I disgust by my boyfriend’s sexual past. Is it normal?

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My boyfriend told me last night he slept with quite a lot of women. Some of them are his girlfriends, most of them are friends with benefits and one night stand. He told me before he met me he was with this girl they are like friends with benefits for four months. But he is the only person I ever had sex with. I feeling very insecure right now. I think I am not enough for him and maybe one day he will cheat on me because I believe this kind of people doesn’t have ability to control themselves. And every time I imagine he’s gonna have sex with others I will have panic attack ( I’m suffering from depression). I just wondering is it normal for guy to have so many long term f*** buddies. 
And is that mean he changed since he is in a relationship with me.

jul4a · Accepted Answer

I think you should also move on if you do not feel comfortable with him having past girlfriends with whom he had sex with. The truth is he will be and has been comparing every single one of his sexual relationships to you and weighing the pros and cons and in the future it could not turn out well because he may think you are not good enough

It is a terrible and cruel thing and if you are worried I would leave. ... especially if you are concerned about cheating, it is definitely something he could do. You really deserve better than this and you have given your [virginity] to him, all of your pureness and innocence, and he might play around with it for awhile and then leave and do the same to another girl.

you deserve better - someone who is always there for you and someone whom will claim you to be theirs and theirs only, and not compare you.

FutureTrunks · Accepted Answer

Aw man. When I tell you I know EXACTLY how you feel. There’s only one person I’ve ever loved so far and he’s the only person I’ve ever been with. He’s been with several women while we were in high school... we weren’t dating... and I had to witness it all. I love him and I know I do but sometimes I get scared, skeptical, etc because I feel like I’m not ever enough for him.

Females like us , we hold value to sex. We’re not just giving it to anybody so when we have a man who is the complete opposite... it’s scary and it awakens insecurities we didn’t even know existed. Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings because he needs to know how you feel and he’ll be able to properly help you in the situation. The things that happened are his past. You’re his present and that’s the only thing you should focus on

OjosOscuros2 · Accepted Answer

It's enough to say that his sexual past isn't normal to you and therefore you are in your right to experience disgust. Personally, the majority of decent guys I've met aren't man whores and they have standards for who they share an intimate act with. The root of your problem is not you and don't let people here make you think that. The root of the problem is that you two have different views on what sex means. It is the time to weigh what each of you value and decide if the relationship is really worth continuing or if it will hit a dead end eventually. Think and talk about it.

Inari · Accepted Answer

I just want to let you know I understand what you are feeling and it's hard to not doubt he might lose interest in you in the future but if you can try not to think on things that are bad and try not to put yourself down or compare yourself to his past girls. He choose to tell you and I think if he had something to hide from you he wouldn't of opened up to you like this. It's a very good sign he told you. I think he really dose love you so I hope the best for you both.

vittle1999 · Accepted Answer

Honestly speaking there are two possibilities : first is he is a completely changed man after meeting you second is you are one of many and will not be his last. Prepare for the second possibility, hope for the first and deal with whatever comes your way.

Djsrmurmu · Accepted Answer

You should move on I Don't think so he loves you because now you r suffering from depression u said that and u don't want to lose him

I m guy n if I love or date someone truly thn I have sex with only my girlfriend

VintageLassie · Answer

I feel you 100% you have the right to know I’d say tell him how you feel and about panic attracts and your depression as I wourld react the same tbh (inbox me and I will talk in more dept on there hun) xx

Goodwifie · Answer

It's just a number sweet heart. Just remember who he is with.

Harrisontb · Answer

Don't risk your happiness for one relationship with a guy who may not be for you. Maybe he changed, maybe not. Often times it's not but who knows?

madhatter1971 · Answer

His past is just that. The issue is with you. You have to decide whether or not you can let it go. He could have not said anything at least he felt comfortable enough to tell you. If you can let the past go then you need to move on.

Tony_1693 · Answer

I'm sure my count is higher than his and I've never cheated on my girlfriend.

YingKim · Answer

You are in a difficult situation :/ I hope thing go good for you

Red88xxx · Answer

Well there's a chance he could change but. I'm not sure

michaelismyname313 · Answer

Yeah it's completely normal honestly you really shouldn't talk about your past sex

JenDB · Answer

Talk to him and tell him all of these, if he loves you he will hear you out.

TNMILFHUNTR · Answer

Ok here is the deal (and this is coming from a self admitted man hoar). I was just in a relationship for three years, and once she learned that I USED to fuck a lot of women, she constantly accused me. When I am in a relationship, I don't cheat. When I am not, I go for all the women of my type (40+) I can get. At one point, I had five regular women I was fucking. When I met her, I dropped them. Now, if you can give the guy a chance, do it. But if you can never think he is not fucking something else, then the relationship will never work. I finally gave up after three years of false accusations, we broke up, and I am back to it.

Waffles731 · Answer

just curious why did you ask me

DanielKaluuya · Answer

Just break up. The more someone gives themself away ( like it's nothing ) ; the more they will be incapable of love & control

That2kKid21 · Answer

I think you're overreacting. How is it his fault that he had sex with a bunch of girls before he even met you? It's not like he had the option. You weren't dating yet. So just let it go.

rapfan107 · Answer

That's the past focus on your future together , a lot of the time your past doesn't define the way you are at the moment that's why is behind you

gumballs · Answer

don't worry about it, and if it really bothers you break up with him and find someone new

NvrthNvrthPhvnk · Answer

well that’s his past , but if you wanna stay with him you can (at your own risk) , but if you really love him... tell him to cut them off or if he did ‘ tell him to show you proof and yeah that’s all what i can think of.