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I have a crying fetish, how weird is that?

I like seeing girls cry, to the point I think its a fetish. It's not sadistic so don't get the wrong idea please, I just think it's beautiful... I don't know why honestly. The vulnerability I guess, and wanting to make them feel better - I assume that just crossed some wires in my head and it ended up here.

It's a known fetish, its called Dacryphilia.

How weird is this? Should I try to suppress it or just let it be?
I think she looks beautiful 🥺
I think she looks beautiful 🥺
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  • No, it's not that weird. You hit the nail on the head with the "attractive vulnerability" comment; some of us guys just really like to take care of a woman and be protective. And honestly, in a world where there's such a push to try to force all women to be 100% badass all the time, and to always be tough, capable, and self-sufficient, seeing that humanity through vulnerability can be a very attractive quality. The fact that it's not an S&M thing I think says a lot about your character and what a caring person you are that a big turn on for you is seeing someone you could possibly be a support for. Also, yeah, women are 1000% way more attractive when crying than men are. They do make it look beautiful, and I'm someone for whom it is something of an S&M kink lol. But I'm also a total freak, whereas you're a kind soul who cares so much that wanting to help others bleeds over into attractiveness.

    • This is a great comment, thank you for your thoughts ❤ I should clarify that I don't actually have to know the person or be able to console them, like watching TV or movies where someone cries does the same thing for me so I'm not sure if that really falls under the same umbrella?

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  • Technically, Dacryphilia is the condition of being sexually aroused by seeing someone crying. (I wish you were with me yesterday!!). but I digress - - - - - - I wouldn't brand your thoughts and sympathetic impulses as good OR bad quite yet. Maybe call 1-800-A-FAMILY, talk to one of they people there, and get a counseling referral. You aren't nuts or anything like that- you just need to sort some things out for yourself. I'm over four times your age and I still have to talk to mentors to help me get through some things. Re me: There are some songs and some shows/movies that still leave me a blubbering mess for the memories that they hold for me, but it isn't a sexual thing at all.

    • Yeah, that's what it is for me. I like seeing it, not experiencing it. I have considered counselling but it's a lot to admit to someone, and it's not severe enough to where its completely necessary I don't think. Though maybe I'm looking for excuses.

    • My wife has been a counselor for 20 years. She has many people that aren't really "in for counseling". They just have a few things to work out in life- (lately it's been a lot of "lockdown phobia" and money problems). It's much more of just being an independent party they can bounce some ideas around with, not heavy duty counseling like they are about to turn into serial killers. Just be sure to look for someone who has worked with younger people, and most likely a female. We will pray for you.

    • I'll look into it, thank you. And you don't have to but I appreciate the sentiment ❤

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  • I see plenty of women crying at funerals during the week. If it's because you want to comfort them, that's one thing, but I wouldn't call it a fetish unless you get sexually aroused by women crying.

    • I do, that's why I used that word. Though I do think it comes from wanting to console them, not sadism.

    • It would be really weird at funerals for anyone to get aroused at anything.

    • I well aware that, that's why I asked this question?

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  • I guess that all depends on why you like it if they are crying and if you are intentionally making them cry to satisfy your fetish.

    • I explained my best guess as to why in my post, and no I wouldn't do that! That's just messed up 😣

    • @saoirselikesgurls Okay, so long as you weren't trying to satisfy your fetish by purposely hurting others just to console them, then there is no "harm" I guess. It is a very strange one though. This is the first time I have heard of this. Have you spoken to someone about why you have this? You just may be overly empathetic/sympathetic.

    • It makes me feel icky because I feel like I'm betraying someone after it happens if I know them, as I'm getting something I shouldn't out of a sad situation. No, it's a strange thing to bring up to a counsellor I'm sure you can understand. I think calling it just overly sympathetic is downplaying it though, when its sexual 😔

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  • Makes me think you just have a turbocharged hero complex.

  • I knew a guy who liked making me cry for the same reason. It's not fun from the crying end and can really be emotionally draining.

    • I don't try to make people cry for my own desires, that's just wrong 😣

    • He didn't make fun of me or anything just made me fall in love all the time and then pull away each time. He used to say he didn't date anyone then another time he would say we could be boyfriend/girlfriend then 2 days later when I called him boyfriend he said im not allowed to call him that. It just kept wrecking me but then he'd give me hope again.

    • Well I hope your doing better now, people like that just like toying with people

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  • Can you ONLY orgasm while watching a girl cry? Then you don’t have a fetish! A fetish is something that you are required to see, feel, or at least think about or you literally cannot orgasm… THAT is a fetish! That is the definition of fetish, that has always been the definition of fetish, there is no other definition of fetish. Maybe you are thinking about a “Kink”?

  • Wait u mean u get horny and play with yourself while watching girls cry? Thst type of fetish? Or u just think u have fetish?

    • Well I didn't want to be that upfront in my post but yes, I have done that.

    • I think in some way japan animators also express this, that combination of innoce and cuteness, where they put tears in girls eyes and then they make love or something. Have u watched some animes before?

    • I have seen a tiny bit but it's not really my thing, I don't get the hype. It only works if it's real life for me...

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  • I only ever enjoy crying if I'm getting face fucked because it's difficult to actually not tear up when doing it

  • It's weird af.

    • That's very blunt lol, though I respect your opinion I guess

  • One person's weird is another person's normal.
    As long as it doesn't become an obsession in that you want to cause girls to cry? I see no problems with it.

    • I appreciate that, and no I wouldn't do that.

    • That's ok then.

  • I like making girls stop crying, it's called uncryphilia

    • Lol the name is a little on the nose but you can google it, it's what it's called

    • It really has a name someone that likes making girls cry?

    • Making girls stop crying*

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  • It's all right, as long as you're watching them on tv and not making someone cry to masturbate

  • You are one sick puppy.

    • What makes you say that? Is it really that bad?

    • watching the suffering of others is not cool. How would you like it if somebody got off on you crying?

    • It depends on their motivation, I just think it looks beautiful.

  • What about midddle-age men that suffer from this thing that makes them cry or laugh without a reason

  • Creepy.

    • Is it really that bad?

    • It's creepy to think of how it would effect relationships, both platonic and romantic. If someone my age told me that, I'd turn her down even if I found her attractive, because anyone who gets off on the misery of others, is not going to feel frustrated enough when I'm unhappy to have my best interests in mind. There should not be an incentive to see my misery, she should feel happy when I'm happy, and sad when I'm sad, and vise versa. If you like it when people cry, whats your incentive to make them smile?

    • Your acting like this makes me completely disregard morality. I still for the most part want the people I care for to be well and be happy, it's just this is a (however large or small) part of me.

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  • That's creepy as... wow.
    Good luck with your life.

    • That's very blunt, but thank you I guess?

    • Well, I've never heard of this. If someone is crying it's an indicator (mostly) of pain, emotional or physical. The idea that one finds pleasure in that... That's creepy as fuck. If you were a guy saying this then I'd expect you to be a serial murderer that tortured his victims and got off on it. Either bury this or get therapy. Nothing good can come from finding satisfaction in the suffering of another. Especially if it's associated with anything sexual. That's just my opinion. I'm not a psychologist but...🤢

    • I don't get off on the fact their in pain? I find crying to be such a genuine and expressive showing of someones deeper emotions, its something most people keep hidden so it feels very intimate. I don't and will never cause someone pain just to satisfy this, I still have morals.

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  • It's different and unusual. Weird sure, but everyone is in their own ways. I don't recommend suppressing it, it's not something unhealthy or bad. Since it's a fetish, something you super like, that's totally ok to be into it as much as you like. I do the same for my fetishes lol 😊

  • That's pretty fucked up. Get help. Lot of help.

    • What kind of help? Is it really that bad?

    • Go to a psychologist. Yes, your parafilia can seriously get out of control.

    • I'm not an adult quite yet, I can't just do that without people asking questions and I don't think it's that serious. Out of control how.

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  • Very weird.

  • Well don't suppress it you should not be ashamed of a kink or a fetish you have even if you think she is beautiful when she cries. To me it is a little weird because I don't like seeing girls cry to me most don't look great when they cry unless it just a happy or joyful cry.

    • That makes sense, thanks for your thoughts ❤

  • Just find a fellow dacryphilliac. I'm female dacryphilliac who enjoys being able to have that release during sex, but for me, sex is a mental coping mechanism, so the two compliment each other.

  • whatever works for ya

  • I doubt you can suppress it, but you can disguise it as "Loving concern" and "support"... Get in there close and hold the crying person and soak it all in

    • That feels disingenuous even when it isn't though... as I'm getting something out of it that I shouldn't. That's what my issue with the whole thing is

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