I don't like it when my boyfriend looks at my vulva, what do I do?

So my boyfriend has had sexual intercourses with many women before. He's very in love with me, he always makes sures that he loves me but whenever he has the ability to look at my vulva, I get nervous and cross my legs so he's never actually seen it. My vulva lips kinda stick out and my clitoris is hooded and it just doesn't look like those vulvas you see in porns. He's probably seen "perfect" vagina lips before that are tucked in and don't stick out and I feel like vulvas like mine may be turning him off. Like maybe he's expecting my vulva to look good since he's seen such "perfect" vulvas before.

I don't want to bring this up and be seen insecure. What should I do?

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  • I think you should trust him that he finds it beautiful and not take away something he finds as beautiful. Have you considered that your vagina is perfect to him? Have you asked him to describe how he sees it? You can tell quickly if he loves it by how passionate he will describe it. The fact he loves to look is good proof already.

    There is no standard for how the vulva should look. There is no standard for the clitoris and hood should look or be situated. There are artificial and unrealistic standards but porn is not reality. It’s a lie. Stop giving porn any credibility. It’s a disgusting portrayal or fakery and superficial looks. It objectifies and rewires men and women away from appreciating each other’s body as natural. There is no “perfect” vagina because not one is the same as the next. Each woman is beautiful in her own right. Your unique body is signature and reflective of you only.

    Let him adore you and enjoy letting him cherish you and your body. Allow yourself to feel special, sexy, and beautiful.

Most Helpful Guy

  • The lips sticking out is a normal thing for many women. And clitoral hoods have many different looks. A lot of us guys really like it when the inner lips stick out beyond the outer lips. It is a fantastic turn on for many of us. You can't go through life hiding your vulva from the guys you have sex with! Just realize guys like vulvas in general and love some even more. And he may be one who is greatly turned on by yours. Just be proud of what you have and do not fear him enjoying looking at you!

Most Helpful Girl

  • you’re old enough to know that you should communicate with your partner

    • I don't want him to think I'm insecure

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  • Do not overthink it. If a guy gets to see a vulva they are thinking about the sex they are going to have. Guys will not compare what they see to other girlfriends. It is your body be proud of it. How is your sex life with him?

    • It's good but him seeing my vulva makes me nervous so I can't fully enjoy it. I'm usually on top of him so he won't see my vulva lips.

    • I don't think you have anything to be embarrassed about. Does he walk around naked? Does he mind being naked in front of you? Do you think he likes things trimmed or shaved there?

    • Do not compare yourself to porn vulvas either. They all are bald and as you have seen all the guys have 9" dicks. Porn is acting. Just enjoy the sex with him and if it bothers you just ask him what he thinks of your vulva... it IS ok to talk about sex after all.

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  • Get the fuck over it. There's nothing wrong with your genitalia.

    • But I feel like he avoids touching my vulva and maybe it's because of how it looks.

    • Ask him.

  • From my admittedly low experience, but very hypocritical perusing of porn, I can say I've never seen a vulva that wasn't at least interesting, and most of them are very, very beautiful to look at. The male brain is designed to think you are beautiful down there pretty much no matter what you look like. Trust me, the guy is probably intoxicated with you when he looks at you down there.

  • All vulvas are unique and beautiful. I'm sure he will love yours. Start slowly, like in a dimly lit bedroom until you build confidence.

  • Lmao. He doesn’t care.

    • What if he's a perfectionist?

    • I said what I said

    • But he rarely touches me down there. Maybe he doesn't like it.

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  • Outies and hooded clits are the fucking BEST! I understand your boyfriend, I'd do the same. Let the man feast his eyes on your beauty.

    • Besides, every clit has a hood. But I like when the hood and clit is big enough to actually find the clit under it, it's perfect for oral.

    • I mean my hood covers my clit.

    • Yeah I know

  • don't worry about that if he loves u and u have a beautiful face then u will be attractive at all from ur head to ur feet whatever u look..

  • Let him see it don't worry about it, just let him do what he want, because that will make him think different about you...

    • What if it turns him off?

    • No, if you show him he will like it, also you should let him play with your pussy and lick your pussy, you should be open for foreplay, that's what men like exackly..

    • I don't think he'll even want to eat me out if he sees my vulva. It doesn't look attractive. Also he's touched me down there only a few times, so maybe he doesn't even like touching it?

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  • I bet he would love it

  • GO TO HELL

    • No i won't