I gave him a HJ because he told me he has ED?

My boyfriend told me he has ED since fabruary. We didn't have sex in 3 month
Because he said he has depression and stress and not in the mood and he tried to get it hard and it won't work
He tried to jerk off , he couldnt get it hard
I gave him an erotic massage and it perfectly worked
I mean it took maybe 20 -25 minutes to get him hard
I was touching and touching and it was kinda hung soft... I thought it won't respond to my touching. started to worry.
But with balls massages little by little he became hard and came
wouldn't say it was too much tho... I thought after 3 month he gonna have more cum?
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  • Cum lives up to 5-6 days in its tanks, then is replaced. Considering apparently he can't get off from anti-depressants and stuff, you jerked him off for 30 minutes but only the last were "real", so he shoot as if you jerked him 2 minutes. To back-up a bigger orgasm, you need to build-up the orgasm: long foreplay with ups and downs, edging etc...
    Cum doesn't work like a "tank" really, if you jerk off a guy 2 hours after he came, but you edge him for 2 hours, he'll have a huge and super long load, if you go super quick after a month, he'll have a normal one. But in his state, I think getting him to cum alone is quite the task, edging him risks having him lose it when you struggled to get him there, if you want to give him more pleasure, check if that works, and have him be as relaxed as possible

    Depression is a socio-cognitive condition, especially if it's about stress, while medication is important, it's communication and chinging his life conditions that matters, finding out in his environment what's crushing him is the real key: work? Precarity? Pressure? Society? Family? Sad events? Unadressed neurodivergence and mental troubles, anxiety or alike? Consider adressing "the real stuff" if you hope to get over the cycle, and reassure him his current trouble with ED is caused by medication, adress it with a professional and see if other things can do the trick for day to day life.

    • I had the same thought about edging I think its too early. first i need to stsbilize his orgasm and make sure he loses his stress over not getting hard

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  • Anonymous because I want to keep this conversation private.

    Food for thought.
    As far as I can tell, "semen reloading" is not connected with ED. Even though I have ED due to medical issues, I have still cum twice in one day. My breakthrough has been with the use of two toys concurrently. One is a "blow job simulator", that includes sucking and vibration and the other is an anal vibrator. I do get a soft erection when I do this and do not cum quite as strongly as I did as a teen, but it is still adequate. The key is to hit all the hot spots at the same time. I have not asked my partner to do this for me because the "simulator" is very interactive and I use certain moves dependent on what i need at the moment.

    My partner can get me off some of the time with the erotic massage approach. I can get a soft erection from it, but it fades and I have to give up for the session. However, she has become skilled at anal/prostate fingering added to the erotic massage and I cum much more reliably when it is added. I have written this "My Take" about it.
    "Prostate Massage" properly done: Supercharging a HJ or BJ with anal play ↗
    This is an act of loving sexual therapy for your partner. The effort is worth it.

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  • Well just because you guys didn’t have sex for 3 months doesn’t mean he didn’t jack off in 3 months, …. cause I’d bet the farm that he masturbated quite regularly in that time period.

    • He said he tried and it didn't work it didn't get hard

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  • Well, we don't turn into high pressure resevoirs when unable to get off for a while, otherwise every military basic training would have "jack time" written into the daily schedule.

    Man, he needs to take some clonazepam or something. If his stress and depression are bad enough for his dick not to work, imagine how hard it is to face the day. Encourage him to get help more so then pumping. Though that is a form of help in relaxation.

    • He takes lots of sleep and oain killers and anti depresents i think it affects him too I dunno wtf is wrong I even thought he lies so he won't fuck me

    • Could be the painkillers playing a part there. I was supposed to take them for months after my shoulder surgery but quit after about 2 weeks and switched to muscle relaxers because it was tough to get hard and impossible to get off on them. Anti-depressants can kill your sex drive as well. I don't think he's lying to you to get out of having sex, just really messed up and unable to. Sex is a pretty important part of a sexual relationship though. You have to weigh out what's enough, or not, for yourself.

  • He should be evaluated by a doctor. There are different causes for ED. Some are physical, some are emotional. Finding the cause may help him overcome the ED. The fact that he does get hard and does cum means that it can be overcome. Knowing what is going on will help you arouse him to full hardness and get him to cum. He should get comfortable and relaxed, and you can do the things that get him hard, including the blow job. He has to be hard for PIV sex, but oral can give him a very similar feeling without him having to be hard. It should work every time. And he should not use alcohol or drugs to relax with you. That will make it harder to cum for him.

  • Dr. eval good idea to see if someting going on, but generally speaking:

    Meditation 2x day for 20min.
    Stress reduction... mental is real stress
    Exercise... HIIT type.
    Drink more water

    That solves most problems.

    For him, cut the drugs and start working on the damaged heart. Find Jesus./counselor

    • you're a good girlfriend, very caring, I hope he appreciates you.

    • He only drabk apple juice while with me yesterday!! While when alone he can takes 7 beers

    • He told me thank you I said he doesn't need to tell me that I felt a bit weird He calmed and said he didn't mean in THAT bad way you know So i was more chill ... i guess he appreciates i care about his sex health I said i want sex with him but until then i guess we need to do this relaxing sexy thungs together so he sees i won't leave him and im willing to help and ha e patience

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  • Good for you foe helping him out. Guys love handjobs. Is he taking any anti depression meds? Many of them can suppress sex drive and orgasms.

    • Yes he does and weed and pain killers

  • First of all you should feel really good about yourself that you were the one who excited him enough to snap out of his crippling condition. And secondly, not all men have gallons of semen like the ones shown in porn. Good for you

  • He really needs to see a doctor to make sure there are no underlying health conditions causing it.

  • If he gets hard for a hand job then he doesn't have erectile dysfunction

    • He said he couldnt get hard on his own It took me some time Generally he was getting rock hard after kissing While now i was touching his cock and only after 20 or 30 minutes it got hard

    • I'm sure we've talked about this before.

  • If not much semen, then he is probably jacking off alone.

  • Take him to a doc

    • Why Is this bad?

    • Well if he actually got ED, he needs to be treated. At least he came so it doesn't seem too bad

    • But it took 20 minutes to get hard Its not normal While when he was ok in 5 minutes of kissng he was rock hard

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  • your body doesn't keep storing the stuff, it just degrades naturally and is replaced.
    About 10cc is the average amount, so quantity has nothing to do with enjoyment.
    some guys are like a dam breaking, others like a leaky faucet.

    • Oh. but i did make him cum with my hj... i did good?

    • you bet you did good, I'm sure he appreciated your patiences and understanding, and for the happy ending. so yes you did just fine.

  • Sometimes erotic massages are what works
    not all time does actual sex does it and you
    can't blame yourself... I don't date gorgeous
    girls I like plain jane type of girls well my ex-GF's
    got mad cause I wouldn't have sex with them
    it just so happens that I couldn't do it and my
    second girlfriend, I pleasured her and got her off
    but when she returned the favor I just couldn't
    do it I feel bad that I made both of them feel bad
    but I gave myself mind-blowing orgasms with
    cumming

  • It's not like an oil tanker, there's only so much cum a guy can have even if it's been a while.

    Nice of you to help out your x.

    • Yeah I mean We had a talk I said ill support him We can do little thing until his mental state is more calm and stable I want to give him nice BJ next time And even edge him

    • I was hinest I said i want sex with him And im willing to massge him and make him cum see how it works so i can make him come back at his normal sexual state

  • If he's not been aroused then the volume won't necessarily be high. If he's been aroused for a while and not ejaculated, then he'll cum more.
    I hurt my back and have had trouble with ED ever since. Viagra gives me headaches, so bad I feel like a blood vessel is going to burst. I was worried.
    Then I remembered... lesbians don't have cocks. So I upped my oral game, toys and fingers. So SHE is satisfied, most important.

    Someone in here told me about watermelon. It helps. Then I kept digging. Oysters, celery, cayanne pepper tea, saw palmetto capsules, dark chocolate. A little red wine.

    I don't know which one is the most effective because I am trying them all. Every body is different. Tell him not to give up hope.
    And just because his dick isn't working perfectly doesn't ever give him an excuse to not make sure you're satisfied... ever!

    • How to properly arouse him? I mean i gave massage and it was rwlaxing But what about good arousal?

    • He didn't do anytjing yesteefay to me I wasn't into mood of getting some I wanted to give and see what happens Want him to feel a wanted man and that im extra sexy unique girlfriend for him

    • He should be willing to give, regardless.

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  • Yes he should have lots of cum. I'm guessing he is jerking off.

    • He told me he didn't He couldt get it hard on his own

  • He needs to see a doctor and be checked out. Hope it cums for you.

    • Why tho... he did cum yesteeday

  • Yeah. I would go see a doctor. I don't know what he has.. but I’ve heard it could be low testosterone or something. He just needs to get that all checked out

  • The cum id the same amount. It's more likely to shoot out if you haven't cummed in a while

    • Shoot out? what it means I thought ammount would be bigger

    • If you cum frequently it's more likely it will dribble out. Yet regardless of whether it shoots or dribbles the amount is unchanged

    • He didn't cum in 3 months he says

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  • Nope, it is always the same among men, because men are not like cows. We don't get fuller and fuller with milk... lol 2 tablespoons is about average, even if it's been 10 years since his last orgasm, cam you imagine his testicles growing, week by week... month by month... LOL Bowling balls...

    • It was more than that But thnx

  • Hey definitely jacked off or got off some how if I didn't have sexy in three months I'd be backed up

    • What backed up means? He says he didn't... it didn't get hard when he tried he told me

    • Back up mean you have a lot of cum because you haven't released any in a long time. Maybe he didn't masturbate but if he only had a little bit of cum he got off some how

    • He says he didn't

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  • How old? Is he fat?

    • No 44 180 and skinny

    • Something is going on.. my first limp dick surprise was at 47... it was hard and then it wasn't.

    • Once i was naked sitting on him and still he didn't get hard

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