Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I had just graduated college and was living with my boyfriend of 1 year. We had our share of problems, and like every couple we fought. But at the end of the day, I thought our "rough" patch would one day just disappear, which in hindsight was naive.
It was my birthday and my boyfriend took me out for a nice dinner. I was so excited, as we sat down at the fancy table, and we were given our menus. I asked my boyfriend what he was going to get for his main course, but he just ignored me as he was scrolling through Facebook on his phone... I paused and asked him again, what he was getting. Without looking up at me he said, "I dunno whatever". I put my menu down and asked him, "what's wrong?".
He put his phone down and said "everything is a big deal with you, just shut up". I was speechless and emotional; holding back my tears was difficult, in fact I didn't know what to do. "It's my birthday, and you're on the phone and telling me to shut up, why?"- I asked. "Because all we have been doing this past year is fighting"- he responded. I continued to ask him why he remained in this relationship with me, but he was just silent. As I began to cry at our table, he got up and said, "this is embarrassing", before he got into his car and drove back to our home, without me...
After several calls to him with no reply, I took a taxi back to our home. I was livid and ready to end things, there and then. As you may imagine, there were words exchanged. My boyfriend broke our TV, made a hole in the wall, broke dishes, and even left a few bruises on my arms from where he grabbed me.
I moved out the following day to my parent's house. My boyfriend spent the next month in a different city (for work), calling me, apologizing, begging for me to come back...and I guess I really missed him because I decided to take him back. Of course it wasn't my intention, to deceive or hurt him- but when his mate called me that evening to go for coffee, I said "yes".
My bf's mate was really quite a sweet, shy guy, nothing too impressive. We went out a couple of times for coffee and just talked about general things like work and life. He was very different than my boyfriend, in that he was close with his family, never swore, was extremely non-aggressive and just down to earth. I had known him for a few years and felt like he was a solid friend.
One night we went out for drinks, and one thing led to another- and you guessed it... we slept together. At first I felt terrible about the whole thing but as the week went by, I realized that I made my decision for a reason.
I didn't want to be with my bf's mate, I knew he just wasn't a man yet...but going out of my boundary and doing something like I had done, indicated to me that my boyfriend wasn't the right guy. No matter what, my emotional attachment to him would never be the same. I felt betrayed and very hurt from the year of pain that we went through.
A month later my boyfriend came back to our home city and I broke it off for good. I don't think he ever found out what his best mate and I had done but although it was wrong, I am glad that I had done it. It was a big sign that it's time to leave and never look back.
What Girls & Guys Said
26 71The media really makes me hate women by constantly justifying this type of "finding yourself" (but only if you are a woman) with countless movies and TV shows but the women's comments here really restore my faith and I agree with everyone who said you should have left him much earlier.
You don't paint a very good picture of yourself in this story.
I was with you until you called him not a man. You have no idea what makes a man.
Hopefully you find another cheater to live with. Two cheaters together cancel each other out and don't decimate the lives of those who are faithful.
Your "boyfriend".
You were not cheating when you broke up with him that day. But it's good, that you broke up with a madman at least. Goodness knows what else he would do if you remained with him.
The title is somewhat misleading.
I can kind of see some justification in what you did. But, out of curiosity, how was he "not a man yet?"
That was a huge violation of the bro code by your ex's friend.
What made him not man enough for you? You seemed to like him.
Men do it to women, its no big deal
Probably because he didn't swear and didn't act violently. Women are attracted to that sort of behavior.
@IronGuardLegionary If you have never had a friend fuck your girlfriend... you won't get it
@Amanda2 Yeah, because I don't engage in degenerate behavior nor associate myself with any degenerates.
@IronGuardLegionary Good for you, shit hurts like hell. I understand why people get bitter and do dumb shit
@Amanda2 I'd probably kick his skull if he did that.
@TheSpartan Haha.. I wish I could have had a catfight with that girl
@TheSpartan I don't know what type of a person would fuck his friend's girlfriend. Anyone that violates the bro code is deplorable.
In my case it was the girlcode, and ye sit is, but if you're the victim the sooner you get over it the better for you
@Amanda2 Well that person did not deserve to be your friend.
Nope
What's the moral of this story?
Keep an eye on your friends' relationships & score.
@YourFutureEx Weird ass moral LOL
And I'm sure it's no big deal if a guy did that to you, right?
I just call it stupid. It took fucking his friend for you to leave? Not the bruises, not the violence and broken property?
I swear, women these days will find any reason to cheat.
I don't feel bad for the guy at all. I think he should rot in prison, but being happy you cheated? You'll do it again, so good luck to any guy you'll date in the future
did you deepthroat the guy?
I feel sad now, no appreciation for the sweet shy guys? :(
Warning: Hurricane shitstorm incoming
Well, at least you broke it off with your boyfriend afterwards, but that's still a really shitty thing to do. And your conclusion is just bullshit. You backwards rationalized what happened, starting at the conclusion and working backwards. You didn't sleep with your boyfriend's friend because your boyfriend isn't the right guy. You did it because you're weak. Too weak to break it off with your boyfriend when you should have, and too weak to stick the by the decision not to break it off once you had made it. Anything else is a lie you told yourself to make yourself sleep better at night.
Not your faught anymore. But his bestfriend is shit.
You are scum too though
Revenge has a way of returning back to its owner like a loyal dog.
Trying to justify you cheating on your boyfriend because you had rough patches. smh
sloots gonna sloot i guess
good share
Your a piece of shit and your ex is a bigger piece of shit
You can't justify yourself
What was the point of this story, your boyfriend ignored you for a few minutes so you acted like a whore to get back at him.
Extremely irrelevant, thank you for sharing