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I found escort pages on my boyfriend's laptop?

So while I was trying to show my boyfriend a car I'm interested into buying on backpage, the backpage escort page comes up in the search bar. I was shocked to say the least, then I checked his history and he was looking at couple of ads on backpage and craigslist for one hour... He was next to me the whole time and to his defense he said that his cousin was using his desktop and that went on those pages while my boyfriend was next to him but he doesn't have anything to do with it. I don't believe him obviously but I don't what to do. I stopped talking to him for today because he drove me crazy, I can't believe that he would do that to me... not to mention that we were long distance for 2 years and that I left everything I had to move here for him. What does it mean when a guy looks for escorts online? Thank you...
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  • "So while I was trying to show my boyfriend a car I'm interested into buying on backpage, the backpage escort page comes up in the search bar. I was shocked to say the least, then I checked his history and he was looking at couple of ads on backpage and craigslist for one hour..."

    ^guess he doesn't hide it... otherwise he'll be smart enough to clear his history in my opinion...

    "He was next to me the whole time and to his defense he said that his cousin was using his desktop and that went on those pages while my boyfriend was next to him but he doesn't have anything to do with it. "

    ^maybe he was honest... as i said above if he did he'd clear his history... unless he's a very naive person in general...

    " I don't believe him obviously but I don't what to do. I stopped talking to him for today because he drove me crazy, I can't believe that he would do that to me... not to mention that we were long distance for 2 years and that I left everything I had to move here for him. What does it mean when a guy looks for escorts online?"

    ^here's wot u should do.. just tell him to not bring his cousin at yer home for a while... and also ask him to not clear his internet history... just in order to prove he's honest.

    how does it sound?

    • It's like his work laptop which is at his office, no one goes there and i happened to surprise him yesterday so he didn't expect me coming. As I said, he has no reason to clear his history because he is the only there, he works at a warehouse by the way.

    • "It's like his work laptop which is at his office, no one goes there and i happened to surprise him yesterday so he didn't expect me coming. As I said, he has no reason to clear his history because he is the only there, he works at a warehouse by the way." ^oh so there it goes... he didn't xpect u so he didn't think about clearin his history... so if nobody goes there neither his cousin did... anyway... he might've been searchin for escorts in order just to masturbate (but masturbatin on da office? nah... ) but still if this was true he'd not bring his cousin as an xcuse i believe... unless he said it when he was in shock... anyway... possible answer's (not 100% accurate yet) he doesn't feel sexually satisfied wid u... so he's lookin for escorts :)

  • Your 1st problem... You checked his history. Mind your damn business.
    2nd Problem... You have trust issues so you are on a self destructive path and are more a problem for your relationship than what he may or may not have done or potentially may do.
    "I can't believe he would do that to me" <--- you don't know this to be true, you are assuming.

    But IF he did, SO WHAT! He hired a female to get some pleasure when he couldn't get it elsewhere. He didn't go out and find a girl he "liked" or "got to know", he went out and fucked a person without ANY emotional attachment. It's no different than a girl going to a male masseuse for a stress release. You simply make it a big deal because it involves his penis and as a female you associate sex with emotional connection. Women sometimes get off from stupid shit like a massage and it's considered fine because "no one touched her vagina" but it's the same shit. The body was touched and the orgasm happened. Why does a male getting off require such demonization. He paid for a service and that was it.
    *** IF he did it at all ***
    I sometimes look at backpage hookers and have NEVER been to one.

    • He was next to me when I searched his history, why am I supposed to do? Just let it go... I wanted to see if that's a habit of his. He has a past of sketchy behavior, he used to go on tinder, flirt with girls he got to know.. he did all that and now he does this. So I'm very confused...

    • He was right next to you and he didn't freak out, so it sounds like he didn't have anything to hide. It sounds like you are just being a hypersensitive psycho chick. His past of "sketchy" behavior is based on "your" definition of sketchy. Going on Tinder and flirting is harmless, you may not know that you do this but every day as a female, you flirt every time you speak to a male. It's a subconscious thing women do because they love male attention. Men on the other hand do not get this attention as easily and him trying to get it else where simply makes him feel appreciated and in turn happier. I have never been with a hooker, I have never cheated, I love my wife more than anything, and she is beautiful... actually she is so beautiful that people constantly wonder why she doesn't model... but I STILL enjoy the interest of other females and I STILL take interest in females. I won't ever do anything but the attention is nice. It makes me feel like I am worth enough to deserve her...

    • ... because other females are attracted to me, then I feel happier and more confident and it makes me come home and be happier and more loving to her for being that girl who loves me.

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  • He could have had an intention to cheat on you with one, or he could have been curious. I don't know. I look up really weird stuff online all of the time and it doesn't mean anything. I'm sure I'm not the only one either. And frankly If I was dating someone who suddenly based the fate of our entire relationship on my search history... Id think twice about staying with that person. Give him room to explain, and if he doesn't have a past with sketchy behavior give him the benefit of the doubt. He could have honestly just been reasearxhing that stuff with his cousin out of curiosity.

    • He has a sketchy past :( he has been going on tinder and met girls, pretended to be single, and now he does this... I'm kinda thrown off.

    • Oh well in that case escort him out of your life! What else are you waiting for? If he did stuff like this to you in the past and you forgave it chances are he's going to do it again thinking he can earn your forgiveness. It's how people work unfortunately. It sucks when you love them.. But if they make the same mistake twice they don't respect you or the relationship enough to change. Some still can, but it's extremely rare.

  • I don't know what to say her

    Those were escort pages and not porn pages

    Which shows some actual curiousity, if not interest in using those services.

    I wouldn't feel good about it and would b suspicious too

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  • sounds like a red flag to me

  • What type of escort?
    And , if u want him to think that u believed him , talk to him normally (u said that u haven't spoke to him today) so dont do something out of ur routine...

  • Escort him out the car daw while it's movin

  • leave him NOW!

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