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Sexual Health I do not give head. But I insist he does. Am I selfish?
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The thought of giving head is disgusting. But I always need for my boyfriend to eat me. Am I being selfish? Guys, would you be ok with this? I told him from the begininng of the relationship that I don't give head.
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28 55I don't see it as being selfish, no. I think you did well by being upfront about it before you got together. Beyond that, there's not really much else anyone could ask for.
you better start. its fun lol
Its fun for him or you?
both gal lol
I don't see the point of giving head to a guy. Once he ejaculates, will he still want to penetrate?
i would suggest you learn to do it. then do it. and the look on his face will make you want to learn more about it and do it more. you'll really be proud of yourself lol sometimes hell still want to penetrate but the better you are the more satisfied hell be with it. so he won't care either way lol
"Sometimes hell still want to penetrate you." See thats the part I dont like. What if i do it and all he wants are bjs and he never wants my pussy again?
pussy will always be better than head. but head is a good substitution. he won't complain
What if he doesn't think that way?
omg...
Do you do it starting, middle, or ending of sex?
i do it when it starts. then he gets hard again. then he fucks me. then when he pulls out, you suck him til his orgasm is over.
well thats if you swallow
It's not selfish if the act of performing on him is disgusting to you. I would hate to have a girl go down on me if I knew she didn't like it. Some people just don't match up completely in the bedroom. At least you told him in the beginning.
Shit you crazy, I don't care how hot you are if your not giving me head the relationship won't work
Your comments lol make me laugh
I glad it makes you laugh
I would eat a girl out and finger her without her giving me head
but i like a girl whose all natural hairy down there it makes me
horny alone knowing i am making a girl feel good that's just me
I think it's a little selfish I personally like giving over receiving but I would never expect my man to do it if I didn't give it to. But if he's ok with it that's between you guys...
I don't thing you're being selfish, everyone has their boundaries. It's up to him if he's ok with it or not, but I wouldn't be. Oral sex (both ways) is the top of the bill for me, if I wouldn't get to eat a girl out or get BJ's in my relationship it would eventually get me to break up, or cheat in order to get it.
Well at least he knew going in that you didn't give head. So if he's okay with that that's his business. But yes I think you're being selfish, or at least overly squeamish.
Yes you're being selfish
If he's ok with him, that's fine but it's still selfish. I have to wonder if he wants head but is afraid to ask you to try because you said early on you don't want to
It's his own fault really. I don't date girls who don't give good head.
How would you know that before dating them?
Well that's incredibly immature and piggish.
@been_waiting - I'd find out within the first couple of dates @Insomniac11 - if not being willing to date someone who doesn't enjoy what I enjoy and who is sexually incompatible with me makes me "immature" and "piggish", so be it.
So you ask for oral on the first date? ... red flag
@been_waiting - No I never said that. I find that when a girl likes me a lot the topic of sex comes up, they bring it up first, and/or we usually end up having sex by the second date even if it doesn't. Us UK lot are a lot more relaxed about sex than you Americans.
I'd find it a red flag if the guy is asking sexual questions on the first one or two dates too. America? Uptight about sex? Dude really. America is extremely sexualized, publicly too. One night stands are extremely common, i'm just not into all that.
@been_waiting - the only people I ever see going on about virginity and "saving it for marriage" are Americans, I was just going off of that. Nobody does that here. Like I said they often bring it up themselves and they don't see it as a red flag the way you do.
Oh, well honestly in real life most people lose their virginity at 17 here. And I don't know I'm just wary of guys who want sex really soon. For good reason
Yes that is selfish, and no I wouldn't be ok with it. I'd be on to the next woman immediately. That sucks.
No, it doesn't suck.
Yes, you're not only selfish, you're an asshole.
I would not be ok with it because its an important part of at least foreplay. I would not require any girl to let me finish in her mouth but a good amount of oral is required foreplay for me. Its actually a deal breaker if not because the long term amount of frustration will eventually kill the relationship.
I get along best with girls that do it and it turns them on as well. That works out very well in terms of compatability and honestly I'd say thats 75% of girls or more.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to - but know you are up against the vast majority that will. Your best bet is trying to find a guy who doesn't want it. Those are the minority too. I actually don't know any that would not like that.
I mean... have u ever tried it? Im actually quite the opposite lol
Never tried it. The thought of putting my mouth on someone's genitals is nasty.
... oh wooow... i mean... but you like it when he does it... does he ask for it?
I told him from the beginning that I don't want to. He asked once. But I told him no. He said fine. He's ok with it. But I just feel selfish now.
You should lmaaoo!
I feel the same way about blowjobs. I never want to receive one but would be happy just to give cunnilingus.
@Asker, tbh it is your mouth, if you are unconfortable then dont do it.. there are other ways to please him bj r so overrated you know?
my wife don't give me head but I do eat her out before I put it in her there nothing wrong with that some women don't suck a man just like some men don't eat a woman out but she sucks him
Yes you are selfish, but there is option for him to leave you if he is not satisfied being with you, so yes you are selfish, but not wrong.
Really please.. will you message me in inbox and tell me what is so disgusting about men's genital. I am curious to know, I won't reply or ask questions, just want your opinion.
You're being selfish. I'm happy to give head, but wouldn't stand for hypocrisy like that.
If we break up, I don't want him running around calling me a hoe. He's my 3rd partner and we've been together for a year and a half. But girls get called hoes for everything these days.
Nobody is gonna think you're a ho for giving your boyfriend head after a year and a half. It's not like you sucked some stranger's dick in the bathroom at a bar. If you break up, he might call you a ho and tell people you gave him head, but people outside the situation will know that's just because he's hurt.
People call girls hoes all the time.
Then why worry about it?
Yeah, that's kind of selfish for one person to embrace you and you don't do the same. Maybe you should try to get into it slowly my start off with a hand job and the work your way up to it. Maybe watch him wash his balls or something.
I for one, don't like the idea of my dick being in a cavity MADE TO CRUSH AND TEAR UP FOOD FOR DIGESTION, so I'd have no problem with it. I also don't like the idea of putting my face into the same area that your piss comes out of. Just sayin.
Yes, you're being selfish.