I but lingerie but my boyfriend doesn’t compliment me anymore :( ?

I just turned 27 2 months ago and my boyfriend 30. We been together for 10 years now. I know things can get boring during sex so I try to spice things up. I don’t consider my self ugly or have a ugly body. I’m Latina 5’3-5’4 and when he meet me I was around 110-115 over the years I gain 10 pounds and now im happily 120. I also like going to the sex store with him and buying new toys. I introduce that to him and always when I buy stuff online I try to buy at least one nice lingerie or a bra and thong set, I only use g string or thong. He always use to compliment my body on certain things but now he just sees I got new lingerie and doesn’t say anything when he use to at least ask if it was new. :( . I used this red lingerie this past weekend and he didn’t compliment me at all. I even showed him a new stocking I bought before putting them on and had to ask if he liked it. I don't know if I should just stop wasting my money on things like this.
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Time to move on or?
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I don’t know how to start this conversation tho. Like before sex? Maybe eating? Unfortunately he the type to maybe get bothered and say “ im killing the moment “ or say that I’m take everything wrong on what he tells me.
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  • I've never been super into lingerie myself, but even if he was, it will lose its impact over time. Why not talk to him about it? Maybe he'd love to see you in something else? There's a whole host of "traditional" sexy costumes (French maid, '50s nurse, school girl, cheerleader, school teacher, nun, etc.), but maybe he'd find it hot if you were dressed like a modern nurse (in scrubs), or a yoga instructor, or a tiny miniskirt, or a hippy chick with a tube top and jeans shorts - or whatever it is he may find sexy.

    Just doing variations on lingerie is kind of like serving him variations of steak dinners - he may love steak, but after 658 steak dinners in a row, he'll be ready for a burrito, or spaghetti, or turkey, or even a hot dog.

    I give you props for making an effort - really - but a different approach may well get you the attention you're seeking. I have no idea what he would prefer, but there's probably something he likes that he's never told you about just because it never occurred to him, or because he thought it might seem weird. Now is the time to bring it up.

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  • Does he like lingerie? For me, it is a complete waste of money. Lingerie does nothing for me. You know what does? Naked. Give me a naked woman over a woman with anything on... every single time. Also, is he supposed to compliment you every single time? if you are in a LTR or married, things are going to eventually slow down. Doesn't mean it isn't as good. I was with my ex-wife 25 years. Sex was never an issue with us. We knew exactly what we liked and I could get her off at any time. To me, that was much better then early in the relationship.

    • He be the one asking me what I’m wear. He likes lingerie.

    • Being naked ain’t no fun. Getting naked is fun

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  • I doubt gaining 10 lbs. would make any difference. He may simply be tired from too much work, or stressed, or lazy. It is difficult to know if you are attractive without a photo, but the way you describe yourself you are.

    • You may suggest the two of you go for couple's therapy and see how he reacts.

  • Stop wasting money on lingerie and lose 10 pounds, he’ll notice that

    • You really think is the weight tho?

    • I don't know, all I know is if you want to be complemented on your looks this is what guys actually care about

    • I’ll dm and tell me if I really look that bad

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  • Talk to him about it and be open and honest.

  • Unfortunately this happens sometimes.. people get bored of the same routine.. it probably not you at all and he is still very much in love with you but the sex might be getting "old" for him.. good for you for trying to spice thing up. Maybe have a talk with him and see if there is something you both can do to bring the excitement back..

  • It might be the 10 pounds or things are just getting boring for him even though you are trying.

  • He sounds Bored... sorry

  • Things can change with time but for me, sexy lingerie is always a turn on. If he doesn't appreciate you in it, you can wear it for me and I would be happy to compliment you.

  • I’m curious about the before and now. 120lbs is not a lot at all

    • Just saw the update. What conversation?

    • Some people are suggesting to talk to him

  • He might think it's exhausting to compliment you over and over, probably doesn't want to sound like a canned response because it would feel less genuine. The face that he hasn't left you after 10 years should be proof he thinks you're beautiful

    Imagine someone asking you how your food is even though you already said it's good and have been ordering the same dish for a while, it would get annoying. Personally lingerie doesn't do anything for me other than get in the way
    but your boyfriend may be different just communicate with them because we don't know him

    • I’m the one to ask for compliments but here and there would be nice especially if is been 10 years. Everytime he gets a haircut I tell him he looks good i bet he feel good and rather have me compliment him that not.

  • It's not you, it's the 10 year thing.