I blew 5 guys in one night and it effects my love life. How do I deal with it?

One very drunk night in the students club, I lost a bet and had to give a blowjob for half an hour. I accepted it cause there was this guy I had a crush on, and I thought I could choose him and I'd just blow him for half an hour. He treated me pretty rough and wanted me to blow him harder and faster and he came in 2 minutes. Then apparently the deal was that I had to keep blowing new guys until the half hour was over. I was really drunk and they pressured me and I just went for it. I ended up blowing the 5 biggest douchebags in a row. Afterward I felt horrible, the story is still going around in other student clubs as well and it fucked with me psychologically. I literally didn't want any relationship for a long time after and went from one one night stand to the other. I only chose bad guys who treated me like a slut cause that's how I thought I had to behave. Every guy that knew about that night and asked for a blowjob, I'd just agree and suck him off. I thought owning my mistake was the best I could do. Only recently one guy finally convinced me that I should start something serious with him. I feel great now, but everyone thinks he is a loser now and they say our relationship is a joke. Why do people keep thinking bad of us?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • its 2018 so of course, you can do whatever you want as long as it doesn't hurt anybody. But its clear that you get hurt when you do such things (being easily available). If you would be fine with shits about you going on, then you can suck even 100 guys in one night. But again, you get hurt when people talk about you doing such a thing. I can see you also wanna feel appreciated and precious considering the guy wants something serious with you, and that makes you feel great. That implies what? YOU ARE HAPPY WHEN PEOPLE TREAT YOU PROPERLY. These days, people can sleep around, have friends with benefits, multiple sexual partners at the same time, such a million guys who are friends with each other etc. But then there is only disrespect following them. You wonder why people talk bad about him choosing you? Bcs they don't respect your behavior. They are thinking, we all can play with her for free and you give her commitment and loyalty? Whos gonna pay $100 for a free ride. But again, its disrespect for your behavior, not you. So from now on, think whatever you do sexually shows your value. Nobody calls you giving your boyfriend a blowjob. But its a problem when you give it to anybody

    • ahh way too many typos.. I hope you get my point tho

    • It sums up pretty much what I wanted to write but I think that the asker should have had control over who's gonna get a bj and not have given up easily to other men who were not involved in bet because she was not in her senses. Anyway it's her life and her decisions so that's why I agree with your opinion and not typing the same thing

  • Get yourself tested ASAP and stop doing things that make you feel that way.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think you should have a love life.
    Pump and dump and jerks who just want to get laid are about all you're worthy of.

    You gross me out. Anyone who'd EVER do something like that.
    I don't think ANY quality guy or anyone who want a quality person and/or a romantic relationship or marriage should ever date you.

    You are disgusting. That's the kind of stuff I'd expect from a prostitute. That's an intimate act. You did it to 5 freaking strangers... oh, excuse me, one you knew and 4 strangers.

    That's awful.
    I hope you never find love. Too many high quality girls out there for anyone with value to waste on you.

    In case I didn't already say it, that is freaking disgusting, I can't believe a girl would actually do that. You're damaged goods.

    • Oh and ps, I agree. That guy is a loser. What guy of any quality and value would settle for some ****** like you. I hope he's a man whore and a piece of sh*t than it would make more sense to me. All the quality guys need to get quality girls. WAY too many quality girls out there to waste it on you. You are almost a full time prostitute already, why not just take that last step and begin the profession worthy of you.

    • in the big picture, I am on the same page with you and thats why I am staying a virgin. But dear, u are only able to say things to her when u never ever do one night stand, not even once in your life or have fwbs either.

    • @Vanessa_01 Guess what. I haven't.

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  • You and your boyfriend should consider packing up and moving to new place where you won't be judged for your past.
    My advice would be to quit drinking completely, pull yourself together and move on with your life.
    Good luck.

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  • You did this to yourself. That being said, I can't believe this is real. Go away.

  • Five guys eh? I can't even more than one hotdog in a week.

  • Why would anyone have positive thoughts about your relationship when you went out of your way to convince them that you only want casual sex with every random guy you meet? All you can do is build a new reputation with your actions.

    Extra points if you change your name & move to a new city.

  • Move to a new town where nobody knows your history.
    What happens in college usually stays in college. It's a bit extreme of it's following you into your 30s.

  • You just need to leave all that in the past, and focus on this new guy. He might be really good for you.

  • He is a loser but meh hope it works out

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    • EXACTLY!

    • @Miristheiss ikr. SMH

  • You'd better get tested for STDs asap

  • If this actually happened which I doubt you acted like a slut. If you just made this post for attention you are just another troll.

    • Yaaaaassss

  • Tune in. same time, same place, next week for another exciting episode of stuff that never haaaaaapppeennnnnned

  • Well tbh if you blew 5 guys (not the restaurant lol) then how do you expect people NOT to think of you as a slut? Like peer pressure is one thing but there are limits to what you agree to. You may be different now but in other people's eyes they probably just view you based on what you did that day.

  • Surely nobody is this stupid?
    Oh they pressured you? Grow up you child!

  • you could've said no.

  • He sounds like a good guy. Don't let your past ruin something that's good. Don't look back only forward.

  • cool story bro...

  • Well there will always be consequences to ones actions. As I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that your actions were pretty stupid. Maybe you need help to get over it because I am sure you will not hear the end of this.

  • Did you swallow all 5?

  • There is a huge stigma about sexually experienced women as well as saying no. They think that you prefer being promiscuous

  • Is this a troll?

  • You don’t deserve a love life

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