I can’t rech orgasm with partner. What should I do?

To be honest I’ve never reached one with any of my partners. I can do it if I masturbate alone but I just can’t get it with someone.
I discussed about it with my partner a while ago. We masturbated together but I couldn’t finish and we decided that I need just time and some day we’ll get there.
It’s been couple of months and we haven’t tried again. We have sex, he finishes. We go to sleep. Maybe I’m just asking too much and that’s how it is.

Should I be more vocal about it? I’m really shy and insecure about this because it upset my first boyfriend in the past and second stopped half way through because me getting wet would ruin his bedsheets.
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  • So every woman is different to start but my experience is most people don't understand how sex truly works. What i mean by that is sex is 20% physical and 80% mental. Your brain is your ultimate sexual organ and if it's not properly stimulated then all the physical stuff just doesn't work.

    Not to go to a dark place but the concept of rape really helps to understand this. If someone is forced into sex they might have a slight physical reaction but they get no pleasure from it. This is because there state of mind is dealing with the fact they are being abused. If you look at someone with a rape fantasy however it's completely different. The physical act of forcing someone is the same but the state of mind is the complete opposite and so they do get pleasure from it.

    So with that said for people who have a hard time with getting off, and yes this applies to guys too. The trick is to find what simulates you mentally. This can be a long list of different things and there are many different ways to go about this but once you figure out how to get the right state of mind the physical part becomes easy and you find orgasms are not hard at all to achieve.

  • If you have the right sex partner orgasms will become easier to achieve and more frequent.

    Many women deny their ability to reach orgasms through vaginal intercourse

    You should incorporate masterbation into your vaginal sex life

    Many women find it much easier to achieve orgasms during vaginal I intercourse while massaging their own cliterouse
    Especially in the doggie position

    I've also noticed that oral stimulation of your clitterouse combined with steady circular messaging of your G-Spot, located in your Virginia, behind your clitterouse, has always been a straight and direct path to hard and intense multiple orgasms for the women in my love love life

    Can't imagine failure there...

    I've also noticed that the acts of giving oral and/or annal penitration can bring women orgasmic success

    There must be a hundred dffernt ways to rush the water out of your well. Finding the right man who cares should be step one...

    I can't imagine sexual adventure without your orgasms being the focus of my attention

Most Helpful Girls

  • Try doing it when your on your own. You will get to discover what you like/don’t like & what gets you going. I had my first orgasm by myself. Didn’t have one sexually till my third sexual partner.

  • Try a small vibrator on your clit while he's in you, it'll help out a lot! He can even hold it on you, seriously with the right one a small vibrator can be powerful and enjoyable :)

  • well, some girls are like this. i'm like this too. i learned to stop worrying about that and too focus on him pleasure

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    I can’t rech orgasm with partner. What should I do?
  • It sounds like you’ve been with piss poor lovers

  • you should find a partner that cares about your orgasm it seems that its your partners who only care about their orgasm and then once they get theirs they just ignore yours.. if you wanted to reach an orgasm with a partner try finding someone that you love and that also cares about your orgasm more than theirs.

  • psychcentral.com/.../

    hope this helps.

  • First, type "orgasm" in the search bar here on GaG and reed the twenty or so variants of this question. Then, ask it in a NEW way.

  • It's not only you... only about 30% of women can achieve orgasm from sexual intercourse (vaginal orgasm)

    The rest they can only achieve orgasm from clitoral stimulation... the most easy way to do it is let him give you oral (go down on you)

    I'm assuming that he never gave oral before right?

    • He has a couple of times. I do enjoy it but I don’t get quite there

    • It seems he's either inexperience or doesn't care if you have an orgasm Try to "encourage" him to make you have an orgasm because being sexual frustrated is not healthy

  • When you go to fill the bathtub put your pussy under it

  • change the dick.

  • One possibility is that he (his dick) might be small and very thin... So you are not getting sufficiently stretch ing...
    Another is that you are not arousing properly. Try to do more foreplay until starts dreeping

  • No. He should keep going until your satisfied.
    You can help by telling him what you want.

  • You should keep searching for the guy who is able to make u reach orgasm or you should advise ur partner for viagra or something like that. And it depends on foreplay too

  • .. Organsm normally dont appear only because of physical stimulstion. You are simply not in the perfect mood or situation.. Find out your fetish. Do you love your partner? If not then no wonder.. You should like him very much. And it shouldn't be a sex only relationsship...

  • Don't masturbate for a month.