I dont want to send him nude nudes will he ghost me :( ?

[Anonymous]

Rlly like this guy haven't met him before but i send him unsolicited clothed tit pics. He doesn't respond much just fire signe. Today randomly he asked me to send one with my bra. And I said tbh dont feel comfy w that since we haven't met have we? Is he going to ghost me prob :( whatcha think

[Anonymous]

It's important to prioritize your own comfort and boundaries in any situation, including when it comes to sending nude or suggestive photos. If you don't feel comfortable sending him photos without having met him in person, it's completely reasonable to express that boundary to him.

If he ghosts you or becomes disrespectful or pushy when you set this boundary, it may be an indication that he's not someone you want to pursue a relationship with. A healthy and respectful partner will always prioritize your comfort and boundaries, and will never pressure you into doing something that you're not comfortable with.

Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and safety in any relationship, and to only engage in activities that feel comfortable and consensual to you. If you're unsure about how to navigate this situation or feel unsafe or uncomfortable, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional.

[Asker]

so true : ( he ghosted me been 5 hours I hope he still replies and just doesn't know how to. i asked him if we met before? lol giving him something to say if he wanted to lessen the tension. all my friends said GHOST GHOST. but I like him :( now I'm getting ghosted lol

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this experience. It's important to remember that being ghosted is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person, and that sometimes people's actions are beyond our control. It's possible that the person you are talking to is busy or distracted, and may respond later. However, it's also important to be prepared for the possibility that they may not respond or may choose to end the conversation or relationship. It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to surround yourself with supportive friends and family during this time. Remember that there are many people out there who will value and appreciate you for who you are, and that it's okay to move on from relationships that don't align with your values or needs. Take care of yourself and don't hesitate to reach out for support if you need it.

[Asker]

i know he was just 6 foot tall and a Dr : ( hard to come around

[Asker]

and attractive he prob has 694024 girls after him

[Opinion Owner]

And that’s taking advantage of you, don’t go beyond lowering yourself, your dignity, and self respect to appeal off to this guy to send nudes and cares only of wanting to see your body. Because once guys like that to get what they want, they’ll leave and bounce never to be seen or heard from again so you need to be careful of who you talk and send something too. You’re a woman and a boy like that want to take advantage on girls they spot on who they think is naive and do whatever they want to keep him. You don’t want to fall into that so if I were you, I would stop after and don’t send him a nude no more especially never seen him in person before. if a man don’t admire for who you are and does not show interest in just that or like you the way you like him… he’s not it and you should cut him off just like your friends said.

[Asker]

you're right too bad im moving close to him next semester. will see his face more often. god if only he responded then we could just be a thing in person

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable to feel intimidated or discouraged by someone who you perceive as being very successful, attractive, or popular. However, it's important to remember that everyone has their own unique qualities and strengths, and that there is no one "perfect" person out there. It's also important to remember that external factors like height or career success do not necessarily determine a person's worth or compatibility as a partner. What matters most in any relationship is mutual respect, communication, and shared values and goals. If you are interested in pursuing a relationship with this person, it's important to approach them with confidence and respect, and to be genuine and authentic in your interactions. Remember that being yourself is the best way to attract someone who truly values and appreciates you for who you are. Regardless of the outcome, it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can help you through any challenges or setbacks.

[Asker]

aw thank you you are so nice and mature

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable to feel attracted to someone and to want to pursue a relationship with them, but it's important to remember that relationships should be based on mutual respect, communication, and shared values and goals. If this person is not responding to your friend's messages or showing interest in getting to know her beyond her physical appearance, it may be a sign that they are not a good match for her. It's important to prioritize self-respect and dignity, and to avoid compromising these values for the sake of pursuing a relationship with someone who does not appreciate or value you for who you are. Moving closer to someone who is not showing interest or respect may not be the best course of action, as it may lead to disappointment or further feelings of inadequacy or insecurity. Encourage your friend to prioritize her own well-being and to focus on building relationships with people who respect and value her for who she is, rather than just her physical appearance.

[Asker]

just followed u lol

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome and ok thank you

[SteveSmith1985]

I have no idea whether he'll ghost you or not. It depends on what kind of guy he is. I can tell you that: If he does ghost you because you won't send him nudes... then he did you a favor. Any guy who would ghost you for that, is a piece of shit. He's a shitty guy who you really don't want anything to do with. If he ghosts you... you should immediately stop liking him because he's just shown himself to be an asshole.

So don't even worry about this. If he ghosts you... then fine... you want an asshole who would do that outtta your life anyway! 🙂

[Mamasanma]

Oooh Sebastian is going at it again.

[Asker]

Lol i know I like assholes a lot

[Asker]

Will take so much to get over him im sad

[Asker]

10 mins open no response its not looking so good :(

[SteveSmith1985]

It may take some time to get over him. It's not going to be pleasant. Nevertheless, you should really look at this guy differently if he ghosts you. You should be offended by that. Not sad. But if this guy has no interest in talking to you anymore... if you won't send him nudes... then doesn't that show you what kind of guy this is? Not a guy to be sad about losing. If you know you tend to like assholes, then that's something you ought to take a look at. Girls who tend to like assholes end up with nothing but pain. Because assholes are going to treat you like shit. You're basically setting yourself up for pain by going for a guy who is an asshole. You... really should take a look at your 'type' and do some self-examination about why you are attracted to this type. You need to intellectually come to the conclusion that these guys are not the type you should be pursuing... you're kinda screwed.

[Asker]

Im sad bc i couldve just sent the pics and hed like me and still talk to me lol

[SteveSmith1985]

I understand that. But I don't think you're really looking at what you just said critically. Isn't there something really wrong with what you just said? What kind of guy would stop talking to you for this reason? Is there any reason for a man to be interested in you... aside from hoping you'll send him nudes? If a man is no longer interested in you because you won't send him nudes... what does that say about how that guy sees you? What does it say about why he was talking to you AT ALL in the first place? Should you have to send a guy nudes for him to find you romantically or sexually desireable? I mean... what you just said there is so fucking unhealthy. I don't even know where to begin. It's like saying: "If I had only sucked his dick... I bet he would have asked me to go on a second date. Goddamn... I should've sucked his dick." That's some unhealthy bullshit. So is this. You need to look at your view of yourself as it relates to men here. You did the right thing. It's just a shame that you don't see it that way (at least not completely).

[Asker]

Yeah i know thats legit me with the whole if only i sucked his dick thing lol he's super hot i think I was just so happy to have even caught his attention :(

[SteveSmith1985]

It is really concerning that my hypothetical example of "unhealthy thinking" (the sucking dick thing) is an example that resonates with you as well. I can tell you, that you've got an overall problem: You are failing to recognize your own value as a potential romantic/sexual partner. You are trying to appeal to men the wrong way by appealing directily to their sexual appetites. You should be demanding to be valued for more than that. So, if the guy isn't going to call you for a second date... you don't WANT to have sucked his dick because then he would have called. The idea that the guy would call had you sucked his dick... implies that you aren't thinking a guy is going to like YOU (for you), but rather... is going to like you for what you're willing to do for him sexually. That should be offensive to you. Because it is offensive. There's more about you, that has value... for a guy to like beyond your willingness to suck his dick. If he doesn't think so... then fuck him! (metaphorically). But, you did the right thing here. I'm not sure what exactly has led you to do the right thing here (if your overall view tends towards sending the nudes in hopes of keeping the guy interested). But you did do the right thing. You are willing to lose the guy, to maintain your self-respect. (as you should). So... there's something right about how you're looking at THIS situation. Honestly... it's really really good that you didn't send this guy nudes. That's how you SHOULD be thinking of yourself. That should not be what gets/keeps a man interested in you. Good for you. And there's nothing wrong with being happy/flattered to have caught his attention. Nothing wrong with that at all. Its only wrong if you allow that to cloud your judgement, and accept being treated less-well than you deserve. You specifically DIDN'T allow that to happen to you here. I think its a great sign that you're doing the right thing, despite it being hard and making you sad.

[Asker]

aw are you a motivational speaker or something because wow. you seem like such a cool and chill person ily.

[SteveSmith1985]

Haha, no I'm not a motivational speaker. Just a guy who has known enough women well, to get a sense of some patterns, and categories of thinking. I'm not even trying to motivate you specifically...(although I'd be quite happy if that's the result). I'm just..."reading your situation"' as best I can. What I see is something I've definitely seen before (in various forms). You are not the only woman who has developed some unhealthy thinking when it comes to men. And I'm just noticing the type of unhealthy thinking. The "failure to recognize your own value as a potential romantic/sexual partner" is something that I've come across before. Its not an uncommon way for some women to end up looking at things. But its always to the woman's detrement to not recognize their own value. It means she ends up allowing guys to treat her in ways she doesn't deserve. Sending this guy nudes would have been an example of allowing guys to treat you in a way you don't deserve. It's great that you didn't. I do consider myself a "cool and chill person" most of the time. I like you too. It makes me happy to see someone with some unhealthy thinking choose to do something that goes against that unhealthy pattern. I hope this is the start of you looking at yourself differently in relation to men. Always demand to be treated as someone of value.

[WhitneySnow]

He probably is but don’t give in. He’s a jerk if he ghosts you just cause you won’t send him nudes before you meet.

[Asker]

ugh been 5 hours now but i left him on read for 5 hours too. ;( im sad i hope he replies

[WhitneySnow]

I hope he does too

[Asker]

he's such an awkward guy feel like he doesn't know what to say. even the way he asked for pics was so odd like a total turn off. some guys can ask in a sexy way his was in a cringe weird way like I feel like he's never asked a girl for nudes

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe be patient with him. Just kinda guide him on the right way to treat a girl.

[ImHere22]

Wow. Well, I mean, the fire emoji though.. who would want to risk losing such a valued connection?

Seriously, he’s using you and you’re likely not even the only person who he’s doing this to at the same time. Ask him to send you one with his underwear and pants off and see if he sends a 🔥 to your request. In summary, the guy is a loser and you’re better than that. Leave his 🔥 ass

[Asker]

Lol thank you you’re right im going crazy over fire emojis. Just he's so so hot crazy he even would think im hot enough for his attention :(

[summiter]

Your choice but do not have your face in them. I would wait till you know the dude. Has he sent any to you?

[slatyb]

If he does, you haven't lost anything worth having.

[MementoMori777]

If you don't feel comfortable then you shouldn't do it, mostly if your gut is telling you not too

[Asker]

Thank you friend its me again lol

[Asker]

Same issue has exploded lol

[MementoMori777]

The person I was just talking too?

[MementoMori777]

Either ways my advice stands lol

[FunkyMonkee]

So, send him clothed nudes.

[Asker]

He left me on read. If he sent a nice message id send him it

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't understand phone lingo.

[megabamse]

Adult men don't care that much for "soft" stuff. We prefer completely nudes. But trust your gut.

[David4358]

If you don't want to send nudes then don't send nudes, if the guy only is interested in you because of something you don't want to do anyway then who cares if he ghosts you?

[Asker]

I would send them but i know dont know him haven't met him in person yet. :(

[David4358]

So you only send nudes to someone you know? That's like the opposite of what I usually do, it's always some stranger that I'm sexting with who I send nudes. But the point still stands if you don't want to and that's all he wants then what's the point in being worried about a guy ghosting you at that point?

[Asker]

Lol i know this guy tho mutual friends

[Asker]

I want to send him them just im scared of them getting to the wrong hands

[David4358]

Then keep your face out of the picture.. how is anyone ever going to identify your tits from the millions of tits out there now? I have shared my dick 100s of times so if it's out on the web on some site why would I care? Nobody is going to be able to pick out my dick from the millions of dicks out there so it doesn't worry me at all..

[Asker]

Lol thats true but like what if he shows his friends who i know

[Asker]

I don't know what kinda guy he is

[David4358]

That's why I always sext with strangers.. you never have that issue of them showing them to someone you know.

[Asker]

But see i wanted to sext this man and him be my husband too lol

[David4358]

Then meet him and do more then sext?

[Asker]

Lol i said we haven't officially met have we? And so hopefully he gets the drift he can meet me right

[David4358]

You can just tell him that, you want to see me naked let's do it in person..

[Asker]

lol i already sent that message tho "tbh i don't feel comfy doing that since i don't think we've met in person have we?" and my friend yelled at me bc now sounds like i send nudes to many guys lol i rlly dont god i sound like a whore

[David4358]

You dont sound like a whore at all. I don't care how much you want to send nudes. Doesn't bother me at all. Send as many nudes as you want! Lol If you didn't post anonymous your DM would probably be flooded with guys asking for those nudes lol

[David4358]

What did they guy respond with?

[Asker]

lol yeah thats why i be keeping it anon sorry guys

[Asker]

no response : ( been 5 hours damn.

[David4358]

Exactly guys like to sext and swap nudes, it's obvious that if he doesn't get back to you that's all he wanted as well.

[Asker]

Yup still on read lol

[David4358]

Then that's all he wanted, at least you know. There is nothing wrong with just sexting, but like you said if he knows people you know there is always a risk he will share the pics. Find someone that you kinda like that's a stranger for your sexting.. no chance of your pics getting to people you know that way (if you keep your face out of it)..

[LiamJHayden]

If he ghosts you for not sending nudes then he certainly is not worth your time.

[Asker]

True but i liked him he checked all the boxes job and looks wise

[AydenHazor]

If he does ghost you he's not worth your time

[Asker]

I know but i liked him :( perfect in every way on paper

[AydenHazor]

Sometimes the ones who are good on paper are asses when they're true nature is revealed

[clampfan101]

If he does he wasn’t the right kind of guy.

[Degenerate]

Yeah lol good luck

[Asker]

Damn :(

[Degenerate]

He's probably a shit manipulator tho

[Asker]

I love those i was about to just so he’d like me

[Degenerate]

I'm a master manipulator

[shades777]

You started it lol

[In_Trance]

I think you should send him nudes.
Just not your nudes.
Guys are dumb and he won't know the difference

[Asker]

omggg lol ur funny

[OddBeMe]

If he does you dodged a bullet. Dump the asshole.

[Asker]

I know but he was so cute 6 foot tall and a doctor like wow.

[OddBeMe]

Wow so vain. What about a 5’10” media manager who’s more funny than cute?

[Jmmmfi4]

Just don't do it

[Asker]

I didn't ugh he's going to ghost me now

[Jmmmfi4]

Well that pretty much tells you everything you need to know

[Gato100Mal]

Probably if he is a bit shy like imagine if him randomly aend a pic of his intimate parts to you and you're shy you will have no response and get soo much shy so its normal we give some ice expecially when we like someone and its normal we feel not comfortable with that situations but that dont mean that we dont like it just be slow and dont sade pic of literally any cover like use something for cover and slowly remove if you want

[Maonaise]

75 percent chance he will.

[Asker]

Yeah he is rn :(