I have been sexting with a guy. known each other since high school. He is kinky. he told me he wants me to say I love you during sex? Why? Issues?

We’ve gotten hot and heavy and are planning to hook up soon irl. He wants this, I want this. He has a lot of kinks. Which I’m cool with. But the I love you thing threw me off and made me wonder if he might want more than he is letting on, or perhaps indeed does want a relationship-but can’t hook up having a ‘nice respectful woman’ and a freak in bed-all wrapped into one woman.

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  • Really ask him and make really sure!

    Probably still has a crush on you and would catch feelings quick or has feelings.

    Probably wants this into a relationship when you just want a few quickies with a friend with benefits who like what you do.

    If I might ask what things do you want and what does he want? If your not safe sharing them here you can message me.

    All my friends have a hard time finding guys they can trust to just let off steam with and those who are kinky usually wind up catching feelings from being so open.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Personally I'd refuse this.

    It's blurring boundaries.

    Unfortunately some people looking for friends with benefits type things... they aren't just looking fir sex. They are looking for ego strokes.

    Run fast from any guy who mentions the L word in these things. He's looking to blur boundaries. It's common for guys to act suuuuuper into you in order to get you to think 'hmm, maybe he wants more than friends with benefits... maybe I can consider something more than that then'. Then WHAM they youturn. They're now claiming that you're the one that changed the rules... even though they've been mooning after you like a lovesick pup for weeks.

    Be very clear with your boundaries. With yourself. 'This is just some hot and heavy fun'.

    'No, I won't say that to you. It blurs boundaries'

    If he is pushy or giving it 'I really like you blah blah' then end it. Because he's not looking for a fun time in the sack. He's looking to mess with your head.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well actually women like that do exist but yea he seems to think that because you have sexted together and are even planning to meet irl that gives him the illusion that there is something more with you or like you two have some sort of connection beyond sexual oneand tgat it kinda makes you his girlfriend in his point of view!!
    That’s what I think!!

  • Sounds like you have a potentially great thing, except he might want more than you do. Talk with him about it, letting him know your boundaries. And it is possible that you may end up wanting more later, so do not dismiss it altogether.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I love during sex means nothing

    • Saying I love you during sex means nothing* Sorry about the typo

  • I wouldn't worry about that. A lot of guys say that, but they don't really mean it.

    • I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well if you want.

  • I don't know what to tell you

  • He may want more than just a hookup. I'd ask him about why he wants u to say that before you jump into bed with him

  • kind of sounds like he has a breeder complex

  • For some guys it's much more enjoyable and easier to get into with an emotional connection. Which I'd say saying that would trigger that effect. May not mean it's genuine at the moment but I'm sure it will intensify his performance so to speak ha

  • Just have a serious talk with him. I didn't see why you guys can't make it work.

  • Made it's as simple as it turns him on

  • Have you never heard:
    Good girl in public; Better girl in private?

  • White lie

  • If you do not feel comfortable saying it, don't

  • He is in doubt, that you don't love him, you only want sex

  • Caa i call you