I have feelings for a girl. How to tell her I'm struggling with my sexuality?

I have long identified as bi, but the problem is this: I think I'm more biromantic than bisexual. I like women, but I don't care much for vaginas and I don't think that I could be happy if I could never be intimate with a guy anymore.
Up untill now I just ignored this problem and focused on dating men. But now, I fell for a woman and it's mutual.
I think like she might be okay with an open relationship, but I'm scared that she won't be okay with me needing one to be together.

I feel like this is not fair for her at all, she deserves better. But I also cannot really help it.

How would you feel in her situation? Is there any way this relationship can have a future?
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  • You might offer her a threesome. :)

    • She's 100% gay

    • That unfortunate.

    • Honestly, yeah xD I've had a girlfriend before who was bi too, we had an open relationship and threesomes so it never really became a problem then. I really like this girl though :/

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  • Tell her the truth. Just like you told us.

    • Thanks. Any tips on how? And how would you react if the person you're dating told you something like this?

    • Do it in person. After a nice romantic dinner and maybe a walk on the beach. I don't know how I would react. Too far outside my experience. But I hope she loves you enough to consider what you’re saying and at least talk it out with you. I will say this though: If you only love the idea of her and you’re not into the idea of doing stuff with her vagina, that could be a problem for you guys down the road.

    • Thank you! I'll think of a way I guess :T

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