I fulfilled a fantasy of my boyfriends and now he hates me?

Boyfriend always had a fantasy of me sucking a guys cock and sending him the pics/videos. So I did that recently. And when I surprised him with it he got really mad and said I don’t know how I feel , you cheated on me. I’m devastated, he always talked about wanting to see me do that. Now I’m worried I’ve ruined our relationship and he feels differently about me. I only did it for him. What do I do?

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  • lmao this has gotta be a troll, but i'll indulge.

    People have many fantasies they don't ever intend to carry out or experience. Some fantasies are just better off staying in the head to make a moment hotter by thinking about it while in reality they would ruin something. Unless he specifically said "you should go suck some dudes dick", then you basically just cheated and using him as the excuse. There's a difference between "i want to see you do it" and "you should actually do it".

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  • when discussing it with him, did he want to pick the guy out, or want to be there etc? if you two communicated about this scenario those would be important details to know before you did it. if it was something you both talked about and wanted to do it should have been talked about down to the littlest of details instead of just doing it. i guess thats what set him off, or possibly it was just BS and talk on his behalf. not sure what you can do to be honest. somethings are best left as a fantasy and to be topics of talk with no intentions behind it. that old adage of be careful what you wish for cause you just might get it.

  • It sounds like he was not actually prepared for reality of his fantasy and now feels conflicted and confused about what he really wants. You're in a difficult position because you did what he asked, but now he's not comfortable with it. It's important for you to reassure him that you love him and did what you did because you thought he would enjoy it. Let him know how much you care about him and that you want to support him through any feelings he has. Be patient with his emotions and talk through things together.

    • This is the best answer here. He's conflicted when faced with the reality and he feels differently than he thought he would. He needs loads of reassurance.

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  • Your boyfriend has watched too much porn and was not prepared for it. Give him space to cool off and approach him again.

    If he can't reconcile over this how the hell is he going to feel about even greater disagreements or when the small one's pile up overtime?

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  • its cause people dont know the difference between fantasy and reality. if he is to leave you over it than so be it

  • This sounds like a troll question. Basically bullshit. Try harder, you don't get "troll of the day" for this simple bull crap.

    I fulfilled a fantasy of my boyfriends and now he hates me?
    • There’s just too many levels of obscurity- The guy asks for something, the guy gets something, the guy gets upset, the girl gets upset that the guy is upset and the guy she cheated with is nowhere to be found - like what happened to him? He’s gotta be very confused

  • If he asked for this then he is being completely unreasonable. The fault is entirely on him.

    People need to recognize the difference between things that are fun in fantasy and those that are fun in reality

  • Find a guy that's already looked up the word hypocrisy in the dictionary.

  • All u can do is try to explain yourself but u are fucked some fantasys are just that not real or need extream levels of understanding before doing as clearly in his eyes u didn't do him a favour u cheated

    • But he always said how hot it would be if I surprised him like this is something we’ve spoke about lots

    • Spoke about the theory clearly not the doing did u speak about what would be OK or not ok

    • Well we pretty much did. He said he doesn’t want to know if I’m going to do it just surprise him and I did just that and now he hates me

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  • smh find a new boyfriend i guess

  • It's not your fault; a lot of people think they can handle adventurous sexual stuff like that that they actually can't. You might have had better luck if he had more warning/prep for it. Like maybe he picked the guy out, or something.

    The reality is that you didn't do anything wrong. If the guy said he wanted to see it , then you had permission.

  • @basedbaebecca said it so perfectly. Nothing more can be added

    The only thing I can think of is that he wanted to pick the guys, but I'm really just guessing

  • Unfortunately fantasies re like that especially if it involves something humiliating being done, you never really know how you will feel once it is done and the novelty has worn off.

    People should not enter these things lightly.

    The other thing is how do you know it was not just a fantasy, did you discuss it beforehand or did he just mention it.

  • The dude must've had a bigger D than him and it hurt his feelings

    That same shyt happened to a female who got her husband to open up the marriage so she could 'explore'. I met her on the nauughty section of Reddit. She sent him videos of me blowing her back out in doggy and he got mad, even though he said it was fine for her to go out and have other dudes bang her.

  • He probably wanted to be there while you did it and you probably should of told him when you was going to do it. He also probably wanted to pick the guy. I am not sure what you can do to salvage your relationship other ask him what you need to do to stay with him.

  • This guy sounds like he has serious issues, and him saying he would like to see that is a huge red flag. Find a better guy who isn't a sick weirdo.

  • What else can you do, but move on and never give into fantasies again unless you ask first.

  • Sounds sus.

  • I’m really hoping you sent the picture as a meme or a video with Toby Keith’s “How do you like me now” playing.

  • Well sounds like your guys a real peace of work. If the relationship is over, you will be able to find someone better.

  • Oooh, that 'fantasy that involves another' is moatly that, I think.
    Luckily for me, I don't have such fantasies.

  • Guys often think that what turns them on in fantasy will trun them on IRL. When it happens, they find out that doesn't work, especially with cuckhold stuff like this. Not much you can do.

  • You got it wrong, he wants to take pictures of you sucking HIS cock.

  • You are stupid. Before doing you should have told him you are doing it and if he's fine with it.

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