Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
You read the title correctly. I'm feeling like I'm going down the path of being misogynistic. Do I want to be? Hell no. But experience after experience is really getting me to associate being female with being a bad character. I'm going to tell you why.
Relationships: I've been in a few. When I get into relationships, I really take it serious. I don't date for fun and get into casual relationships. I put it 100% effort, I insist on open communication, and being emotionally supportive. I try to take an interest in my SO's interests, and to be mindful and a gentlemen... but the thing is, I got self respect. I'm not a stepping stone, and refuse to be used as one. But now a days it seems that any time I stick up for myself, I'm being outed as "toxic" or as a misogynist... which is ironically the path I'm starting to go down. It seems like that if you aren't a total simp, you're sexist. I've been cheated on more than once, yet I'm always told men are the pigs. I see all these posts about how girls want a man who's I am, supportive, communicates openly, etc, yet they go directly after.
What they posts: I just see so much sexualizing themselves, posting butt pics, dirty jokes, fantasies, etc, and then when looked on that way, you're in the wrong. Posting man hating comments is all cool, but mention a character flaw of one specific female and you're sexist. I see posts about beating up men, fighting men, etc... but do you not realize reality? That if a man isn't holding back, you're gonna lose. Unless you're some MMA fighter or something, but if you're the average girl, it's a wrap.
The entitlement: Expecting to be put on a throne. If you're not simping, you're not a real man. If you're under 6'0 (I'm 6'3, that's besides the point), you're instantly swerved. Wanting you to bring a bunch of shit to the table without bringing nothing of her own. OnlyFans is not a job. I see so many girls say sex work is work. No, it's not. You're taking your clothes off and orgasming. Just because there's an industry for it, doesn't mean it's productive. Having no goals and wanting someone who's "made it." And she'll be ran through by hella guys talking about she's ready to settle.
Having boundaries is "insecure". Not wanting her to talk to her ex? Insecure. Not wanting her to have guy best friends because you know they'd smash in a heartbeat, if they didn't already? Insecure. Not wanting her to post half naked pics? Insecure. Actually controlling behaviors is one thing, but now just asking for respect as your significant other is another.
Everything is creepy: I'm almost terrified of even approaching girls anymore. Even the most innocent compliments will get you labeled as a creep. And when you get rejected, and she posts you on her snap, or instagram, and exposes you, she isn't called out for being ridiculous. Everybody piles on. Catcalling, sexual remarks, keep going when she shows she isn't interested is creepy. Wholesome compliments is treated like it is too though.
I was falsely accused of rape. Girl said it was consensual at first, she took consent away in the middle of sex (And admitted to police she never said no, yet I still got charged), she alleged I pinned her down, she fought me off, started riding me, gave me head without me asking, and that I fingered her against her will apparently while she was showing me how to finger her, like that makes sense. There was even a sextape. I did 18 months because of COVID pushing my trial back. And since the false accusations of rape didn't even ADD UP to rape, the defense theory was saying that IS how it happened (it wasn't) , but pointing out she never said no and actively participated. So I can't even sue for false accusations. I got no financial reimbursement, no news segment saying I was innocent... just have a nice day. 18 months of my life, I turned 20 and 21 in prison. Plus since I was on the news when I was charged, it's still up there. Not on my record, but on the internet. My name is attached to the word "rape". And there are plenty of people who think I'm actually guilty and just got away with it.
I understand that not every female is this way. It'd be stupid to think they are. Just the women I know, know over the internet, see on facebook, social media, etc, and 9/10 times like this. I'm starting to instantly associate being a female with being untrustworthy and toxic. I really need help to not go down this path before it's too late.
What Girls & Guys Said
3 0How long ago did you write this? There's no date stamp on here, which is strange.
I found this looking at your account because you're asking if you should become a Moderator.
First of all, I'm sorry about your experiences with girls, and especially that you got falsely accused of rape, and went to prison. Wow. Most rape cases never go to trial because of lack of physical evidence, so I'm puzzled why you got convicted. Rotten, rotten, luck, I guess. That single incident could make any person lose all faith in the justice system. And I don't understand how you were in jail, but it's not on your record. How's that possible?
As for the rest of what you said, it sounds like you're associating with all the wrong types of people. Yeah, OnlyFans is not real work, so why hang out there? You can't partake in the stuff which you loathe. Don't be hypocritical like that.
But I commend you for writing this, and for reaching out and asking for help, or a dialogue, when you are teetering on the edge. That's very, very, good.
Not sure what else to tell you, but I think you need a change of scenery, and a change of people you associate with. The issue might be that we don't notice the quiet, moderate, people out there. They are not making waves, wreaking havoc, causing a fuss or a fight. You already have acknowledged that you understand every female is not this way. It'll be a challenge to try to remain unbiased and unprejudiced, but just keep in mind that everyone feels these types of things from time to time. Every interaction we have with others, whether they be irl or online, does affect us, does seep in, and inform they way they view the world and others. There's lots of idiots out there. Technically speaking, males tend to be more on the extreme ends - of things like intelligence, crime, mental stability. Being a loner, or isolated, is far more a man's dilemma, or choice. And it's typically not good when men go their own way, without any feedback, interactions, support. Joining INCEL and MGTOW groups just riles them up even more. We women are not the enemy. And neither are you. Most people out there know this. Just take the extremists and knock them off your radar. They really don't serve anyone well. They're really destructive. And I'm not just speaking about males, believe me. It's the moderates, the centrists, the level-headed that must work together to drown out the crazy. I'd like to see more acknowledgement of one's peers, at the very least a sort of "Gettin' loud over there!" critique. There is far too much tribalism now, as well. Forget safety in numbers. Be an individual, think for yourself, and pay attention to the quiet ones. They are still out there, and they don't hate it, nor do they want to screw you over.
Should you be a Moderator? Did you get invited? Doesn't sound like it would be your thing. Although you are concerned about justice, and rightly so. If you do go that route, you'll have to try very hard to curb your sense of righting the wrongs but doing it with a broken scale.
Convictions are different from being charged. A charge is a formal accusation filed against you. A conviction is a formal finding of guilt. I may have misspoken, But I was never found guilty. I was found completely innocent. When being found innocent, it isn’t on your record.
Oh. "I did 18 months because of COVID pushing my trial back." Why did you go to prison then?
Once charged, you are arrested. They don’t wait until you’re convicted. Not sure if you are from the US. Even while presumed innocent, you do jail time unless you can post bail. The bail is used under the guise to garuntee you won’t run, but they make it so high you can’t post it, forcing you to do jail time which counts towards the punishment, making it more likely you take a plea deal. A plea deal is an agreement to plead guilty to some charges for a lesser sentence. I took it to trial and was found completely innocent
Wow.
No reimbursement for time loss, no punishment for the prosecutor, nothing
Did you have a lawyer? Provided by the state?
Paid lawyer. 50,000$. Ironically enough, she used to be a prosecutor with a focus on sex crimes.
Did she not believe you? Plea deals are so fucked up. Often it's in the best interest of the lawyers, not the client. This whole thing is disgusting. That's a travesty you have no recourse.
She believed me, other wise she’d refuse the case. She has no respect for sex criminals.
Dude it's your fault for associating with bad women. 🤦♀️ Also what's your name?
Nick. Why?
To look up what happened
That's because you were molested at 13, you need therapy