I have a great sex with my boyfriend but I still want to have sex with other guys?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal? I have an amazing sex with my boyfriend. He knows my body and what I like perfectly. I cum a few times during our 'long sessions' and at least once during quickies. Everything is truly perfect but is it normal that despite all of that I still fantasize about other men? I have a few really hot guy friends and I basically stopped hanging out with them because of those fantasies cuz I know they think about the same thing. Am I crazy or is it a normal thing?

[CreamySeed]

Monogamy is not natural, very few mammals do it, some birds as well but it really limits a species for genetic diversity. For humans religion notwithstanding you have jealous and territorial mates who want to “own” the other and a pact is formed between two people not to cheat. doesn't mean the incentive to fuck others goes away.

[Asker]

Exactly, finally someone who understands.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You actually get less genetic diversity with polyamorous sex because of how long gestation periods are in humans and how little we migrate, ie its bad for diversity if most children in an area have the same father or mother, so it makes sense to have as many independant genetic lines as possible, which is harder to do if your dad banged every neighbor on the block, increasing the chances of a nearby person being your half sibling (it also makes std avoidence harder). Also in nature animals dont naturally attempt to increase genetic diversity, or prevent incest for that matter, those are modern human tendancies gained through obtaining knowledge. Whats normal is having the harem fantasy, or the new flavor fantasy. ie it's normal to see multiple different body plans and become sexually aroused, but most of us use porn or cosplay to get variety while keeping the benefits of monogamy. We are monogomous for practical reasons, things like safety/security, love, investment, comfort, emotional connection, making sure your neigbors are potential mates instead of siblings or close cousins (everyone on earth are distant cousins), etc. it's very effective at those things.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

It’s probably time to admit that you’re not ready for a relationship now or maybe an open one is what’s best for you.


Either way, the current situation isn’t working out for you and it’s best you tell him

[Asker]

No, you're totally wrong. I'm a long term relationship kind of woman. I could even have kids by now. When I was with my ex I never thought of anyone else so maybe my current one is not the one

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Yeah I could be totally wrong and I’ll acknowledge that but right now you’re in a relationship where sex is with a fantastic partner in bed but you want other men. I’m not saying you can’t be long term relationship in the future but as of right now it’s probably not for you. I’m just some dude on the internet, not god lol

[loves2learn]

I think it’s normal. Monogamy is a relatively new construct for our species.


Also, I have light eyes, dark hair and olive skin too. It’s an unusual combo. :)

[Asker]

Exactly girl 😊 best combo 😊

[Leavesbound]

I don't know if it's normal but it is fairly common. He may fantasize about other women too. Try watching porn together next time you have sex.

[boggboss]

If its somthing u can't control it may show u are not able to have a monogamous relationship

[Asker]

I don't think so. When I was with my ex he was the only guy I had eyes for

[boggboss]

So its fine then u know it just somthing u need to keep in control if your partner wouldn't be open to being open

[Asker]

I would not want an open relationship either 😂

[boggboss]

Then I guess they are just thoughts u will have to keep in check

[TheSpaceGnome]

watch porn, do cosplay, you get variety without losing monogamy benefits.

[Asker]

Another person who doesn't understand. My sex life doesn't lack anything, I don't like porn, I often do cosplay with my boyfriend

[TheSpaceGnome]

Seems I understood just fine, you are even already doing one of the things i suggested before i even suggested it. You don't want to cheat, and you fantasize about other men, what did I miss?

[soe11]

Try threesome, will be joyful.

[ToastyOats]

Sounds like sex is not the problem! Sounds like you want more. Emotional/spiritual connection? Something else I don't know.

[Wise4myage]

Nothing abnormal about that, but you should be single during this period of your life so you can be free to screw whomever you wish.

[RingOfFire]

As a guy I can relate to that. But I don't think it is the norm for girls.

[Juxtapose]

Wanting to fuck other people is very normal, it's what you do about it that determines your character.

[Twalli]

I think it's fine as long as you don't act on them.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are a modern women who wants to ride the cock carousel.

[fred_durst]

you said "I still want to have sex with other guys?" on the title
then on your update you said " I don't want to actually have sex with these people"
i am totally at lost here

[Asker]

I wrote wrong caption at first

[JamieLoves]

So do it..

[Asker]

Did you even read what I wrote?

[JamieLoves]

Yup.. Why ask anyone’s opinion if you don’t Fuck’n Want one !!!😡

[Asker]

You didn't answer the question. I asked if people have fantasies about others. The question was not about cheating or fulfilling those fantasies

[9Livezzz]

It's perfectly normal. It's against human nature to be with only one person. The saying relationships take a lot of work is true 😌 This is why most relationships end due to someone cheating because it's hard for most people to resist the temptation when the opportunity arrives. Friendship between a guy and a girl is almost impossible to have without one being sexually attracted to the other.

[RCLJT]

If you were a decent human being you’d have told him before he became your boyfriend so he could dump your slut ass. And women wonder why a guy will never commit…

[Asker]

Wtf are you talking about? I'm a slut because I think about other people and don't do anything about it? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[RCLJT]

Your question makes the statement that you want to have sex with other guys, in my book that makes you a slut. If you just Fantasize about it, you should tell your boyfriend what he’s not doing right that makes your mind wander.

[ggddf56887]

Fantasizing is normal

[msc545]

Not normal, but not abnormal for a cheater.

[seanscoopers]

Because your a legend to explore the dicks

[jimmy2]

Ohhh where do you live lol

[billluc69]

so normal

[Yourman555]

That is pretty normal. Humans lust. It happens.

[Asker]

Yes! And people on here act like they've never experienced that

[Yourman555]

Yeah, they just don't want to be honest with themself. Hell, I have had girls tell me when they wanted to fuck someone else and even told me if I got the chance to fuck so and so, they wouldn't blame me 🤣