I got called stupid because I allow my daughter to date is that really stupid?

I got called stupid because I allow my daughter to date is that really stupid?
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My daughter 13 and im 29 guys.
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  • You're certainly not stupid for letting your daughter date. Parents that try to over shelter kids end up doing more harm then good. The world is both a great and wonderful thing while also being incredibly terrible at the same time. As a parent it isn't your good to hide your child away from the world but instead it's your job to teach them and guide them on their journey through it.

    With that said I wouldn't let her do whatever she wants but rather give her boundaries within dating, keep an open dialog with her on her dating life, keep an active interest in what she is doing, educate her how good dating vs bad dating practices, and lasty just be there for her in both good and bad times.

    When done correctly she will be a better person able to sustain healthy relationships better and you two will be that much closer.

    The parents that don't allow a child to date cut them off from the world, build resentment, are not able to have an open dialog, and worst of all they are not there to help when the child makes an inevitable mistake. I'm not going to say they are the stupid one but you can look at any study and hands down the over bearing patents are the ones who kids have the most unhealthy relationships.

    • Okay I think ur right

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  • How old is she? How about we begin, your experience mentally at her age and things you did at her age. Would you allowed her? Remember when they turn teens ask yourself what was i doing at her age.

    I honestly if she was my daughter. Hell i get her in some sports, soccer team, martial arts, cross runner to keep her busy and stop thinking about boyfriend. I will take her to the gym with me. If she asked me i literally will tell her nope and reasons. Then, take her to my old middle school to check it out why and find a place for woman or girls talk about their experiences somett like that. I want my daughter to go to university and find a better job. Then find a man at her level or higher but that will show her caring and love.

    Hispanics father's well me personally I don't want to see some gang member of tattoos. Showing up my doorway. Ill grab my M16, putos!!. Hell you won't.

    • @walt832. Very well said, sir!

    • Smart guy

    • Replying on the update. Really? She is 13 😳. So you mom you really wanna repeat the same story when you were 16, just more early than you? Mam, we are in the same age gap. What the hell🤦‍♂️. She should be in the sports world. You both need a Doctor visits to get y'all heads straight.

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  • Don't listen to the haters. There is nothing wrong with letting your daughter date boys that are her age. I had a boyfriend when I was 11 and he was my age. We would go on real dates and usually go to the Harajuku ward of Tokyo, where teens hang out. Most parents give their kids a metro rail pass card that is good for all subway and trains in the city. Unlike America, our parents never have to worry about some perv trying to snatch up kids. Anyway, I never had any bad experiences going out on dates at a young age.

  • I don't think it is. As long as you teach her and be helpful when she needs advice from you I see nothing wrong with it. My parents allowed all of my older sisters to date but I was the only one they didn't let date. I'd say if she wants to date let her. If she doesn't want to date then don't pressure her to.

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  • You are 25-29? How old is your daughter?

    • 28 she 13

    • So you got pregnant when you were 14. You want the same thing for her?

    • If she wants to she can be.

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  • No, it’s actually stupid not letting her.

    it’s far better our kids learn from mistakes under controlled situation such as at home, then when on own at college.

    learning what guys are like, what parties are like etc is important part of growing up.

    being there for them is important.

    • @ pretty pink anon My daughter was dating at that age, under slightly more controlled restrictions (also lockdown meant it was even more so lol) The point is though they learn freedom and responsibility

  • If you don't allow it then shell just do it behind your back so it's best you allow it

    • this. a lot of people never think about this part

    • @Still-alive yeah like my parents never had rules with dating but I still always was hiding it. When I got pregnant they literally questioned who the father was cause they didn't even put together the boy I hung out with every day was my boyfriend and the baby daddy

  • These young girls gonna do what they gonna do whether you watch their every move or not.

  • It's nobody else's business how you choose to bring up your daughter. Besides she is going to date whether you approve or not. At least this way she has your blessing and won't do so behind your back, because THAT is when you can start to have problems.

  • She looks too young to be dating, she should just have friends of either gender. Don't force adulthood on her already. Dating shouldn't be a childplay.

  • Your daughter, you know her maturity level better than anyone else.
    If you think she is ready than it's your choice.🤷🏾‍♀️

  • Set boundaries for her. She needs them.

  • Dating yes ok cute... Chaperoned... sex no dont be stupid...

  • You seem a bit young to have a daughter old enough to be dating. How old is she? How old is her date?

    Anyway ignore the haters.

  • No not stupid as a parent that's your choice. Other parents may disagree but it's not there daughter.

  • Yes.
    13 is WAAAAAY too young to date.
    At least 16.
    She is still a child.
    Dating is grown up, adult activity.

  • You're stupid enough for not being able to troll on a decent level.

  • If your daughter is willing to have this date then you should allow her otherwise it will effect on her mind. Your daughter is 13, this is a very critical age for any kid. You have to allow to do her what she want but always kept her in a boundary.

  • Somewhat risky unless they are supervised.

  • We'll sooner or later she's gonna start dating with or without your permission

    • Thats not the point. Sooner or later you're gonna be able to reach drinking age. But should you allow 13 year old to drink now. What makes it okay to make them have a boyfriend then and get pregnant?

  • If you're daughter is responsible, I don't see why she shouldn't date. Yes, most kids her age are really naive and dumb, but there are a few exceptions. People shouldn't lump your daughter with "all kids are..." :/

  • I wouldn't say you're stupid. I've heard of many stupid views, but this isn't one of them. But I do disagree with allowing a kid to date at 13. She's barely hit puberty. She should gain a little more experience in life and knowledge before dating. I'd start letting my kids date at 16 personally.

  • Imagine thinking you can control what your kids do... If my parents said I couldn't date I would date behind their back. Lie to them about where I am, say I'm at a friend's when I'm really at a bfs. Some parents don't realize that when they out these harsh restrictions on their kids it doesn't stop them it just makes them sneaky. They would be safer if parents were open and communicated with their kids and let them experience life.

    • @aimee__lj exactly.

  • Is that your daughter in the back seat? Is she 11?

    • Yah and she 13

    • And soon 16 and pregnant you will be mom on t. v saying I didn't know she got pregnant.

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