I gave my boyfriend a bj for the first time and he doesn’t feel much?

He says he doesn’t really feel anything

he says he feel something a little bit in moments but mostly doesn’t feel much at all..

is this normal?

does it mean he doesn’t find me so sexy? Is he not turned out by me? Maybe someone else could give him more pleasure? Someone he is more turned on by?
I am sad about this, is this the reason?
anybody have similar situation?
Updates:
+1 y
And he was hard. He just says he doesn’t feel almost anything when I’m sucking
0 1

Most Helpful Guys

  • It happens.
    I've never cum from a BJ...
    ==================

    A big reason that the male orgasm happens (best) from head is when there is a very steady rhythm stimulating the tip. "Deep throating" is not such a big deal because all that does is simulate the experience of being in the warm wet snug vagina. During intercourse, it is the tip being touched and stimulated that causes excitement and orgasm.

    Keep in mind, all the best BJs are also a bit of a hand job as well so don't be afraid to give your mouth a break.

    And don't forget the balls! They get lonely and are STARVING for female attention. So, sometimes use your fingers or hand such as cupping or teasing testicles or the penis.

    Google "Fellucia Blow" and STUDY those videos. Those women are experts at fellatio and genuinely love it. The sensuous BJ really is best both for the guy and for the woman. Watch and notice how easily they do it yet aren't choking or getting sick. And watch how they switch between mouth and fingers.

    Also, look into videos for:

    A) lingam massage (tantric massage for the male genitalia)
    B) yoni massage (tantric massage for the female genitalia - he should return the favor).

    That said, consider studying good hand-job videos. All you then have to do is imagine doing what the woman is doing with her hands and fingers, but instead replace with lips, tongue, and mouth.
    I'd upload a video, but it is not safe for G@G. PM if you want the links to two such videos.

  • Try communicating? Find out what works and doesn't work. Everybody is different. For me for example if somebody goes at it fast and hard it does nothing for me. I told my woman I love it nice and slow and warm and wet and so now she gives the best head I've ever had and my world spins. I like even more when she's a hand and strokes me nice and slow while sucking it and uses her free hand to massage or use her nails and scratch my balls and underneath. Some guys like a finger in the ass too. I never was into that but she surprised me and just did it and I loved it! But its finding what works and she likes it better too I prefer it that way over trying to porn fuck her mouth and make her gag etc. That does nothing for me. But just communicate and ask him what he likes while you're trying it. Hope that helps!

Most Helpful Girl

  • My boyfriend doesn't get turned on by them much either.

    • So he doesn't get hard when getting a blow job?

    • @driver101 he gets hard but he doesn't exactly enjoy it as he's dead silent and it takes him a while to finish...

    • I'm like that even tho I love my being in s girls mouth its like I need a pornstar to cum

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

1 15
  • I didn't get off from a blow job until I was like 30. I bet its something in his head like he really wants to get off so u dont feel bad about it but concentrating on it is making it impossible. Try doing it while keeping him distracted. Playing video games or something. just let him keep doing what he's doing and not even act like he notices its happening. if he tries to ignore it I bet he ends up liking it.

  • 1 Id try a few more times with different techniques.
    2. Not all men enjoy them
    3. Be happy you dont have to put in the work for that. Lol

  • Most likely it's something to do with him, rather than something you are doing wrong. I don't know you you get your girl's lips sucking your dick, and not feel much.

  • They don't work for me

  • Wow he may not get excited

  • How experienced are you and he at blowjobs?

    hiw fast were you moving? Sucking isn’t actually doing much, it’s the friction of your mouth and lips moving that brings pleasure.

  • Get away fast or die a slow agonizing death. A real man gets a woody ever time his woman walks in the room. You need to find that guy and dump this reject off at an old folks home.

  • I'm not a huge blowjob person tbh, would usually rather have a good handjob.

  • He probably does not have a forskin. It's normal for guys who are cut to be a little numb in that area.

  • He is a ass. Sorry.
    A bj is good. How would he feel if he eats the taco and you say. Didn't feel anything.
    If he finished he felt something.
    Sorry. I would love one. Wife never asks for sex.
    Im in a bad marriage.
    Good luck

  • Some men just don't like them that much.

  • Do it again.

  • Make it more slippery with precum or with ur cum
    He might feel btr

  • ODD, try playing with his balls or sticking a finger up him he should feel that

  • You'll get better with time.

  • It sounds like you just aren't doing it right. Are you deep throating or just sucking from the base? How fast are you doing it?