I asked him about his previous sex life and I regret it?

[Anonymous]

It was a mistake... i should never do this
Now feel kinda nasty and awkward to know what he did to others

[ohshee]

Ta Daa !!!
I love when people ask on here should I ask my boyfriend about his sex life prior to our relationship I always hate mistake you do want to find out how clean the person is but you do that in a different way
The people aren't aware of what they're going to feel after they ask the person if they're honest when they answer

Most people ask that question for a couple different reasons there. Curious
They want to find out how experienced they are
But nine times out of 10 they're going to find out stuff that they didn't want to hear we're all supposed to be this pure person and have respect for ourselves but when you ask a question like that you find out how naughty that person is and it kind of hurt you

But what you don't understand is that moment is you're going to be the same way you do things that you don't want anybody else to know that you do and that's the way it should be will you have a good partner and you explore and experience things together you will become that same person so I understand where your heart is and where you're coming from but just it's a matter of time until you let your guard down until you start exploring and experiencing because you want to feel that beautifulness you know the one I'm talking about
I kind of wished it you would ask the question before you found out because I know what you feel like your kind of heartbroken because yours is nice guy but he's just been naughty boy it's okay you understand what I'm talking about in a couple years probably there's nothing bad with it it's a beautiful thing really

[Dragonstarterplus]

Sounds like you learned a valuable lesson: Don't ask questions you don't want the answer too

[Nileviewboy]

well she did want to know, thats why she asked. But yes it can be 50 shades of awkward after. But you never know, maybe she looked at him and thought i wondered if he's had candlewax poured on his nuts while eating a girl out... i mean... most girls wonder that. They just never want to know the answer. :D

[Asker]

@Nileviewboy im vwry open if i wanna know i ask But was a mistake this time

[Nileviewboy]

did he just flat out tell you what he done with other girls? or was it under protest? if it was under protest IE you had to force it out of him, then that was definitely a pandoras box he wanted to keep locked. as long as he respects you in the bedroom, and stops whe you tell him, and doesn't do anything other than what you agree then there shouldn't have been a reason to ask about his former life. Unless of course he was in an AIDS rampant enviroment for 6 months where he likely would have been at risk of getting it.

[Asker]

@Nileviewboy no he openly told me so sometimes its him who started to talk about his sex adventures without me even asking

[Nileviewboy]

it could be that he's trying to impress you, or gauge your reaction to see what you might be into. if you're still a relatively new relationship (under 6 months) then i think this is normal. you've pretty much worked each other out in your heads. but the bedroom is a place of wonder, regret, excitement or just plain chilling. Sex is great, but the things as human beings is that we always want to try new things with our other halves. I think you need to sit down with him, and you BOTH need to establish your boundaries of what should not be spoke about in this relationship, and also what will and what will not happen in the bedroom. you'll feel awkward for 20 minutes after the chat, but you'll feel better for it 30 minutes after!

[chulo1992]

MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY!!!

[Asker]

@Nileviewboy 😭😭😭

[Berethor]

It's better to know the truth, even if it's not an easy truth, now you know what he is.

[boggboss]

So what are u asking play stupid games win stupid prizes its such a idiotic thing to want to know lol

[Smallboobsgotohell]

What did he do?

[Asker]

Orgy Sex for 8 hours Everyday sex after work for 4 month... Hair pulling, slapoing and spanking hard...

[Smallboobsgotohell]

Nice

[Asker]

No its not.

[Smallboobsgotohell]

Yes it is tell him u want him to spank u harder than he did to others

[SignedAutographs]

Those girls liked it rough. Do you not like it rough, QA?

[Asker]

@SignedAutographs i dont, no...

[SignedAutographs]

So that's what this is all about It's not who he had sex with, it's the type of ex you don't like they did and now you think he expects you to do the same

[Asker]

@SignedAutographs he says he likes me in bed But we didn't have sex in 2 month I moved to another city and he is always busy or not in the mood meeting me

[connemara_crocodile]

Are you sure that's true? Sounds fake to me. Sounds like he just wants you jealous cause he's insecure in bed. But that's just a guess

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile no idea Could be

[connemara_crocodile]

Yeah don't worry a thing, he didn't do any of that. Those are just fantasies. He's just been childish by trying to get you to think he's a big deal

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile but whats the point anyways? we dont have sex in 2 months Why brag about it then have 0 desire to show it

[SignedAutographs]

Horny?

[connemara_crocodile]

He's obviously nervous. That's why he's not showing much desire to have sex with you. He might have a performance issue (premature ejaculation, occasional impotence or just lack of experience) and he's too afraid to do it. And he tells you he did all that stuff so you think he's a big deal and that he doesn't have any issues. Believe me, someone who did all the stuff you mentioned wouldn't be holding on sex.

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile he says he is no in mood or sad becaue of his dad passing 6 months ago But thats what i thought... how someone so so sexually experienced doewnt have a ny desire to fuck when im ready half naked in his bed Or his depression is for real really this Hard and Deep No idea

[Asker]

@SignedAutographs a bit yes... but mostly confused about his 0 desire for me

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile by the way!!! now that you tell me about his male worries... once we were about to fuck and he was like "i hope it workd today", because he said he actually was taking pills and was afraid his dick won't get hard Also once i saw him talk to his friend and he said "My teeth hurst, should take those pills" And a friend made a gesture:"those pills make you*proceeds to kinda bow down his hand*" Then they laughed... I dont knw why i thought it was about him taking pain killer pills that make him soft not able to get hard Could be it?

[connemara_crocodile]

I lost my mother in January, I was devastated, but I was back in action in a couple of weeks. I know each person is different, but still... I never heard of someone not being able to have sex 6 months after a parent died. I'm sorry for his loss, but it's unrelated. Now more than ever I think he's nervous and he's lying

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile i thought its another women but its not likely the case? Once i didn't visit him in 1 month and when i visited still had my blond hais all over bathroom and his bed I mean no other female hair and mine is easy to spot

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile in 6 months we had sex 2 times only

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile and when we worked together i slept nearly once a week every week in his huse, with no sex tho

[connemara_crocodile]

And the sex you had those 2 times were amazing as someone with all the experience he claims to have would do? Or was it normal? Did he do experienced stuff and techniques you haven't seen before? Did he last long? Did he get hard fast?

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile it was normal sex, horny and passionate But... not to be gross: when he touched me there... he rubs it uhmm all over the place, you know what i mean? like... he is not exactly stimulating whats need to be stimulated. Like i literally moved his fingers to the place...

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile he got hard fast yeah, kissing me made him hard

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile once he said im different than other "millions"of girls he slept with , because im very sensual... like, what?

[connemara_crocodile]

Well there's your answer then... He's just lying cause he lacks experience and he's putting on excuses cause he's nervous cause he lacks experience. You can relax. Maybe if you wanna be serious with him, tell him he's alright, has nothing to worry about, but that he needs to stop lying.

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile but i can't elive he lacks experience He told me about lots of girls he slept with He is 44 He was a party animal he said he fucked a lot at night clubs Even some prostitutes I can't believe he lacks experience He was married for his ex for 20 years who was a nympho he said

[connemara_crocodile]

We guys say a lot of stuff. What matters is what we can prove. I've been for 8yrs with my first who was very inactive in bed (we used to fuck once a month), and when we broke up I felt very embarrassed about the lack of experience I had compared to other men of my same age. It took me several experiences and learning from sexologists online to gain confidence. All what he says sounds very made up... "I've been 20yrs with a nimphomaniac" yeah sure. She probably was like my first ex... Very inactive in bed and now he has to face women of his age who had experienced guys with far more knowledge than himself and he's scared. Again, it's not what we say what matters, but we can prove. So go and tell him "if all that experience you have is true, then prove it. Have sex with me and show me all advance stuff I have never experienced before"

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile he will say he is depressed and how im always thunking about sex and dont respect his sorrow...🙄

[connemara_crocodile]

Well time to tell him it's not all about him, he needs to solve his own issues and you'll be there to help him, but that if he doesn't mind you he's going to lose you. You cannot wait forever and half a year is more than enough time.

[Asker]

@connemara_crocodile how do i say that without hurting him?

[connemara_crocodile]

Just be honest. You'll be there for him, but he has to be there for you.

[ImNoOne111]

Asking questions about such private things in past is never a good idea. But the best thing you can do is to forget about what you have heard

[ImNoOne111]

Its like asking him how he fucked his ex. Anything about past sexual life with the exception of his virginity status has a big chance of being something awkward

[Fromdusktilldawn]

if I ever get a girlfriend, I won't tell anything about it

[Pudsmucker]

It is none of your business. Guarantee because you much pain.

[SignedAutographs]

Virgin?

[Asker]

No way... why

[SignedAutographs]

You make it sound likee you're one

[Asker]

No im not wtf

[Anonymous]

Sometimes ignorance is bliss