Part of being a grown-up is that you can DISCUSS things, and you can set boundaries and expectations. It doesn't sound like you did any of those things, and so you both made assumptions that didn't match up. That's what commonly happens when you can't have a conversation about things and set expectations and boundaries.
What the guy did isn't necessarily wrong - maybe the last girl he was with loved it just that way - it just wasn't what you wanted. But how is he to know what you wanted, if you haven't told him? He can't read your mind, so it's YOUR job to have that conversation. Now, if you DID have that conversation and he ignored it, then kick him to the curb. But if you didn't, then you can't be mad at him for not being a mind-reader. There's no "official guide" to what women like - there's no right or wrong answer - there's only your own personal preferences, and if you haven't told him what those were, you certainly can't hold him to them.
The solution is to HAVE that conversation, and to tell him how you felt, but also tell him that you realize that you should have had the conversation ahead of time, and you can't fault him - but now that you've had it, you never want him to make you feel that way again. Thus, you will have set boundaries and expectations.
I agree.
This is stupid!! It’s just common sense not to do this to a anyone. He’s not a child he knows what he was doing so why does she have to explain it? U just don’t treat people like this it’s completely wrong and disgusting
I agree with @applepie24.
Wow that guy is fucked up I'm sorry that happened to you hey your not a who're not even close your a beautiful girl who knows a guy that needs his ass kicked girls women are bad ass and this is when I wish all women new how to protect themselves I can't tell you how to feel or even let it go because I feel you right now and there is know way I as a guy couldn't let it go just because it's so wrong. And he's going to do it again until someone walks up to him and plants his face or jail. I'm sorry but you need to find yourself fast and always know you are beautiful girl. And that's who you will always be fuck that guy he will get his
I’m sorry that sounded _awful— 🤢
You know Oddly to me, A lot of people like a quick f*ck they think the less intimacy the hotter... so he doesn’t necessarily see it as he was treating you badly. I e he doesn’t have to think badly of you to have sex in that way..
Since you really were turned off from the beginning, what made you want to go through with it?
Just wondering. I don’t in anything way mean you did a bad thing. It’s your choice... I just know I’d be repulsed too -I totally relate- and I don’t think I could go through with that.
Ok I feel weird with my first reaction. It was horrible in my opinion and in you’re bc it’s not our precinct BUT you were there it wasn’t what you wanted but you went along with it. How is he supposed to know what you wanted if you don’t speak up. Also in case it you are in a dangerous situation in the future you wed to learn to say stop in situations you are not comfortable with. People don’t have a right to do what whatever they want to you. No matter who they are. But he also can’t know what you are not ok with if you didn’t communicate. There was no reason to continue if it disgusted you. Flip it around... Would you want a guy to humor you during a sexual act that disgusted him or tell you he wants to stop and or how hed rather Do it?
But did you at any time tell him,"hey slow down, let's enjoy this make it last" Did you at any time before, during, or after tell him that's not the way you prefer to do things? If you just went along with whatever he wanted without enjoying it, then it's on you as well... You need to be able to express your needs, desires upfront and honestly... Or don't do it if it doesn'tfeel right to you
I agree.
There was no communication and there’s no way of knowing who likes what. Some girls make fun of Guys for not being animals he wpuidbt know she hates it. 🤷♀️
@VIVANT exactly!!
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Omg girl i am so sorry that this happened to you. It's horrible that you left the situation feeling disgusted. Sex is supposed to be fun and beautiful leaving both parties fulfilled and happy. I would ghost him all the way. cut him out immediately.
What a cur!! You're the wronged party here. Stay away from him.
So did you object or protest in any way?
I’m sorry that you had a bad experience... but now you know never to sleep with him again and to also be more forceful in the future about what you want. “I know that doesn’t fix the harm from the past... but it will help it from happening again”.
do you still like him was it your first time.. his first time if yes to all then you should talk to him about it tell him how it made you feel I'm sure if he cares anything about you he'll apologize and then you might can do what you feel is right
If he lasted longer and you got some pleasure from it would it make you feel better? Maybe you should bring it up to him why he doesn't act like he likes you for anything other than your pussy. Or quit letting him get the pussy and see how he acts
if he made you feel uncomfortable with it, and the feeling lingers, then he better eating you out for 3 square meals a day, until you decide to lift the ban and re-enstate, what should be recognized as the privilege of having you
sorry you had to go through the bullshit
he obviously has different ideas about your desires to you and it sounds like if you are feeling disgusted and used, then the solution is clear... tell him no... walk away, and let him realise that he cannot use you in ways you are not ok with... however you can say "no" at any point... and if he refused to accept that then you can have him done for rape...
just cos you are with someone doesn't mean you have to be ok with whatever they want to do... there are two people in that situation... and both should be valued equally, however if one or the other doesn't want what the other is offering then they need to stop it... not allow it to go on.
Do away with this guy.
He's not in the slight bit interested in pleasing you, all he wants is your pussy and to use you. Dump him, stay away from him and find a guy that respects you and wants to cause you much pleasure.
You the sex was bad when you know exactly how long it lasted
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That’s horrible!!
Let him go
he's an asshat
Sometimes quick like that is what's up sometimes a lot more time needed. I don't know a lot if the situation or history but if this was the first time u fucked him not good! If this is someone who most of the time the intimacy is good and you get plenty of positive attention and kisses then no worried but I'm guessing that's not the case.. make him earn it!!
It's time to have a little chat. Explain how you felt.
Use "I" statements as much as possible, ie., "I felt cheated because be didn't have foreplay before sex", etc.
If he can't treat you as more than a Fleshlight sleeve, then it's time to move on to a guy capable of enjoying you while he respects you.
Umm ok... Well it definitely sounds like he's selfish in bed.
He was a pig and doesn't know how to treat a lady that was practically the way a rape goes down but just with a willing partner. drop him and find a real man
Stop that loser, you desrve so much more... He sounds like an arrogant asshole.
He did use you, and you should never talk to him again. But did you tell him to stop?
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