I know I've gotten groomed but why don't I care for it or act on it?

I've gotten groomed like twice but I don't care for it, I was sexually abused as a child so I guess that somewhat plays a part in it. Honestly I just come to not be bothered and I somewhat enjoy it? I don't at all believe I'm mature or have anything similar to an adult because I am obviously A TEENAGER, I happen to enjoy the attention which I guess most girls do when getting groomed because its an older man bigging them up lol. I know it's wrong and that I shouldn't interact with such people. Does it make me somewhat in the wrong because I don't do anything to act on it? It's not like I even try and push away the person too lol, not that i'm scared to do it or anything, I just enjoy the company, if I did feel threatened I wouldn't hesitate to remove them. (This is online by the way.)

Also if it comes to any help, I do have somewhat of a like to older guys but not like heavily old, maybe 2-7 years (I DO NOT ACT ON THIS, I don't plan to do anything with people older until I'm like past 19.)

Let me know your thoughts, and please be nice even though I know some opinions will be harsh lmao. I'd love to hear from everyone.

Thanks!
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  • That's your way of coping with it i think. Also grooming is supposed to make you feel not bad about it and make mistakes that later on you on realize how much you didn't want that.
    Honestly we cope with are trauma's in weird ways. Like how i was treated by an abusive girlfriend i now have kinks that reflect with that abuse and sorta enjoy it.

    And to answer the question does it make you wrong? no of course not. Might it be dangerous? for sure. Also it's normal for a younger girl to like older men. But of course when underage this is not healthy for you and means the other guy is a gross pedo.
    Good to know if you feel threatened you would get rid of them.

    I feel like what your feeling is probably on the normal scale of how one does feel when a guy grooms them without direct force. You think you enjoy it or not bothered then one day it hits you like bricks how messed up it was. Or not normal scale staying like that forever. It's some form of dissociation i think. it's a weird mess.

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  • I dont know if u r trolling or not, but it doesn’t mean u r okay with these pedos. That they would not have other victims. And who would not be as happy as u being abused.
    Now to each their own. I was molested by my dad when i was 14. It was once and he was drunk. I am not totally affected it by it. i might feel disgusted at the memory. But i am not in therapy or suffering because what happened. Its just like wtf moment. So people get affected by things differently. So its up to u how u want to deal with what affected u. But its not up to u not to report pedos. Or u could face charges of complicity

    • I'm not at all trolling and I've created this after some time thinking, wanting an opinion because I somewhat feel like i'm messed up for feeling this way. I'm also not as affected by the abuse that happened to me when I was 8-10, but yes I still think of it and it also disgusts me because I'm still having to be around the abuser. I appreciate the time you took to answer though, as much as I feel for others that get groomed by older men or women, I just don't really get that bothered by it when it comes to me, and I'm kinda of thinking thats because of the sexual abuse I suffered from. I guess your right in saying it doesn't make it okay but I tolerate those that do groom me.

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  • Huh?🤔

    • I'm being genuinely serious and I'd like input from all age ranges, you may think all people get bothered by grooming but I guess some don't like myself as bad as they might be. That doesn't at all mean I'm defending a pedophile! I think it's wrong, I just react oddly (to some) to getting groomed.