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I am not sexually attracted to my boyfriend... should I break up with him?

We have been dating for over two years, but in the last year and a half, I have been literally turned off by his dick. I can't get in the mood with him. I never want to have sex with him, I never feel sexual feelings for him, I do it more out of a feeling of duty not want. I love everything else about him though. The idea of sex with him grosses me out.

I am 21

he is also 21

we have been dating for over 2 years (under 3)

we are both still living at home and attending university

Should I break up with him? I have always been a sexual person in the past

people do like to date me for long periods. No one has ever broken up with me

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  • Well if you aren’t sexually attracted to him then you shouldn’t of been with him in the first place , why are you letting him stick his dick into you if you are disgusted by him? Like I always say you girls are very selfish people , you are never satisfied with whatever you have , you always need opposite , why most guys don’t want to marry anymore , Girls have selfish expectations , and the grass is greener on the other side syndrome , if you actually looked at yourself in the mirror and realized to yourself that you can be wrong that you are not a perfect person maybe you will look at others through a different perspective , stop brainwashing yourself with useless bullshit you see on your cell phone , stop comparing your life to others , you are living in false reality , social media is a money making tool that was designed to make you feel like you are missing out on shit when really you aren’t missing out on anything cuz it’s all bullshit , a way to take your money , Remove your selfishness or you’re never going to experience true love , realize you aren’t a perfect person , accept your partners flaws like he is accepting yours , What is so ugly about his dick? Are you watching porn? Another bullshit reality? Are you comparing his dick to one of your exes dicks? You girls have a tendency to hold on to your exes like they were these amazing people , I got news for you, if they were so amazing they wouldn’t be your ex period , You girls want Love and respect from your men only on your terms , you expect him to sacrifice for you but you can’t sacrifice for him , why you girls are treated the way you are treated because you are selfish people , You can have a man that has a good job, works his ass off to provide for you and protects you , helps around the house , caters to your needs , listens to your constant nagging and bitching and you will still feel like he is a piece of shit you girls are never content , you always expect more than what you already have , or you are drawn to some douche bag bad boy that treats ya like shit but to you he is so amazing until you realize he was using you for a piece of ass , then you cry and try to go back to the guy that actually cares about you, and if he is smart he won’t take your ass back. You girls are digging your own graves by being selfish , you will never experience true love until you can remove it

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  • Yes, you need to move on.

    It's best for the both of you.

    That said, he cannot know that this is the reason. This may help - it's the 2nd to last scene in the movie "The (500) Days of Summer", a not-a-love story told in a non-linear fashion in which Tom, an idealist about love, is first very attracted to Summer who works in his office. They become a couple, but she was never really into the idea of having a relationship but more so just wanted to have some fun. Ultimately, she drifts from him and he doesn't notice it. I don't want to spoil the movie because it is very very good, but this scene is important as Summer explains to Tom why she didn't stay with him but ultimately married someone else.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/csQOhscdaM0

    This article is interesting.

    Zooey Deschanel Is Still Defending Her 500 Days Of Summer Character Years Later

    https://www.cinemablend.com/movies/zooey-deschanel-is-still-defending-her-500-days-of-summer-character-years-later

    Consider watching the movie - maybe even with your boyfriend.

    My point is that you need to make your relationship drift away - it already has for you in a large sense. He needs to have it drift away too or somehow see that he's "not the one for" you.

    • Zooey Deschanel lives down the street from me and she has said this movie shook her up more than any other one she did

    • @rachel776 Well, this movie is a one-sided love story. Honestly, I am a guy and I understand exactly what Tom went through, so I loved this movie. But I never viewed Summer as a villain. We never fully understand why she is never into Tom or why she begins to drift away, but I suppose it doesn't really matter. For some, she's the villain. For some women, to them, "Why would you give up a decent guy like Tom who obviously loves you? You bitch!" and for some men, Summer is the stand-in for the girl that broke his heart... you bitch! LOL.. Honestly, in December 1988, I was in a clandestine 2.5-week relationship with a woman very similar to Summer. She was my roommate and a nymphomaniac. Eventually, it was my turn and the thing is, since I already lived with her, she was easy to love. Very fun-loving and vivacious like Summer. I was very much like Tom... ... and then, one day, it was over - I woke-up the next day and another guy had slept over with her in her bedroom after I was asleep in my room. Was I upset? Very much so. But, I never viewed her as a villain - just a woman who was special. I got over that broken heart rather quickly in part due to a rebound relationship, but that's another story. Well, if you know Zooey Deschanel, please say "Hi" for me and tell her that I never thought Summer was a villain in "500 Days" (tell her my nympho story). Tell her Summer was a special character. Also, please tell her I loved her in "The Happening", an extremely underrated and underappreciated movie.

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  • I think you should but try to soften the blow as much as possible, like don't break up with no explanation or just hit him with it like a missile

  • Of course you should break up with him. You're wasting the prime years of his sexual life by not doing so.

    It's so cruel to date a guy you can't bear having sex with.

  • Well you don't want to break your 'one to breakup' streak... smh...🙄

  • Your boyfriend is ugly?

  • I don't really like this question, it just seems like the decision should be solely on you and not something you tell others online like this.

    It seems rather unclassy and trashy

    Personally, if you absolutely do not like your boyfriend then maybe it is best to move on, but I think if you were with him for about two years then I'm sure there's some love there right?

    I'm sure he doesn't absolutely love all parts on you as well, but you will always find that with someone you're with.

    I think the key is to not see people as disposable objects, getting bored of one after the other like different colored shirts.

    If I'm being honest, I can always pick something (s) from a woman that I do not like physically, but imagine if I did that to every woman I was with and broke up with them for that.

    I'd be lonely forever and missing on some big moral/philosophical lesson of life and how to look at and treat people.

    You get what I'm saying?

  • I would so say no but -- this is because I am a guy. Personally, I would be devastated if I found this out, assuming the relationship was going very strong despite the lack of sex.

  • Time to move on. Life's to short to be riding bad dick. Find someone that fucks you like you want it

  • You should definitely break up. It sounds like y'all are friends, but not lovers.

  • Possibly yeah

  • "We are different people" kind of break-up upcoming.

  • Totally yeah... You're grossed out by him lol

  • Sounds like you're not into him anymore. It happens and shouldn't be dragged out. Move on, you're both young. You'll both find better relationships in the future.

  • This is so immature I never heard of something like this before

  • I don't understand. Why date someone you don't feel sexually attracted to?

    • You don't even know what you want.

    • Shocking right?

    • @spartan55 It's fucking annoying. Why make someone lose their time with you? From what I understand she's just with him, only not to feel alone or "unloved". Been so, she needs a mental health professional, not a boyfriend.

  • Yes.
    Do you both a favor.

  • Definitely breakup. He deserves better.

  • You should. He will do better after.

  • Your relationship makes ZERO sense to me. You are FRIENDS; NOT girlfriend/boyfriend!

    • If you WANT sex, then SOMETHING has to change!

  • Talk to him first if you like everything else about him. Maybe he'll be open for an open relationship or be turned on by you living a hotwife or vixen lifestyle.

  • Not much of a basis for a relationship if you dont find him sexually stimulating, I agree with other posts you are likely to look elsewhere for sex.

    In this case if you're not happy, it is probably best to move on with your life.

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