I can’t finger myself what to do?

[Anonymous]

So me and my long distance girlfriend were having phone sex and i’ve never fingered myself before. It’s like i tried to put a tampon in or finger myself but it was always impossible for me. Even thinking about penetration makes me shake. Like she put a whole sex toy in while i can't even stick a finger in and i feel like i can't masturbate. I cry because of that like if something is wrong with me. I dont know what to do like im so scared of penetration but i wanna get over it? Please help?

[Madhatter920]

Probably not the answer you want, but... Just do it. We conquer our fears by facing them. It's not easy, I know, so take it slow. You'll get there. Push yourself. Desensitization will kick in. We humans are very adaptable creatures, when we want to be.

[Asker]

No like even the thought of it makes me sick and i can't even stick a tampon in

[Madhatter920]

Yeah, I understand that. Just have to push through it.

[Asker]

Okay what would you suggest me to do?

[Madhatter920]

Well, I'm obviously no expert on female masturbation, but I imagine you'd start with getting into a relaxed state. Prepare yourself in any way you feel comfortable with to get you in the mood, then focus on stimulating your clitoris. Once you're well-lubricated, relax your muscles and try inserting just your finger tip. I know that'll be uncomfortable for you, but do it anyway. With your other hand, continue to stimulate your click. Try your best to relax and get accustomed to the feeling of your fingertip being there. When you get more comfortable, insert your finger a little further in. Repeat that process until you get accustomed to it. I don't expect you to be able to get your whole finger in on your first try. Just keep working on it, whenever the mood arises, and if you push yourself, you'll get there.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Anxiety about penetration can make you tense up, which can make penetration difficult or impossible.
If any kind of penetration is painful, even just a finger or tampon, you might have vaginismus, or another similar condition. It's worth having a talk with an ob gyn to check what's going on, and get some professional advice

[Asker]

Yes any kind is painful

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Then I would definitely recommed seeing an ob gyn

[Anonymous]

I myself also feel not able to with 10 y experience, maybe you should just use sth like brush or a banana, fingers don't work for me. also I find some vibrant wand better than a vibrator

[Asker]

No like even the thought of that makes me sick but i wanna get over jt

[Opinion Owner]

eh, then if it make you feel sick, just please what, not that much har, you'r not a dude

[Nimphfromtx]

Is Your hymen is probably still intact?

[Asker]

Yep it is

[Nimphfromtx]

Unfortunately it’s not much around that. I don’t really have any good advice I didn’t have a Hyman in my first time having sex. I played softball it’s common for girls active in sports. but it was still a little uncomfortable the first time. It’s just kind of one of those things when you’re ready it will happen.

[Am_and_Pm]

U can actually get a vibrator. A small one, from the sound of it. Use lube. And think happy thoughts.

Maybe this could work...🤤

[The_Maphio]

Nothing that only you and you alone can fix there.
You have to overcome your unjustified (as most fears are) phobia step by step. It will be uncomfortable, at least until you manage to get somewhat inside and can concentrate on the sensation. Fairly sure you'll get over it if you'll be constant with it.

[Wowie101]

I think you need to push your boundaries with yourself until you become comfortable with yourself. It is easier to let somebody else do it but I think the problem is psychological. My advice is make it a point to do it every night till you feel comfortable with it and then it will just fall into place

[sidh1]

In think you can start with sexually rubbing yourself

Do it a let.. You May use some lube as well

Make yourself really horny and May be even you feel ready and we inside, slowly slide in a finger

Be slow and try to enjoy it

Hope that would help

[Asker]

I rub myself but its like not enough.

[es20490446e]

Simply take as much time as needed.

[JamieLoves]

See an Ob / GYN

[In_Trance]

Ask someone else to do it for you

[Asker]

Yea i want my girlfriend to do it for me

[OddBeMe]

you're not finding the clit. look for the macaroni.

[msc545]

Maybe try a vibrator?

[princeofromance]

That is a problem you have to work out for yourself. I am bowing out on this one.

[preciouswilson]

Not masturbate

[Anonymous]

Cool story bro!

[Anonymous]

There's no need to do it. You are fortunate female

[Anonymous]

trolly

[Am_and_Pm]

😂🤣😂