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I am spying my boyfriend in a group chat?

I entered a group chat that I know my boyfriend is with a fake name and I know his fake name. I have been seeing him talking about porn actresses naked woman, being nice with random guys (is a group only for guys) I feel very upset about what he does there but I can’t talk with him about it since he doesn’t know I am there what can I do?
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Well to start with I don’t trust anyone besides my parents , but I actually trusted him and that is why I stalked, he was being suspicious and as you guys can see I have a great reason to not trust anyone. What is amazing is the girls that do trust their partners blindly lol you need deserve to be trusted and he already lost his chance but as I said I will not break up yet
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Most Helpful Girls

  • What led you to intrude on their chat and spy on him? Do you not trust him with his guy friends? I think you shouldn't have done this.

    If you're worried/bothered about him watching porn, ask him about it and have an honest conversation. A lot of guys watch it, but I get it, when you're in a relationship with a guy it can be upset to think of him thinking about other women sexually. If him watching it bothers you, you are totally justified to feel how you feel about it, and you should express that to him! I hope he opens up to you about it, especially if he's addicted to it or something.

    But, it's not okay to spy on him. I think there's a trust issue that you need to work out with him.

    • Just saw your update. How has he lost your trust? By talking about porn with his friends? Maybe he's embarrassed and fearful to talk about it with you for fear you'll judge him? You're still getting to know him, no matter how long youve been together. People are complex and in order to get to know him best you NEED to open these lines of communication with him. I fear this relationship is really going south...

  • What he does certainly is bothersome, but what's even bothersome is your stalking. So you found out about that but still, he's not cheating. If it really bothers you, then you should know if he goes to chats to talk about it then that's part of who he is, he's not hiding it if he talks to other people about it. So you can leave him if it's a deal breaker for you, but either way your relationship already isn't solid if there's no trust.

Most Helpful Guys

  • "I trusted him and that is why I choose to start stalking him." No offense but you sound kind of like a psycho. She we be concerned for this boy? Anyway he sounds like a twat, and you sound like a lunatic. You're perfect for each other, trust issues, lack of communication and all. Break up already.

    If you don't trust each other behind your back on their own you guys are clearly not in the right relationship (or you both are and both of you are just really immature).

  • At least he's not cheating on you. Porn actresses? What is he 12?
    He knows your stalking him, he has another group, where he talks about what you fear he would the most. You aren't makin this up are you?

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  • Well clearly you have trust issues in your relationship
    And what type of guys go online to chat about porn stars. He dosnt seem like a winner.

    You might want to rethink why you are with him

    • I think yet is the key word in your update why string him along. free dinners?

    • Not even that, I love him

    • Love requires trust. You are on a downward spiral in you relationship,

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  • Fantastic, smart.

    • Who is smart?

  • Ahahahahahah
    ''I trusted him son I spyed him on his private talk/fantasy''
    I Hope I ll never find a girl like u

    • Oh... And this Is a really good reason for him to break up... Not for u girl... He did only normal things... U are the one spying like a psycho

  • You sound psycho

    • I am really far to be psycho :) I am in a PhD program lol

    • It’s very interesting that you are associating someone’s level of education with their mental state. Not sure there’s a strong correlation. You can be depressed and be in school. You can be a bad person and be in school and so forth,

    • +1 but most of the psycho are sure that they are normal 🧐

  • The guy didn’t do anything wrong the only person that did anything wrong in this freaking relationship with you for being a controlling psychopath

  • Well he is only talking about porn and not another girlfriend; so there is that.

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