I don't feel pleasure masturbating, so I never masturbate. Help?

I am a girl, I am eighteen years old and I almost never masturbate. When I sometimes feel horny, I try to, but I don't feel any pleasure doing it so I stop.
When I had a boyfriend his sex drive was crazy so we were fucking all the time it was possible, he even lost his bus once because of it, lmao. So sex is pretty enjoyable for me, having orgams also are not a problem BUT when I try to pleasure myself alone I can't, I don't know why. Sometimes when I'm almost getting my period like 1-2 weeks before, I get really horny and I try to do it but I always give up cause I can't. I've read so many suggestions online on how to do it and still that hasn't helped me.
What do you think I should do? How do you satisfy yourself? Do you have any tricks? Help me seriously, it's really frustrating that I can't pleasure myself when I really need it.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Trust me, if you dont feel pleasure by masturbating it is not that you are doing it wrong but that its not your thing. Everyone has preferences which includes where and how they want to pleasure themselves which means you just have to figure out what works for you. Do you perhaps have any fetishes or toys? Have you tried watching porn or read erotic literature? Have you just tried to imagine something while doing it?

    There is no right or wrong way about it, just the way that works for you so have fun experimenting.

    • I think erotic literature could work for me, maybe I should pay more attention to that and see what happens. Thank you so much :)

    • Thanks for the most MHO and I hope it helped ^_^

    • Have you ever considered mutual masturbation with someone

  • Get a nice high end clit vibrator. Wevibe sells great ones with remotes or can sync with our phone and u can lay back and relax or use in a tub or during sex and can control the vibe type, speed or intensity. Discreet and rechargeable. My woman loves them. Also get a nice vibrating cock ring and have him wear it during sex. Your clit will thank you during sex. Maybe try a warming or cooling clit stimulating gel or massage oil. A lot of nerves heighten.

Most Helpful Girls

  • there's a few things you could try. have you tried watching yourself in the mirror? or just make bath with flowers and candles and try in the bathtub. also, try different positions. i can lay on my belly and just squeeze my thighs together and it feels really good. but definitely try the mirror. and tap your clit lmao okay this is tmi haha

    • Ahahaha it's never tmi when I comes to female masturbation, thank you so much! I'll think of that :)

    • also try excersize, especially if you are having trouble getting there

  • I used to be the same way. I had a really hard time getting off while masturbating. Considering the fact that you are 18, I suggest buying a vibrator and trying that. It changed my life haha. Good luck!

    • I'm too shy to buy one but maybe when I move in to the big city I will be able to do that haha, thanks

  • hmm well how do you do it when you try? maybe you need to try something new or get some sex toys to help!

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  • Follow me if you want to discuss this.

    • I'm kinda shy that's why I'm anonymous... Sorry

    • @QueenofCups is a really good listener & discreet. So if you change your mind about following her, she can probably help you.

    • @B8527 I'll think :)

  • Have u tried using sex toys (like dildo or a vibator). Some girls can orgasm certain ways.

  • Sounds like a miserable life. Good luck, you're gonna need it.

    • Why miserable? At least I can get laid. Not sure you can with that attitude.

    • Pretty original.

    • Thanks.

  • Girls would tell you better than guys.

    • Yeah I know but it seems that I'm getting more answers from guys than girls

    • Its imagination , masturbating is depends on imagination , thinking about what you exactly like to doing with a guy & who is the person you like to doing some fun.

    • I do that but that only gets me more horny, it doesn't exactly give me pleasure. I guess I just like to be touched by other person onther than myself. But thanks.

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