I brought up me ex during sex, bad idea?

My boyfriend took his pants off and his dick was soft. I was upset about it and told him my ex was never “soft” around me. He gets really angry about it and tells me don’t ever mention another’s guy name like that during that time because it felt gay. He was angry very angry where I became scared.

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  • Would you be pissed off if your boyfriend brought up his ex before he was about to have sex with you? Bringing up exes in a relationship is a bad sign , especially for guys , No guy wants to be compared to a girl’s ex , he doesn’t even want to picture her with another guy , most guy’s are turned off by that and feel like she doesn’t value him and feels like he doesn’t compare to her ex , so yes I can see why he got pissed off because it is disrespectful, your ex is an ex for a reason , meaning exempt them from your life, before getting into a New relationship , When people hold on to their exes they aren’t ready to enter a new relationship , they are still holding on to something that is no longer there, if your ex was so great , he wouldn’t be your ex period , Sadly by you mentioning your ex to your boyfriend might actually push your boyfriend to cheat on you , I dated a girl that talked about her ex to me like he was this amazing person so I ended up fucking her best friend , because even her best friend thought it was fucked up that she was comparing me , if you want a relationship to last
    You need to remove your ex out of your life completely or your partner is going to feel unvalued by you and feel compared , it’s disrespectful

Most Helpful Guy

  • Simple answer... yes, bad idea. you shamed him.

    Rethink your communication. Always communicate with loving emotion,

    You communicated from... shame, spite, envy, regret... you projected more negativity onto him.

    As well... this brings in a slew of other issues talking about exes in a positive way...

    You now ned to correct this by negating your ex before him, so think about that... so your boyfriend is elevated and the ex is diminished.

    You also lowered your value, this relationship may be fried toast given the frailty of modern relationships and emotions, unless you all willing to work through it.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Yes, bad idea. Wait until he asks about your ex. And then tell the truth. My boyfriend asked if my ex was bigger, and I told him he was a lot bigger. But he was the one to ask, so I don't feel bad about answering. If you don't want to know, then don't ask.

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  • Let's see how we can explain this.

    Let's suppose you are okay going down on him, but you don't want him to cum in your mouth. Or maybe he suggests anal sex and you think the idea is gross.

    So you tell him, "No!" and he responds, "Wow! My ex was a real woman and she did anything she could to please me. I guess you haven't reached that point yet!"

    How's that make you feel?

    Or maybe the next time, he talks about your boobs being small like a lttle girl's flat chest. Good feelings?

    Do you have an ounce of empathy in your body, or are you just trolling?

  • Obviously.

  • Why the fuck would you do that? no joke, I would have ended the relationship right then and there. That is seriously fucked up. That is just like telling him he is a piece of shit, and kicking him square in the balls.
    You are disgusting.

  • That was a really dumb thing to say to your boyfriend. I hope you apologized.

  • Wow. That's was just not smart. Hopefully you learned a lesson.

    In answer to your question, yes, that was a cataclysmically bad idea.

  • Yes, you f**ked up big time.

    To run down your man by sexually belittling him in comparison to another man you had sex with?

    Wow.

    That was idiotic. I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't just break up.

  • Duh... on a scale of 1 to 10, that was probably a minus-5 as the dumbest thing you could ever say to a guy.

  • That was an incredibly insensitive thing to say. I don;t blame him for being upset.

  • Exes are not a good thing to bring up during sex (or ever).
    He did have to get so upset the way he did. He could have been polite about it and asked you not to mention your ex again.

  • Drawing negative comparisons with an ex isn't a good idea.

  • Comparison is the worst. You comparing your ex or exes to your present boyfriend, bad idea. That hurts. No wonder he reacted they way he did.

  • How would you feel if you took your clothing off and your boyfriend looked at you and said “my ex was never dry when she saw me” you’d be annoyed too well he’s no different.


    I can never understand why people bring up an ex anyway they’re an ex for a reason.


    Unless your ex is insane and may hurt your new partner then there’s no need to speak of them.

  • I'm not surprised, why would you say that, how would you like it if a guy said his ex had bigger tits

  • Not the best way to start off if you're wanting him to get hard

  • 😩😩😩 oh boy!!!

  • That was a bad idea. What if he brought up his ex about something like that to u

  • A lot of guys have a ton of hidden insecurities. If he’s that defensive then A. He is insecure about size or B. Has bi or gay feelings

    they often display as anger because guys don’t want to face them as any form of truth

  • GO TO HELL YOU WHORE

  • Lol you can’t be that stupid

  • Smooth.

    What the encore?

    Do you ask if you can take a dump on his face?