I am over my relationship but what now?

[afoxluvjoy]

So my boyfriend (26) and myself (25) have been together for five years. It's been good for the most part but now, as of late, I feel like our relationship has run it course. A lot of things that we argue about never really seems to get resolved, kind of just swept away to either be forgotten or to just boil over in another argument.

He is kind of controlling as well, when we first started seeing each other, whenever I would go out with friends, he would start arguments with me through text, so I would spend most of the night out glued to my phone than with my friends. Even if I wanted to go to brunch out in the city, he always wanted to come along. At first, there wasn't an issue but after a while it became one to the point where they wouldn't invite me out anymore. I enjoy having my own space, I like spending time alone with just myself to just recharge, he knows that and yet, I can't have any 'me' time but he can go out with his friends, I never have a problem with that because he is his own person but I was never treated with the same respect.

Our sex life has taken a hit too, not that he has notice but I don't feel as attracted to him as I used too, in our five years together he's only made me orgasm twice, I've tried bringing up what works for me during sex because I'm vocal about what I like/don't like and he'll understand it but goes right back to doing it 'wrong' or he'll get insecure and I'd spend the rest of the night comforting him before going to bed unsatisfied. We've lived together for the past three years and I do pretty much all the cleaning around the house, he has his buddies over every night, even during quarantine. I want out of this relationship, I don't feel the same as I did before but I'm stuck. I was laid-off because of Covid, I have no family (orphan child) and every friend I know moved out of state these last years, I'm all alone and feel trapped in this relationship. Any advice?

[Secret6620]

Just remember... There are over 7 billion people in the world... Why be miserable with one? I would advise breaking things off if you truly can't salvage the relationship... Or couples therapy for better communication and see if that helps...

[afoxluvjoy]

Money is a little tight since I was laid off so I've been saving every cent just in case of an emergency. Even though I would love to do therapy since I used to go during my teens and early 20's, it's a little out the budget.

[Secret6620]

YAY 🙋 Thanks for most helpful girl 🎀

[Lost_Spark]

Rediscover yourself, your own passions.

Make a list of the 10 things you want to achieve over a short term basid, realistic ones! Nothing like find the man of your dreams blah blah.

Just be you

[afoxluvjoy]

Yeah, I see what you mean. As of late, since being stuck in the house I've been getting little sparks here and there to start on some things I used to do in the past but slowly decayed since the relationship had gotten more serious. Thank you for the advice!

[izbird]

I'm sorry to hear you're going through that.
The relationship doesn't sound healthy, so you may have to go stay with a friend out of state.

[bassinguy76]

I would move on. Life is too short not to be happy.

[afoxluvjoy]

I want to, I do but I'm a little tight on money so I can't just up and leave.

[bassinguy76]

Ask to stay with a friend or family... you deserve better.

[Avicenna]

If you are unhappy and dont see any shot of improvement, you need to get out of the relationship

[Iron_Man]

You take a long break and find yourself

[afoxluvjoy]

I wouldn't know where to go. I have no family or friends in my state, plus money is very tight on my end so I don't want to send a fortune on a hotel room.

[Iron_Man]

How is a 24-year-old girl all alone in the world

[afoxluvjoy]

I was orphaned when I was 5, my dad committed suicide and my mom suffers from bipolar disorder so I was putt in different foster homes till I saved up enough to split a place with a friend at the time but them, like most of the people I've known or has called a friend had moved out of state and I've lost contact with a lot of them.

[Iron_Man]

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. If you need a friend to talk to feel free to private message me

[sethtav]

Let him know and start planning to move. Do not complain, fix it by moving on.