I can’t escape my abusive boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I meet my boyfriend 4 years ago we started a relationship fast we escalated and we decided to move in together he was amazing, caring, and supportive. I asked him when we first met if he ever gets angry and he told me when i get angry you can see the veins in my forehead but i would not scream or hit any person i get angry and chill. He lied. He gets angry and he beats me he gets angry over nothing. I am so scared of him and so dependant because he took everything. He abuses me so terribly he searched my phone and jumped to a conclusion that i cheated on him and he asked my which fingers i used to call the man (i am not having an affair and it was not a man’s number) he decided i was cheating and he grabbed the fingers i used to call this “man” and he twisted my fingers to the back so hard my fingers actually broke and he wouldn’t even let me scream because he is scared our neighbors will hear him. I had to cry in silence. I can not explain the pain i felt it was awful and i had to lie about it in the hospital and he didn’t even bother to call help i had to go alone. I hate him so much i really want out but i’m so scared. I fear for my life.

[doopayo]

💕You are so strong and powerful‼️You will get there this I’ll make a thread on this comment that includes useful information as well as resources


if you can I suggest try to get evidence on him that you can take to courtEvidence you should include: Any formal report or letter from your hospital, nurse, doctor, therapist or masseuse to attest to your mental or physical state. They can also be witnesses to an incident e. g. your partner shouting at you in the hospital or accompanying you to a checkup. Any bill, conviction, incidence report, or warning by police to your abuser Any criminal case against your abuser or one that your abuser has lodged against you Letter from any organisation that supports survivors of domestic violence i. e. shelter, law firm, or even a support helpline Letter from any organisation that supports people in hardship i. e. social services Any other official report, document, or evidence that can provide supporting evidence of the abuse you faced or anyone else has faced from your abuser.

[doopayo]

Bellow here are some safety rules you should keep in mind of to stay safe when trying to gather evidence.
* Record without arousing suspicion, your personal safety is always the most important thing;
* When recording or collecting evidence, always think of a backup excuse in case someone you do not trust questions you about it;
* Save the files online, under an unobvious name; you can save them on email accounts, Dropbox. com & Google Drive. You can also password protect your documents offline — although be very careful and name things inconspicuously so as to not arouse suspicion.
* Save the files offline, preferably in several copies in several places; your computer is likely to store ‘recent files’ history. Make sure to remove them from the list, or to deactivate this option entirely. It’s very easy to do! Here you can read on how to do it on Mac and Windows.

National domestic violence hotline website:
https://www.thehotline.org/
National domestic violence #: 1-800-787-3224

National dating abuse hotline: [phone]
National dating abuse website: www. love is respect. org

National center for victims of crimes:
1-202-467-8700
www.victimsofcrime.org

National resource center on domestic violence:
1-800-537-2238 http://www.nrcdv.org/ or http://www.vawnet.org/

[loves2learn]

Call this number right now: https://www.thehotline.org/


You can get out. Leave in the middle of the night. Go to a shelter. DO NOT TELL HIM. His behavior is escalating and he could go over the edge at any moment.

[Mark83]

It's best to get professional help in this case. There are organizations you can call who are specialized in dealing with domestic abuse and able to help you. They can tell you what to do and where to go, and they know how to communicate without putting you at risk. Health workers are trained to look out for this kind of stuff so there is no need to lie about an injury that you got from your partner. Next time you see a doctor, tell them what's going on and they can connect you with the right people. Some even ask you questions on the phone that you can answer discretely without raising suspicion.

Best of luck to you!

[EaterPeter]

When you go out just don't go back. Where is your family. Report to police, file restrainig order? So he cannot be around you. How dependant are you on him? That doesn't matter. You will need time to heal. But get away from him asap. Possibly with legal action against him. You will be doing favor to self and bunch of other women.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for MHO!

[slatyb]

Get the hell out before he kills you. Leave everything behind if you have to.

[Kas19]

Do you have any friends or family that you can live with for a bit? You need to get out of there immediately. It will only get worse from here. You didn't deserve that. I'm so sorry.

[dudeinohio]

When you went to the hospital you should have said your injury was a result of abuse. After he hits you again. Call police.

[SirJohn42]

When he's sleeping crush his nuts with a baseball bat. No man has a right to hurt a woman like that.
he doesn't deserve to have balls either. Im so against men bullying women or beating them.

[SirJohn42]

Dm me if you want.

[Valnac]

Press charges and get a restraint order.

[Jmmmfi4]

yeah you need to get out of this situation immediately leave immediately everything else will work itself out

[Jack4sparrow]

Do you have any Male relatives that can deal with him?

[Anonymous]

Is he facing some sexual tension, or getting inadequate sex?
This seems like symptoms of that.
Also, the quality of a new relationship eventually declines over time.