I dont want to keep asking, wish he would just taste the fruit without me asking... guys, help?

So, my boyfriend has only gone down on me twice in 5 months and both times i had to ask. Once I asked him if something was wrong with me that he didn't go down on me or if he didn't like it and he said no not at all he just doesn't think to do it. Now i know I am super clean and everything is good down there but why do I have to keep asking.. I give him head like all the time without him asking so why can't he do it without asking and do the same sometimes?

Guys, what can i do to get him to do it without me asking him?

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Thanks for all the replies! you guys are super helpful.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • He probably doesn't realize how much it would mean to you. The first step is telling him- directly, but nonconfrontationally; you DO NOT WANT him to feel attacked or insulted, that's the death knell of any relationship. Let him know you'd like it to be part of your regular sexual encounters, and not something only done by special request.

    If that doesn't work, or if you've tried it and it didn't help, then move on to making him want to by showing him how good the results are. Find a technique or maneuver or whatnot that differs from the way he's done it, then find something else new that you think he'd like, then let him know you'd like to try some new things in bed, and you have two in mind- one for you, one for him. This makes it feel more mutual, and even less like you're disappointed in him. Then do both of them, and when your turn to receive comes, sell it! Don't fake anything, but if it works, play it up a bit; let him see and hear the results, and compliment him on his skill and technique (yes, even if it was something you suggested: "you do that so well!" is pretty universal).

    If he learns to enjoy the psychological pleasure that comes out of pleasing someone else, he'll be more willing, and eventually even eager, to do it again. If you then show him more approval in non-sexual forms in the aftermath, he'll associate going down on you with better results in general. Sexual forms are good, too, of course, but you want him to see that there are benefits outside the bedroom as well.

  • You are doing nothing wrong. It seems like it is all about him. Are you able to orgasm from just PIV sex or does he need to give you oral to get you to an orgasm? Either way maybe tell him that if he wants a bj he has to also do his part and go down on you each time. Or maybe stick with handjobs instead of bjs for him until he gets the message. How often are you two having sex? Would more or less help the situation?

    • He isn't a very sexual person. I think it has something to do with his drive... We have sex once a week maybe and most the time im initiating it. I can orgasm from PIV but the idea that he isn't making an effort in even touching me much sexually is a turn off for me and makes it harder to release during sex. He is super affectionate and loving with kisses and loves to shower together but when it comes to initiating sex its another story

    • As I said you have done nothing wrong and he does not know how much fun he is missing out on. Sometimes it is best to direct and just tell him what pleasures you. Do you think he may be masturbating too much?

    • No, He told me he tries to avoid doing that because he used to have a problem as a teen. I have walked in on him alone and didn't find anything suspicious like that. I think his drive is just low?

Most Helpful Girls

  • May be he doesn't like doing that and just doing to make you happy. Just discuss the same thing with him you told us politely. May be it works.

    • I have and he is sure that he has no issues with it. Maybe he is just lazy hahaha

    • Haha that could be possible

  • "I want you to go down on me a lot without me asking."

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  • Change boyfriends... You would never have to ask me to do it. You would only have to ask me to stop

  • If he's your age and hasn't figured out what to do in bed yet he's not going to.

    • hmmm yeah, he is older than me but his sex drive isn't that high. Maybe he just likes things his way?

    • Sounds really boring in the sack

    • I feel i do need a bit more excitement but other than that he is an amazing guy and ticks all the other boxes... need to find a way around because I truly do love him and want it all to be great,

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  • I don't know of any simple answer. I have gone down on and eaten a girl non-stop at times, and others, not so much. I wish I knew the answer to your question. One thing I would do if I were you, I would quit sucking him off, unless he eats you out.

    Only fair!

  • Climb on him and sit on his face. You won't have to say a word.

    • yes, the direct approach.

    • HAHaHAHAHAHAHAHA! I think ill give him a fright lol

  • Initiate an inverted blow job (top of your head toward his feet) and then maneuver yourself on to him into 69 oral. He should take the hint.

  • You need to explain to him that this is something you need regularly without asking for it. Then you’ll see if he takes you seriously or not.

  • just tell him that you'd like cunnilingus as a regular sexual thing.

  • You give him head because you enjoy it?

    • yeah I enjoy how it makes him feel and it gives me a sense of power too.

    • So he clearly doesn’t like to make you feel good. You have told him how it feels and he doesn’t want to?

    • Well like I said if i ask he does it but I just dont want to always ask... its messes up the mood for me. He knows I enjoy it

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  • Sounds like he's just a selfish piece of shit

    • I honestly think he isn't very 'experienced' He gets a lot of his satisfaction from intellectual conversation so sex isn't something on his mind regularly.

    • Tell him if he wants blow jobs then he better start eating pussy

  • Don’t ask. Straddle his face and force him. Make him your bitch. And ride it if his tongue ain’t doin the job.

    If he’s smart, he’ll see how much that turns you on and the more sex he’ll get. Like Pavlov’s dogs we’ll learn to love it too.

    • hahahaha Thanks

    • Go easy on him. At first.

  • Ask him to eat you, suck your clit. You love the feeling of his tongue in your pussy.

  • Maybe start with head then rotate into 69

  • He's not into it if he was he would do it all of the time