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I'll try to keep this short but I feel like it's going to be long, sorry. So... I'm 18 and this is the first guy I've actually dated (I'm really shy). I'm a virgin and I told him many times that I don't want to have sex anytime soon because I don't feel ready. He seemed nice at first and I thought he understood and respected my desicion but today I felt pressured to do things that I didn't really want to do. For instance, I wouldn't have minded giving him a blowjob if I knew the favor would be returned. But after he ordered me to 'suck his dick', I asked him how would he like it if I ordered him to 'eat my pussy' and he said that he doesn't want to eat me out! So I said that he doesn't deserve a BJ then, but he said he does because he 'always pleasures me', which is not true, because what he does doesn't feel good. When he touches me down there, he's too rough and it actually really hurts! I try to help him & show him how I like to be touched but he gets annoyed and says that he knows what he's doing and he knows how to finger a girl better than me (yeah, right!). When I tell him to stop he thinks I'm just playing and when I tell him it hurts, he says 'it's supposed to hurt at first' (it's never supposed to hurt, I'm pretty sure). He also said he'll eat me out only if I have sex with him (I think he was joking but still). Anyways, since he kept asking for a blowjob, I did it, and now I feel kinda gross because I feel a little used and disrespected, especially since he was pushing my head and I don't like that. I don't know, I just feel like crying for some reason... I don't know what to do now. Should I try talking to him and explaining how I feel? Or just never talk to him again? Help?
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I talked to him about it and he apologized and said he didn't mean to pressure me, he was "just horny". He said we can take things slow if that's what I want but I told him to go find another girl to fuck because I'm not going to keep wasting my time with an asshole like him.
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What Girls & Guys Said
14 13The fact your boyfriend wanted a bj is normal.
The fact your brain refuses to return the favor and won't listen to your advice around what you like - those are big red flags.
He sounds like a douche. You don't have to settle for this crap. Plenty more decent guys out there who can be considerate.