body type he would follow women on social media who look like me. And not only models and skinny women. You need to learn how to read you idiot I'm not asking him this because I want a relationship. I'm asking this because I don't want him to see me naked if he's not sexually attracted to me. You really are a fucking dumbass.

[DubiousIntentions]

A guy doesn't need to be attracted to you in order to have sex with you. He just needs a receptacle for his power piston. I'm not sure if you are complaining about it or what? You are always free to find another. There is much more to life than sex.

[Candykanelove]

@DubiousIntentions A guy doesn't need to be attracted to me in order to have sex with me. Right, that's how you feel personally. But I don't want a guy having sex with me if he's not attracted to me. And I don't see anything wrong with that. Most women feel this way what woman wants a man to see her naked if he's not attracted to her? It's common sense...

[DubiousIntentions]

The same women that post on Only Fans and who strip at the clubs. They don't care if a man is attractive to them, just that they get money out of them. But I understand your feeling on it. I think that is what everyone would like.