I GOT INTO IT WITH MY boyfriend AND I SCRATCH HIS FACE?

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we argued yesterday and he kept hitting My head with his fingers and at one point he pulled my hair so bad like 3 times. It all started that we were suppose to have sex but it was already late and he had to leave. I got mad because we haven't had sex and he made me get on birth control knowing I was half and half about it since it gives me weight problems and I end up getting Skinnier but he told me I should go back because he doesn't want get me pregnant and I agree with that. Anyways we argued so much about how I " wasted time and never came close to him to have sex " and so on so on , at one point I told him instead of arguing we should be fucking. He grabbed me so bad from hair and put my face to his dick. I found that so disrespectful and told him why do I always have to suck u and can eat my pussy. Ahh we started to argue saying shit to one another. I was keeping it calm even tho he kept pushing me and telling me he wanted to punch my face. UNTIL he really tested me and I pushed him and kind of punch his chest and some how ended up leaving him a big scratch on his cheek and chest. HONESTLY GUYS I DIDN'T MEAN TO AND I FEEL ANGER AND HE LOOKED FOR THIS. as soon as I did that omg he turn positions and acted like a victim when the whole time I was the one getting pushed and hair being pulled. Can a relationship get better if we really fix our issues or better to let go?

AskAlthea · Accepted Answer

Honestly, your relationship doesn't sound healthy. He made you get on BC when you were still on the fence, BC should be something that you decide on. There are other options, condoms, IUD (Copper ones since it seems like your body reacts negatively with the hormones in BC resulting in your weight problems), etc. Taking BC had potential negative effects on your body and so it should have been something you decided on and wasn't forced to agree to before you were ready to.

In addition, he gets physical with you (sometimes) during arguments. That is NOT okay. Emotions are running high and getting physical only makes things worse. He also then kept verbally trying to escalate the violence by telling you he wants to punch your face. When what should be happening is de-escalation.

He is inconsiderate when he comes to sex, and generally I find that sex is reflective of the relationship, so if he's inconsiderate during sex he's likely inconsiderate in the relationship too. I say he is inconsiderate during sex because you mentioned you always give him a bj but he very rarely goes down on you. In addition, he shoved your face into his crotch, that is not only inconsiderate, but disrespectful and quite rude.

He also seems unaware or unwilling to recognize his faults in the fight. You can't fix something if you refuse to recognize that it is a problem.

The issues you'd have to fix is how he fights, he can not get physical, he has to be more considerate, and he has to be willing to acknowledge his faults. That last one, if he can't do that, then I doubt you can fix the issues. Honestly, I would let this one go, if I were you, I'd always be terrified that one day in the future during a fight he'd snap and not be able to control himself and then beat me up real bad.

Ashleyashh · Accepted Answer

So disrespectful, you should break up with him no man should hit a woman because she hasn't had sex with him in a while. This is a toxic relationship and you should get out of it for you