I feel uncomfortable sexually around my dad what should I do?

I feel uncomfortable around my dad, since some years he has been acting very strange. He Hides it and doesn't say anything but I know something is off. Im almost 14 and im already growing. I caught my dad staring at my ass multiple times and he thinks I dont see it. He sometimes touches it or spanks as a joke like he used to do when i was a kid but im grown enough to find it uncomfortable now. I told him to stop but he thinks im joking. I have cats ale they leave a lot of fur so I always have to clean it with a sticky paper roll because my clothes have fur all around. He always asks me if he could help me with clearing it on the back, I once let him and he used it really hard to make my ass jiggle even my mom told him its weird. Once we were at a pool and I was scared to go down a slide so I told him to catch me when I was sliding into the pool, he catched my pants (swimsuit pants) while catching me to make my ass visible. I also know he watches porn A LOT of porn. After all that I know about him I feel extremly uncomfortable around him what should I do?

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I also want to clarify that I won't speak to a friend about this since they won't come to my house anymore for example because they will be scared of my dad. I won't talk with him about that because he will wonder where I get those thoughts from or why would I ever think about this kind of thing about my own father same with my Mother, she will do that or just laugh at me. And I won't tell a therapist because they will tell my parents..
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  • Sadly I experienced two girls with this predicament when I was a girls soccer coach in the States. I had two sisters on my team. One was shy but very much clingy to me (which I was to find out later that she felt safe around me) her elder sister equally happy to be there. Cut a long story short. The girls invited us over for dinner and their Mom agreed. Clearly they were trying to show us something without saying. The girls were totally different when their Dad came home. One shrank back and the elder made herself scarce.

    We instantly picked up on this body language and suggested the authorities talk to the girls. Which they duly did. This had started off the same way and the younger girl knew she was next. The elder sister had been abused for two years. Suffice to say he was arrested and jailed.

    The best thing you can do is tell someone you trust implicitly what is going on and do it urgently. Fortunately for my two soccer kids we saw the signs they'd deliberately laid out for us. Tell someone.

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  • Do you have any other relative you can confide in who might speak to your dad about his behavior? Are you certain you can’t speak to your mom about this? I would try. She might listen to you more than you think. She may not realize everything that you’ve experienced and how it makes you feel. Women are usually more sensitive to this issue. Also, when he does something that makes you uncomfortable, tell him. You don’t have to call him a pervert or anything but stand up for yourself. Just tell him that makes you very uncomfortable and can he please not do that anymore. When you don’t say anything, it sometimes gives people a mental green light for their inappropriate behavior. Sometimes firm confrontation deters them because it’s a open acknowledgment of the inappropriateness. If you have to confide in someone outside the home, like a therapist, be aware that they may be required to report suspected abuse to child welfare. So be prepared for that but if you can’t get help any other way, that’s what they are there for. Don’t suffer in silence.

  • First, you mention that you are almost 14 years old. Your profile age indicates a range of (18-24). If you would like your age changed because you made a mistake on signing up for the site, please click this profile @girlsaskguys and ask them to adjust the age.

    This situation is most disturbing. You need to find a trusted adult in your life and tell them what is going on. How can it be that he has not been caught doing these weird and very sexual behaviours to you?

    I'm sorry to say this, but sounds like your father is a sexual predator and pedophile. You could be in great danger. It will only get worse from here and how do you know what it stops with?

    Right now, it is bad enough. However, how far will he take it? What is the next thing he will do to feed his deviant behaviours? You need to find a trusted adult and tell them everything.

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  • You either have to let it go or you have to take 10 steps out of the picture and really really look at it from somebody else's eyes is this what's really happening and if it is you have to set him down and explain to him the way he's going about treating you as a daughter it's freaking you out and you don't want to be freaked out I had a friend she's 24 now but she told me it was a story about something of the same nature and it was just a crazy weird thing

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  • Have you mentioned this to anyone else? Are your parents in the same household? If so, what did your Mom say? Has she noticed it too?

  • Your dad clearly has an inappropriate interest in you, and this is something that you should talk to your mother about, and have her talk to him. The power dynamic would make this go nowhere if you do it yourself, but you need to address this, because although guys start becoming sexually attracted to girls when they're mid-teens, there should be a line drawn when it comes to family (and of course respect the law regarding age of consent).

  • That's creepy 😳

  • If he's hiding his evil intentions then you should be the one to uncover them , please seek help if needed

  • Tell an adult you trust. ASAP.

  • Tell Children's Services about your dad, and make someone be known of what's going on.

  • My dad always "checked me out" and still does. But nothing more. Talk to your mum.

  • wtf... that's f'd up. You need to tell your mom asap

  • Have you told your mother about this?

    • You can't tell a relative you trust?

  • Geez. What a damn tragedy and weirdo. Seriously tell him to stop immediately..

  • Please tell a close adult relative or friend about this. Nothing to be ashamed of. If he’s doing this he needs to be stopped.

  • Talk to your mom asap !!

  • Talk to ur mom
    Its weird
    A dad never should behave like this to his daughter

  • Be careful dear