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I keep fantasizing about previous hookup while having sex with my fiancé?

Years ago, I had a drunk hookup with a guy at the bar. He was quite an arrogant asshole and sexist, but I was drunk and pretty desperate I guess. So I ended up with him in a bathroom stall. There was nothing romantic, he was hot but I didn't really like him personally, he pretty much just did me from behind for 10 minutes while pulling my hair, slapping my ass way too hard and calling me names. Nothing that would normally be seen as "great sex". But he was well endowed and somehow hit every possible nerve ending inside me while his balls hit the right part. I was on the edge from the start and when he was about to shoot he went faster and gave me the most mindblowing, leg shaking orgasm I never thought was possible.

I felt bad that that ended up being the best orgasm I ever had. Since then till now 5 years later, that is still the memory I think back of every time I masturbate or have sex and it still gets me off. For almost 5 years now, every time i have sex with my fiancé, the thought of this other guy on the toilet keeps popping up in my head and that does it for me every time, yet I really feel bad for thinking about it. Especially since my husband is actually a good lover who puts effort into pleasing me, yet it's still the thought of this asshole who was lucky with a big dick that I need to really get satisfied. It also sucks that me and my husband regularly run into this guy and my husband hates his guts (even without knowing what happened).

Has anyone ever experienced these thoughts and what do you do about it? Is it really as wrong as it seems in my head? And does it go aways? Cause it's been over 5 years already...
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  • I have pretty much a similar experience I remember and use that memory regularly, although usually only with masturbation. This chick I was banging hard from behind in a bathroom stall at a club, she was cumming so much it was running down her legs, it was one of the dirtiest and most erotic experiences of my younger years. We even had other girls looking over the stall at us, which made it even hotter, we weren't exactly discreet. Never did find out her name.
    I'd never admit to it to a partner if I used that memory to help me get off. Only used it a couple of times during sex when I was struggling to cum with a girl.

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  • I have recurring fantasies of having sex with my former stepdaughter. She is now 33 years old. When I was married to her mom, daughter was an exhibitionist and every time mom was gone, daughter would walk around in her panties and bra, change clothes with the bedroom door open, flash upskirts, masturbate loudly in the shower, sleep topless with her bedroom door open. I never touched the girl but it was a constant torment. I sometmes fantasize about her when having sex with my girlfriend. I haven't seen my stepdaughter in 15 years.

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  • It would had not happened if you was waiting until marriage.

  • I think you should tell your husband about this.

    BUT keep the guy out of it. Just tell him about how bad you want to be "manhandled by an asshole". Explain some of the details and then set up a date night where you guys can make it happen. Hopefully this will simulate that experience and eventually replace it to an extent.

    I have more ways to set up date night, if you are interested just let me know here or in messages if you feel okay with that.

  • Women just need to be fuuckin honest and admit that if you didn't have us bad boys, pricks and jerks with big dicks, you would NEVER orgasm.

  • You should tell you fiance that you need to be taught a lesson in some shady bathroom stall.

  • That's not good, lol.

  • friends with benefits, and hookups, are for pathetic losers, with no lives

  • If say its wrong

  • these things happen, first step, forgive yourself

  • Wait. Is it your fiancé or husband? My opinion. Tell your fiancé / husband about it. Fantasize about it with him. Share it with him. You may just have that mind blowing orgasm with him and if I was him I’d shoot the hugest load hearing you talk about it.

  • Husband or fiance? If fiance, do not get married yet until this goes away. The reason man becomes your husband is because he has your love from wanting other guys

    If a man is good enough to think of over your own HUSBAND of all men, then you should be with him instead. You might committed too soon

  • It sounds like your future marriage is doomed.

  • It seems wrong to me. It's one thing to remember a past time, but continually and with another person. That tells me that his effort or not, he DOESN'T satisfy you, which is the real problem maybe? Are you sure he's the one for you? Maybe you shouldn't marry him? That's my opinion.

    I know I have a time with one woman specifically, the sex was amazing and I can't imagine it feeling any better than that time, and I doubt I'll ever forget it, but I also probably wouldn't think about it while with someone else. Especially if it was someone I was going to marry. I know you women are very different from us with sex, but to me this is a huge red flag.

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