I had sex with my ex today. Why was it disappointing?

[Anonymous]

We split up over 2 years ago and the sex was magnificent back then. Today the sex was not very good. Why?

[FallenAngel92]

Maybe you just though he was good because y'all were in a relationship. I remember when I was with my ex boyfriend from high school (he was my first) one summer during break after I had been with some other guys. Afterwards I was like omg he was the worse ever.

[Asker]

I've had a few guys since and I would say that they were 'all' better! It's weird what your mind can conjure up. I thought he was a sex god but he was a omg! Lol

[crazy_for_love471]

Because your love paper has ripped and can't be put back the way it was, just move on and enjoy life.

[Levin]

Absence of emotional connection? Going through the motions mechanistically, ie getting each other off, satisfying physical urges, but not much else? Sex to avoid deep seated problems in personal life? Lust seems ultimately disappointing...

[AustinMan]

Great sex often requires that close emotional connection to be really gratifying.

[tattooedhandfet]

Loss of mental connection

[Asker]

Interesting!!

[tattooedhandfet]

Why's that?

[tattooedhandfet]

It is true no?

[Asker]

I think your right. There was no mental 'spark' Think sex is 88 percent mental based

[tattooedhandfet]

I can not have sex with anyone I don't have a mental connection with

[tattooedhandfet]

And yea that spark you speak of, that's the connection, or in this case, lack thereof

[FantasticPlanet]

Is it possible that you're remembering better than it was?
That's happened to me too.

[Asker]

You're right! It was superbly unspectacular! Missionary only ! I realised a few things though, it wasn't totally pointless exercise. I wouldn't go back with an ex and I wouldn't yearn for one again either. I'm glad I did it! You learn something new everyday

[Klaatu51]

low sex drive?

[BertMacklinFBI]

2 years is a lot of downtime.

[Kenzy-Yinn]

Maybe you forgot the way to sync up

[I_am_repulsive]

Because you lost the feelings you have with him? There's no connection or emotional attachments and it was just all about sex and apparently he sucks at it.

[Asker]

He's definitely not as good as my other ex! Mind you if I got him back I think the result would be the same! It surprised me that I could look right into his eyes and feel nothing! Never thought I'd see the day when that would happen

[NYkid27]

Because he probably doesn't remember what gets you off after 2 years of not having sex with you

[johnmsk]

emotions. stress. guilt/regret. mind preoccupation on these.

[Asker]

He kept asking if I was ok every 5 minutes. Could well be! I just didn't feel anything for him. It was like meeting up with a total stranger. He was different too to what I remember. He kept apologising for the breakup and he asked me a trillion person questioned. I felt like I was being interviewed

[johnmsk]

why in the first place u agreed t do it? dont u get any other sex?

[Asker]

No I don't get any ever! It was interesting just to see what it would be like! I would liken it too a slice of wedding cake. Special and yummy at the time but stale and unappetising years later

[johnmsk]

good anology.. lol :)/ time to move on and make your own American pies or cream pies... haha

[COCOCHANEL]

feelings :(

[Dragan]

Sex is not a sport. Enjoying including sexual depends on feelings.

[Anonymous]

I'm disappointed that you would have sex with an ex.

[Asker]

I did it just to see what it would be like. I'm sad lol

[Anonymous]

It was just a cum dump for him today.

[Asker]

It was a one-off. So yeah lol