I have never had an orgasm with my first and only partner. Is it me or him?

So foreplay is about 5 minutes and it feels rushed. I can tell he just wants to get down to business and I honestly don't feel he's romantic or loving. Never kisses me on the lips or looks me in the eyes. he's wanted to give me oral but I didn't want him to. Honestly my mind isn't in it and I just feel like he wants to warm me up a little just to get it in. Is it me? Or him?
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Intact foreplay is about a minute or two.
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  • Sounds like both of you have much to learn. He needs to slow down and make it a loving experience, and you need to learn to relax, let his pleasure you, and tell him what works and what doesn't work.

    I'll bet you've been telling him it was great!

Most Helpful Guy

  • More him than you, but sex is like (!) dancing the Tango. You have to learn how to do it right together.
    However...
    Two minute foreplay is not enough. He should bring you off completely by fingers or oral before he mounts up. Your arousal is different from ours. You stay aroused for a good while after you cum. There's plenty of time to give you another "surge" during sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It takes me at least 20 minutes to orgasm during forplay. it takes a man 5 minutes. I assume you don't masturbate. Well Try Masturbating and find out for yourself what an orgasm feels like. You don't need him.
    answer to you question. It's both of you.

  • His fault, he is either selfish or clueless... I prefer at least an hour of foreplay before moving on.

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  • OH GIRL it's ALLLL his fault.

    You deserve so much attention. He is just being a jerk.

  • I don't usually penetrate my woman until I have given her at least one orgasm. It's hard to give her orgasm just by penetration, I usually need to do a lot of oral first to give her orgasm and get her ready for penetrative sex.

  • Its definitely him!

  • It's him. You owe it to yourself to tell him to slow down and that it isn't a race. Tell him what you want him to do so you can get the most out of the experience.

  • It's both of you.

  • He needs to learn that the joy is in the journey, not just the destination

    • Seen the update: so sorry that he’s not taking the tme

  • a lot of women don’t. You have to remember a lot of guys only focus on one thing and that’s to get them selves off. Sadly. It happens. You need to find a guy that will focus on your pleasure.