Guys, I can't get my boyfriend hard. Am I not hot enough?

I just had a 5 day holiday with my boyfriend and for the first 3 days he was able to release 4 or 5 times each day but over the next few days, even during sex or foreplay, he was unable to even produce precum and kept saying he was "spent". It made me feel super insecure and now I am worried that I can not turn my boyfriend on. Am I right to feel this way?
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  • It's not Your fault dear its the estrogen in the food and water We consume. The way a man produces testosterone is the pituitary gland in the brain tells the testes to produce more testosterone. The pituitary gland doesn't check for testosterone but it checks for the amount of estrogen in His blood stream. A mans body does not produce estrogen it converts testosterone into estrogen. Now if a mans food and water is loaded with estrogens then when the pituitary gland checks for testosterone it will assume His levels are high so it will shut down testosterone production. You will either have to watch His diet and make sure He consumes no soy or better yet look up every ingredient to be certain and once that's taken care of His hormone levels will rise. If that's to much of a pain in the ass then get online and look up a company that sells research chemicals and get Your lab rat some exemestan to prevent testosterone from converting to estrogen which will force the body to mass produce testosterone or get Him some Cialis which is like 45 dollars for a two month supply. The best one I currently use is blue sky peptide and their Cialis works like a charm.

    • Thank you for your comment. he only eats one small meal a day, he is trying to stay skinny, maybe we can talk about food and consider getting him into a better diet. Thanks for your suggestions too! I will look those up.

    • He needs to eat more red meat and protein like eggs. Starving himself is not the answer and it can actually slow down testosterone production. Get Him a pair of blue tooth head phones and just go walking 1 to 2 hours a day as a way to spend time with each other and to exercise then He can eat healthier.

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  • Your insecurity is understandable, but you are over thinking it. It's not your fault.

    Such things happen due to a variety of reasons. You said that he was able to release four to five times in the first 3 days.

    So, probably his body needs some rest. There's no need for either of you to feel bad.

    Even he might be ashamed of failing to get an erection, you need to reassure him that it's not his fault.

    Have you read the Zahir by Paulo Choelo? That novel says a few sentences about this. It can happen with anyone.

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  • It's almost certainly not a problem with you. A penis is a body part that can fail, and just as it will sometimes get hard when you want it it, it sometimes won't when you do. Especially when it's taxed more than it usually is, it then needs time to rest. You don't want him to push so hard he hurts himself, do you? Fatigue, both physical and mental, can do a number on a person, and on their various body parts. Slow it down for a little bit, and he should be good as new before long.

    • Hahaha at My age after 3 times in one week I'm begging for mercy because yes its very taxing and sometimes We need to rest.

    • Okay then, I really didn't know that a guy needed rest too! in the movies and tv shows it always seems like the guy can do it when ever and wherever. Thanks for filling me in

    • Glad to help. And it's important to remember that TV lies just as much about men as it does women (which kind of raises some questions about who's writing it, no?).

  • Jesus, what the fuck do you want from the poor guy. You need to learn about how men work. Unlike women, you can't just keep going and going. Even when you are young there are limits.

    • Sorry about it , I can't help the way I feel

  • Not your fault. Was he not aroused or just not productive? The supply of semen is not infinite.

  • May be he has a medical issue. Or stress or anxiety.

  • No. Absolutely not sweetie. The beast way too get him ready for rounds 5,6,7, and 8 is to feed him protien and just act like you're not finished and start off slow and maybe concentrate on yourself and you're own waves of pleasure and he will come back around!!

  • It means he was physically and mentally tired. Imagine a full day at a theme pak or the beach. Yyou go home supe tired. But this is SEX so we can do it a bit longer hehehe. He probably needs rest so that his body can recuperate. Did you know that for a man cumming too can lead to medical problems? His body probably wants to prevent that.

    • Thank you so much! I just remember he did not sleep well on any of the days and was constantly saying he was tired, he also was not eating much and I think that was all due to the fact that this was the first time we had spent more than one night with eachother, so, he was super anxious. I really felt it was an emotional reason, like, he had lost feelings for me, I am so grateful for answer and yes, his body was probably telling him to rest and eat up. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

    • Oh yeah its DEFINITELY that lol. He needs some good food and sleep, followed by encouragement next time. Make him feel seriously loved and conected on am emotional level. I bet the bro is more low-key anxious after not getting it up, so be supportive and there shouldn't be amy problem. Dont expect problems like these right away becaise chances are he noticed and may feel like he failed you. Sex isn't about the performance only, be crative amd sincere to remind him of that and soon you'll both be back in action.

    • Hey actually 15 minutes of sex drains You as much as a full day at the park or theme park in the hot sun.

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  • Oh, you're def. hot enough

    He just might be having performance anxiety

    It happens

    • Thank you for your reply. We have known eachother for over 12 years, so, it does make me feel abit sad that he may have been having performance anxiety, but, I guess, if it was that, it is something I should probably help him with, instead of, making it all about me. Thank you for saying I am hot enough. I felt ugly after he couldn't get turned on but, reading your comment has made me change my view on things. Thanks again.

    • Of course i don't know what you look like so, i was just essentially saying "im assuming you are"

    • No idea how You look dear but performance anxiety is a big issue with men. Men also have a lot of anxiety about their size and its a huge issue for men whom don't have a huge cucumber in their pants. Those men also stress out over not being able to please their partner also. You really have no idea how much pressure is put on men and yes We do worry about not being good enough practically all the time. So don't make this all about You because more than likely You are good enough for Him its just anxiety. Also sex really is quite draining and if You hit Him up quite often it can really start to tire a man out because We can't be 20 years old forever unfortunately.

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  • is he into guys?

    • I am not sure

  • Guys have bad days same like you girls do... also it is hard to tell , are you hot or not as we dont know how you look and what you doing when you are in bed with him.. but dont worry... we guys have sometimes "monthly days" aswell so i am sure you good.. just let him rest a bit ha ha

    • Hahaha what's funny is He had sex 15 times in 3 days and She never thought that maybe He was exhausted and needed some rest because His poor little soldier could no longer stand at attention. Jesus I love sex but 15 times in one day I'd be begging for mercy quite literally.

    • Opps 15 times in 3 days would kill me for sure.

    • No wonder then lol.. girl is werry active...😍

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  • Certainly looks that way.

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