I feel that someone had sex with me while I was asleep? Any medical tests to find out?

[Anonymous]

This is about Saturday night. My husband and three of his colleagues were at our home that evening to discuss and work on an official project. I prepared them dinner, and after dinner they were having drinks. I usually don't drink but they compelled me to have a glass of rum as a token of thanks for being such a nice host. As I saw no signs of them leaving and they still had some work pending, I just bid them goodnight and went off to sleep in our bedroom as I was feeling damn sleepy. I woke up today morning and I feel something off physically about myself. I just checked on my husband and noticed that he and his colleagues all were still sleeping in the hall. I am feeling so disturbed and I feel that there's something really fishy. Advices would be much appreciated.

[shanshu]

I could be wrong but sounds like you could of been rufied by on by the way you said you were feeling sleepy right away and crash and it's possible something could of happened, you should of gone to the doctors or hospital or if covid won't allow that then rang i them to see if anything you could do. But if it's been a day or so it's possible anything that was in your system could be gone by now, have you examined yourself to see if it felt like you been penetrated or the smell of latex (if he condom was used) or maybe semen inside you.

Nothing prob happened but try and get yourself checked out as soon as possible to be safe and tell your husband even if he doesn't believe you, at least if what happened was true he will feel guilty and will be glad to know you told him right away.

At the same time, it could of been your husband when drunk

[Asker]

Thank you for the suggestion and opinion. Yes I have been checked by my gyno on Monday and physical examination revealed signs of trauma inside my genital and seemed like recent penetration per gyno. Provided blood sample also to check if I had been drugged, and am awaiting the result. I did self examine myself on Sunday morning because of my doubts and it felt like i was penetrated, it may be odd to say out but evident signs were there. My vagina was sore from inside, vulva was swollen and it smelled weird, the smell was more like associated with sexual intercourse. Even my body smelled odd and all of my private parts were aching. I checked everywhere in house to find if condom or its wrapper but I couldn't find it. I doubt if it was flushed it in the toilet as the water in the toilet of my bedroom was very lathery. I am awaiting the result of the drug test to inform my husband and I want to know the truth of this!! It's not possible that I would have slept through it if something happened but I slept like I lost control of my senses. I did ask my husband if he did come to bedroom after his work and he said that he slept in the hall itself after work and didn't use the bedroom, just to confirm if he did anything.

[shanshu]

So it does sound like someone did drug you and rape you. How many where there and who was it the most that egged you in to have a drink, who ever it was maybe the person who drugged you and new you would be out and could have their way with you. Then you could ask your husband if he wasn't too waisted who left the room the longest and if its the same who gave you the drink then you most likely know who it is. Sorry to hear this happened to you

[Asker]

Thanks and as I am getting support on my query, I could proceed further with the suggestions on here and hence am not hesitating to reply to the queries raised here. There were 3 of his colleagues that came home and everyone literally pleaded with me to have it as i had been such a good host. My husband also was fine with it and so I had it. My husband told that they wrapped their work off by 11.00 pm and noone was working after that. They played some card and video games after that and they all slept by around 2 am.

[shanshu]

I know it's a long shot but have you checked the the bin outside for a condom or wrapper?

[shanshu]

Or even a small packet that rufie thing might of been in

[Asker]

No i didn't check for it, I didn't get that much of a brains due to all these!!

[shanshu]

OK sorry if I'm going on too much about it

[Asker]

Nope it's fine I know that you are trying to help

[Asker]

Nothing in there too, just wanted to ask if there is still a chance for me to find a condom or wrapper anywhere?

[shanshu]

I don't think so, he might of been clever and kept it on him and discarded it when he left, he might of not used one, if that's the case he must of cum somewhere if it wasn't in you, check your sheets or around where you slept for any splatter marks even if he caught his cum with tissue there might be some semen minimal splatter. If you haven't had a shower since then check yourself, back bum, breasts for any little crusty marks maybe

[Asker]

I had a shower the same morning because I was feeling terrible. I would keep searching though in and around home if I could find anything related to male body fluid!! Thanks.

[shanshu]

I still think you should talk to your husband though, say your not pointing fingers at anyone specific but explain to him what you told us here because what if he wants sex soon and you don't feel up to it or if you do have sex and you have a panic attack during and he'd not sure what's going on

[Nik1hil]

Go to your gynecologist and explain his what happened..
Best way is to quickly collect your blood sample and find out of you were roofied or drugged and they all fucked you..
Traces of rape drugs can still be found in your blood.. If they did it.. If the glass of alcohol you drank had something weird in it than it's traces can still be detected in your blood..

[Nik1hil]

Don't inform your husband if he is involved in this.. He will stop you in some way or this could turn into danger to your life..

[Asker]

Thank you for this opinion. A day is over, so would the traces be still found? If in any way I find out the truth I really don't know how to take it if the news is indeed bad!!

[Nik1hil]

Drug residue stays in human body depending on the time.. Yet most of the traces can be found within 72 hours of getting drugged. Don't sit... Take action.. Tell your BFF about this and get her help.. Don't wait for gynecologist appointment... Instead say to him... I think I was drugged and raped and I need an emergency appointment!..

[Asker]

I would do it today. Thanks!!

[Nik1hil]

If you say on the phone I was drugged and raped.. Gynecologist needs to cancel other appointments and take you in... Because your case becomes time sensitive.. He will even respond to you in middle of night without appointment..

[Asker]

But what about further proceedings, would mt husband come to know about this and is there a chance he would be entangled in all these things?

[Nik1hil]

First find out you were drugged or not.. Then decide if you were raped or not.. And if you were drugged and raped... It totally up to you to file a lawsuit against everyone or let things go... Also you can file Lawsuit against all other men and leave your husband.. And since he is married to you.. He can be given immunity if he says. "I was under peer pressure." and he is your husband... So you can chose to spare him.. If you want.. In the court...

[Nik1hil]

Everything is secondary... Finding out if you were drugged or not is primary..

[Nik1hil]

DM me if you have doubts..

[Asker]

Thank you so much for all your valuable advices. I would DM you if required but my mental situation isn't so good now and want to be alone. But thank you very much!!

[Nik1hil]

Whatever feels comfortable to you!.. *Hugs* 😁

[Nik1hil]

Did you get drug test done.. And if you are a naive women.. Then at least get yourself tested for STD..

[Asker]

Yes turned our to be positive. Thanks for helping!!

[Nik1hil]

So you were drugged? And what about STD?

[Asker]

Yes, I was. Didn't screen for STDs yet. I only did a physical examination by my gynecologist and drug screen tests.

[Asker]

Don't want to reveal the name of the drug but they say it's a common drug used. I informed my husband and we had an argument over it. He says that it isn't possible because his colleagues were there with him the whole time.

[Nik1hil]

He is involved with his colleagues in doing this!.. You can no longer trust that man.. He is fucking scared right now that you will drag them all to court!.. If he informs his colleagues your life is in danger since this becomes a case of gang rape.. Your husband won't kill you, but they will if they felt like they are not safe.. Filing a lawsuit against all of them can be risky to your life.. If you don't have bunch of friends looking after you 24X7.. If you are willing to risk your life.. You can file a lawsuit.. I think it's best if you end your marriage!.. Something like this cannot be overlooked!.. Get yourself screened for STD.. And move out of the house.. Stay with a friend until you can manage things on your own..

[Asker]

Just wanted to give an update as you have been helpful. I moved out today, last couple of days was nothing short of a horrible. Unfortunately am not approaching legally because currently am not in a situation to do so. Anyways I have lost everything!!

[Nik1hil]

No you have not.. If you get divorce than.. You should get 50% of his assets unless you signed a pre-nup.. And it's time you get a fresh start.. Get on your feet.. Travel somewhere far away settle in a new town. Get a new job.. And start dating to find a new partner..

[Nik1hil]

*HUGS*🐼*HUGS* *HUGS* *HUGS* 🐼*HUGS* *HUGS* A panda gives Hugs to you.. I know you need them.. And if you wish to talk non anonymously with me.. Do hesitate to approach me.. On Gag or you can hit me up on Kik messenger.. Have a good life..

[loves2learn]

I’m proud of you for moving out. I’m sorry you went through this.

[Asker]

Thanks both of you. I need to start a new life and I don't think I could trust, fall in love or get physically intimate with anyone else heareafter. I need to live out my life somehow. Bye..

[Nik1hil]

You are having a mental breakdown.. I can sense it.. You need to talk to us.. Don't run away.. And being alone is not safe for you..🙏 Please talk to us.. 😔

[CrazyGirl2]

Well, a rape kit nowadays… you’d be amazed how little DNA they need! Go to the ER tell them your suspicions, and they’ll run a rape kit on you! You may not be able to prove it, but either you or your husband know who was there, and if there IS DNA inside you, they’ll get warrants for the other guys DNA. A woman KNOWS when something happened the night before!

[Asker]

Yes I can understand when you say that a woman Knows it if something happened and I can very well relate to it. Am married too so how come I wouldn't know and I feel my suspicions are valid. I had a physical examination with the gyno and she found signs of trauma inside suggesting recent sexual activity. Provided blood for drug screening to know if I was drugged because it isn't possible that I would have slept through it. Thank you for the support and opinion.

[CrazyGirl2]

I have no Idea why you would or would not know anything. I do wonder why you keep saying that you just do not know if someone raped you, when the question you wrote THAT morning is “I feel that someone had sex with me while I was asleep?” I mean you sounded pretty damn sure when you wrote that! Sweetie, I’ve only been sexually active for about a year, and if I have sex, the next morning I absolutely, 100 percent KNOW it. Why you do not, is something that you should have asked the doctor when you had the chance! I’m simply not an expert in all things sexual yet! But rape? That is something That I DO know! Especially the psychological and emotional nuclear bombs that are ticking away in your mind right now, and when they do finally go off… it’s going to be more devastating than you could ever imagine! You need help, and that help is waiting for you at the rape crisis center nearest you, or the rape crisis hotline just Google “rape crisis hotline” (including the quotes) and you’ll get the number of the center nearest you! Please call them!

[loves2learn]

Maybe you have a vaginal infection. Make an appt with your gyno.

[Asker]

Thank you I would consult the guno but I never had an irritation until then. I hope am fine.

[loves2learn]

I’ve only had bacterial vaginitis once. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It will be good to have an exam anyway. You can ask if they notice any trauma.

[Asker]

Okay great I would ask them specifically, maybe they would be able to find out.

[loves2learn]

A gyno will definitely help you get to the bottom of whatever the issue is. ❤️

[Asker]

Thank you once again. This is helpful, bye!!

[loves2learn]

Of course. Nite!

[loves2learn]

Now that your exam revealed trauma, what’s next? I’m really sorry.

[Asker]

Blood test is provided for drug screen and am awaiting the result. After that I would take a decision on it. Now am just feeling like shit!!

[loves2learn]

I don’t blame you. ❤️

[Asker]

Thanks for the support. Almost everyone supported me here and am glad for it.

[loves2learn]

Any time. Glad we can be here to support you.

[Sarahr123]

You have to get tested ASAP because the DNA will only last for a few days so before there is no evidence left you get tested and they will observe your private parts to see if there has been any trauma caused by force penetration.

[Asker]

I have a feeling of soreness but I didn't find any traces of semen. I checked my clothes, bedsheet and the room, but the room had a weird smell when I woke up. The issue here is am not really sure and confident about it

[Sarahr123]

You have to check in case. Medical professionals can advise better.

[slatyb]

A glass of rum? How much? You don't usually drink. Most likely you were hung over -- a bit ill from drinking too much.

[Asker]

Just around half glass. I think I was hung over but I totally passed out and fell asleep. I had my doubts because in the morning I felt like sexual intercourse was involved and am married too so how would I not know.

[Agape93]

A Rape kit

[Inexpensivefurniture]

You could get a rape kit done at the hospital, amd find out if there are any other tests they could do

[Asker]

Yes am getting the treats and examination done. Thank you fir the support and opinion.

[Asker]

I mean tests done, sorry for typos.

[Makeushiver]

Pretty much a standard hospital rape test where they look for abrasions, someone else's pubic hair. If it's not too late don't wash or clean yourself up because that would destroy evidence. Since yu want to be sure before reporting it as a crime, I;d call a woman's support group or if yoiu have a GP you can talk to confidentially. Maybe that would be the best route. It sounds like you think the rum may have been doctored, is that right? And you only had one glass. If you can find that glass before it gets washed put it aside. Do you have any reason to believe that your husband would go along with something like that?

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice. Bit the issue here is I took a shower that morning because I was feeling terrible. I have provided my blood sample and may get the result tomorrow. I would provide an update here when the result comes. And most important thing is seem like my doubts are valid. Gyno was able to detect trauma relating to recent intercourse. So I am kind of destroyed!!

[chukio]

You could have checked the trash for condoms or your pussy for cum or how wet your sheets are. You could have had a wet dream.

[Asker]

I had checked the trash didn't find anything, but the commode in my bathroom seemed to be used by someone, the water was foamy and it seemed like it wasn't flushed properly.

[chukio]

Your evidence is clear as day. But I dont know what else to since I have never done it with a sleeping women.

[Asker]

Bit u really don't have any other evidence. So you are saying that my notion is correct?

[Asker]

I mean I really don't have any other evidence. I felt really awkward in the morning and it wasn't definitely a normal morning for me which are adding up to my worries

[chukio]

I mean a condom is missing.

[chukio]

Oh and also never leave your drinks unattended. This is a always remember even for men

[Asker]

I didn't leave it unattended. I just drank what they offered me.

[chukio]

So you saw them poor all of your drinks. And personally I never drank with the boys and my girl with the same time.

[Asker]

No I didn't observe them pouring. The drink was already prepared and they compelled me to have it as a token of thanks. Also they were my husband's colleagues and I was provided the drink in front of my husband so I trusted them. I couldn't even think in my dreams if them having a wrong intention.

[chukio]

How long have you been together?

[Asker]

3 years

[chukio]

I guess your single now?

[Asker]

No I live with my husband. This happened just more than a day ago!!

[chukio]

The more day past the more evidence is disappearing

[Browneye57]

Did you get the cum load leaking out? So, you don't think you would notice someone fucking you? Wow!

[Asker]

No didn't find any leakage, but found enough evident signs to know that something weird happened. I slept like I lost control of my senses, maybe I was drugged. I am awaiting for the blood report!!

[Browneye57]

So your husband and his buddies drugged and raped you. Got it. Sorry toots, just not buyin' it. I'm not saying it couldn't happen, it just sounds REALLY far fetched. Like WAY WAY out there.

[Asker]

Yeah thats not a problem. This isn't a fiction or a story created and I have no intention to make you believe anything. You need not buy anything, glad that you aren't born as a woman!!

[Browneye57]

Me too. Just never wanted to be a woman. Walking around with half a brain would be seriously depressing.

[US-Agent88]

First smell your fingers then See how many fingers you can fit inside.

[Asker]

What do you mean and how would that help?

[Caunsos]

Talk with your doctor

[Asker]

Spoke with my gyno, she did an examination and i also provided blood sample for detecting if was drugged!!

[Archerer]

Collect a sample from your vagina and go to the doctor immediately, explain what happened and they will help you. Where are you from?

[Asker]

From Canada..

[Archerer]

Canadian doctors will be happy to help you, go get yourself tested and put this to rest

[Wise4myage]

You very well could have been drugged, so definitely talk to your husband about this. And if it happens again, go immediately to a hospital, they have rape kits.

[Asker]

Thank you for this advice but I feel like I need to be completely alone. I want to say to him but I don't know it isn't a good time. Am in a shell right now..

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome and I can't begin to imagine how you feel. But if your gut instinct tells you something is off, then Its probably right. It might be too late to administer a rape kit, but call a hospital and ask, or Google it.

[Asker]

Yes I was just reading about rape kits and all related things. I spent my whole night without sleeping. There have been many off things that I noticed Sunday morning which made me feel like this both physically and situation wise. The bedroom and the bathroom werent the same. Sometimes I feel like I am just losing my mental sanity

[Wise4myage]

You could always talk to someone about this, rape crisis hotlines do exist for this purpose.

[Asker]

Sure thank you!!

[Wise4myage]

You're very welcome. I wish you the best.

[yazerr]

Did you notice anything weird while you were sitting with them?

[Asker]

Not really everyone was cordial and paying attention to what I speak. I didn't notice anything weird otherwise.

[Asker]

The only weird part was the drink. I don't drink but his friends compelled me to have a glass of drink and my husband approved it.

[yazerr]

Were your underwear wet or sticky?

[yazerr]

This man, have you noticed any other actions on him?

[Asker]

Not really I could think of at this time, my underwear and nightwear were out of order slightly but o think thats because of the deep sleep i was in.

[msc545]

Sounds like somebody put Rohypnol in the drinks.

[Asker]

Whats that?

[Asker]

Also I had just a single glass of rum

[msc545]

"Rohypnol has been used to commit sexual assaults because it renders the victim incapable of resisting, giving it the reputation of a “date-rape” drug. Rohypnol users often describe its effects as “paralyzing.” The effects start twenty to thirty minutes after taking the drug, peak within two hours and may persist for eight or even twelve hours. A person can be so incapacitated (made unable to act) they collapse. They lie on the floor, eyes open, able to observe events but completely unable to move. Afterwards, memory is impaired and they cannot recall any of what happened. The person experiences loss of muscle control, confusion, drowsiness and amnesia. Rohypnol is sold in Europe and Latin America as a sleeping pill, but it is illegal in the United States".

[msc545]

That is about the closest I can come to your description of the incident. If someone did that, there is no way of detecting it after the fact.

[Asker]

Thanks for your help. I feel like am ruined for life but I think it would be better off to consult a doctor now for help.

[msc545]

Sure, if that will make you feel better. Can I get a like for this?

[Asker]

I already liked your opinion. Thanks again

[msc545]

Ok - also - it's very concentrated stuff. A few drops in a glass of rum would be enough to do what you described.

[Asker]

Okay thank you once again. I never slept like that before, so I have my doubts. And physically I felt really odd and am a married woman so I would know better I think

[Waldoe]

it was probably your Husband... no colleague would do that with him there... He just snuck in and fucked you while you were out of it

[Asker]

He denied coming to the bedroom thats why I had my concerns, if he has done it then it's better he accepts it. Am so worried with all the mess.

[Waldoe]

I can understand why you are worried, but maybe he doesn't remember, so its better to just believe that "NO ONE" raped you, because you cannot know

[Asker]

It's hard to believe like that because of so many findings afterwards. Anyways will try to manage

[Waldoe]

try to find Peace, there is nothing to do now...

[Tstrbrainer]

If you feel something is suspicious, definitely get tested.

All the best

[Asker]

Got tested, awaiting blood sample result. Gynec told noticeable trauma visible inside vagina

[Tstrbrainer]

Are you sure that the trauma was not from a recent intercourse with your husband? Anyway, let's wait for the blood sample result. Even if it is normal, I suggest you research some more, or do some detailed tests since your gut feeling said that something is not right

[Asker]

Last intercourse which I had with my husband was on 10th March. The gynec too asked the same question as you but she did mention that it looked very recent and seemed due to initial friction or roughness of some sort.

[Tstrbrainer]

Another question would be toys and stuff like that, which you might have to face. Anyway from now on, lock the door completely before you sleep. Still I don't think that would be possible if you were drugged. Anyway, if something is wrong, there would be a lot of people to support you. Take care

[Asker]

You mean sex toys? But why would anyone do all those weird stuffs, because after all i was sleeping. I don't even know if I would be sexually aroused in any way through acts like this. I didn't lock the door because husband told not to as he would be joining once work is done and also I wasn't feeling kinda very sleepy and like i lost control of my senses. Anyways thanks for the support.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wait someone fucked you and you slept through it

[Asker]

I felt I wasn't sober the whole night!!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Where was your husband

[ItsjussZack]

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐠𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮😭?

[Asker]

You're just insensitive!!

[ItsjussZack]

𝐇𝐨𝐰?

[Asker]

Asked a serious question here and you are kidding saying about ghost!!

[Jmmmfi4]

Your drink could have been laced. Did you have cum dripping out of you or on you?

[Asker]

I didn't find any traces of semen on me, clothes or in my room, but my privates didn't feel good.

[Jmmmfi4]

Hmm could have used a condom i guess. Hard to say. Maybe there's a medical explanation.

[Asker]

Maybe there is a chance, the water in the toilet of my room was really foamy but I can't confirm if they could be semen.

[ayomanwya]

Hospital

[bclbn77006]

what makes you think that way?
did you find anything slippery inside your vagina?

[Asker]

I am feeling something odd physically hence am thinking like that. Usually the feeling that I get after having sex.

[bclbn77006]

you can have the same feelings once you recovering from a hangover.

[Asker]

I only had a glass of rum but I passed out because I don't drink usually. The things are maybe it's a odd to speak about it here but I felt kinda stretched. Felt exhausted and was sore on some parts of the body.

[bclbn77006]

you know your body better than me. but do you suspect anyone? anyone from the colleagues showed extra attention to you during the conversation?

[Asker]

I mean everyone was eager to speak with me during the dinner and also they asked me to hang on for the drinks, but since they had work I left off because I wasn't able to stay awake and then i just changed to my nightgown and slept off. I don't remember anything afterwards.

[Asker]

Anyways thanks for the help here. I know it's a very vague situation and there's hardly any evidence other than my feeling. But I know something's wrong, I am not even able to sleep.

[bclbn77006]

in conclusion. I should say, don't take stress, dont bother too much about the situation, let it go and better don't share anything with your husband.

[redbullxxx]

I'm pretty sure you would have woken up if someone were fucking you unless you were drugged, there isn't really a test but you can check if u find sperm anywhere?

Also I do think if they did anything, they would have left the crime scene so to say and not have still been there the next morning.

[Asker]

Hopefully everything is fine and am just over thinking, but I was really unconscious in my sleep and maybe it was because I never drunk rum before. The physical discomfort the next morning is the thing that's bothering me

[redbullxxx]

I understand the feeling, I felt like that ones to when I blacked out from vodka but it was really all in my head. I can't say for sure but I don't think anyone would fuck you in ur sleep while ur husband is home, and for it to have gone fully unnoticed. Does ur bedframe sound a lot? If so that should also have woken up if not you then somebody. Were they drunk too? Cause drunk guys aren't exactly gracious and quite, making it even harder to go up and do something with you.

[Asker]

Yes they were drinking too. My bed doesn't quite sound a lot. If I would have woke up fine the next morning I wouldn't have been worried but I felt the same way like after the act!!

[redbullxxx]

Hmm, okey if anything happened to you while sleeping, I would lean more towards someone fingering or going down on you. Not fucking you.

[Asker]

Okay thank you for providing a valuable opinion!!

[redbullxxx]

No problem ❤❤ hope it works out for you

[Anonymous]

Go to your gynecologist

[Asker]

I went to her already and expresses my concern today. Examination revealed trauma.

[Anonymous]

Did you look for a used condom or condom wrapper?

[Asker]

Yes I did look for it, couldn't find it. I doubt it would have been dumped or flushed in the toilet commode of my bathroom because the water inside looked very lathery, but am not sure

[Anonymous]

That’s pretty hard to sleep through that but I suppose you could find out the DNA and who did it if they didn’t use a condom by going to the hospital

[Asker]

Thank you for answering. Yes I know it's not possible to sleep through it. I provided my blood sample for detecting if I was drugged, would get the result maybe tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Surely there are some medical tests to confirm sexual intercourse.

[Asker]

Okay thank you for the answer!!

[Anonymous]

Go to the nearest hospital and ask them about a rape kit.

[Asker]

Okay but do I need to file a police report before asking for the rape kit?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. Whether or not you file a police report is entirely independent of getting a rape kit at a hospital.

[Asker]

I was just reading about it and It's been more than 24 hours since the incident is over and also I took a shower in the morning since I was feeling so terrible.

[Opinion Owner]

That isn't ideal; but better late than never. Plus if it was rape their will likely be vaginal tearing; which would take some time to heal.

[Asker]

Okay thanks for the advice!!

[Anonymous]

I saw a comment of yours saying that your nightwear and underwear were out of place. If that's the case then most likely it's not from the deep sleep but most likely due to something untoward. I feel there was at least some sort of sexual act involved, because you are married and if you feel something fishy then in all probability your feeling is right. It maybe tour husband too.

[Asker]

If it's my husband then I may forget about it gradually but still its wrong. In no way anyine has right to invade the privacy of a sleeping person. The moment I woke up I felt like I had sex, but I was too unconscious in my sleep to remember anything.

[Opinion Owner]

Just reading through all the comments and updates here it appears to me that you were drugged and raped in your sleep. Don't get me wrong but am sorry to say this and i think that all 3 of his colleagues were involved and I won't be surprised if your husband knows about it. You mentioned somewhere that your husband told at 11 pm they were done with the work and they slept only at 2.00 am. I doubt they were playing cards but instead each of them having their own way with you probably in turns and covering up their trails. Remember three hours gap is a long time.