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Sexual Health I feel that someone had sex with me while I was asleep? Any medical tests to find out?
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This is about Saturday night. My husband and three of his colleagues were at our home that evening to discuss and work on an official project. I prepared them dinner, and after dinner they were having drinks. I usually don't drink but they compelled me to have a glass of rum as a token of thanks for being such a nice host. As I saw no signs of them leaving and they still had some work pending, I just bid them goodnight and went off to sleep in our bedroom as I was feeling damn sleepy. I woke up today morning and I feel something off physically about myself. I just checked on my husband and noticed that he and his colleagues all were still sleeping in the hall. I am feeling so disturbed and I feel that there's something really fishy. Advices would be much appreciated.
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And also I haven't informed my husband about my concerns as i feel he wouldn't believe me because I can't prove it.
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what makes you think that way?
did you find anything slippery inside your vagina?
I am feeling something odd physically hence am thinking like that. Usually the feeling that I get after having sex.
you can have the same feelings once you recovering from a hangover.
I only had a glass of rum but I passed out because I don't drink usually. The things are maybe it's a odd to speak about it here but I felt kinda stretched. Felt exhausted and was sore on some parts of the body.
you know your body better than me. but do you suspect anyone? anyone from the colleagues showed extra attention to you during the conversation?
I mean everyone was eager to speak with me during the dinner and also they asked me to hang on for the drinks, but since they had work I left off because I wasn't able to stay awake and then i just changed to my nightgown and slept off. I don't remember anything afterwards.
Anyways thanks for the help here. I know it's a very vague situation and there's hardly any evidence other than my feeling. But I know something's wrong, I am not even able to sleep.
in conclusion. I should say, don't take stress, dont bother too much about the situation, let it go and better don't share anything with your husband.
I'm pretty sure you would have woken up if someone were fucking you unless you were drugged, there isn't really a test but you can check if u find sperm anywhere?
Also I do think if they did anything, they would have left the crime scene so to say and not have still been there the next morning.
Hopefully everything is fine and am just over thinking, but I was really unconscious in my sleep and maybe it was because I never drunk rum before. The physical discomfort the next morning is the thing that's bothering me
I understand the feeling, I felt like that ones to when I blacked out from vodka but it was really all in my head. I can't say for sure but I don't think anyone would fuck you in ur sleep while ur husband is home, and for it to have gone fully unnoticed. Does ur bedframe sound a lot? If so that should also have woken up if not you then somebody. Were they drunk too? Cause drunk guys aren't exactly gracious and quite, making it even harder to go up and do something with you.
Yes they were drinking too. My bed doesn't quite sound a lot. If I would have woke up fine the next morning I wouldn't have been worried but I felt the same way like after the act!!
Hmm, okey if anything happened to you while sleeping, I would lean more towards someone fingering or going down on you. Not fucking you.
Okay thank you for providing a valuable opinion!!
No problem ❤❤ hope it works out for you
Go to your gynecologist
I went to her already and expresses my concern today. Examination revealed trauma.
Did you look for a used condom or condom wrapper?
Yes I did look for it, couldn't find it. I doubt it would have been dumped or flushed in the toilet commode of my bathroom because the water inside looked very lathery, but am not sure
That’s pretty hard to sleep through that but I suppose you could find out the DNA and who did it if they didn’t use a condom by going to the hospital
Thank you for answering. Yes I know it's not possible to sleep through it. I provided my blood sample for detecting if I was drugged, would get the result maybe tomorrow.
Surely there are some medical tests to confirm sexual intercourse.
Okay thank you for the answer!!
Go to the nearest hospital and ask them about a rape kit.
Okay but do I need to file a police report before asking for the rape kit?
Nope. Whether or not you file a police report is entirely independent of getting a rape kit at a hospital.
I was just reading about it and It's been more than 24 hours since the incident is over and also I took a shower in the morning since I was feeling so terrible.
That isn't ideal; but better late than never. Plus if it was rape their will likely be vaginal tearing; which would take some time to heal.
Okay thanks for the advice!!
I saw a comment of yours saying that your nightwear and underwear were out of place. If that's the case then most likely it's not from the deep sleep but most likely due to something untoward. I feel there was at least some sort of sexual act involved, because you are married and if you feel something fishy then in all probability your feeling is right. It maybe tour husband too.
If it's my husband then I may forget about it gradually but still its wrong. In no way anyine has right to invade the privacy of a sleeping person. The moment I woke up I felt like I had sex, but I was too unconscious in my sleep to remember anything.
Just reading through all the comments and updates here it appears to me that you were drugged and raped in your sleep. Don't get me wrong but am sorry to say this and i think that all 3 of his colleagues were involved and I won't be surprised if your husband knows about it. You mentioned somewhere that your husband told at 11 pm they were done with the work and they slept only at 2.00 am. I doubt they were playing cards but instead each of them having their own way with you probably in turns and covering up their trails. Remember three hours gap is a long time.