I like sex but I don't want people to know I like sex, help?

This is not due to religious reasons or even because i was brought up in a conservative house hold. I don't trust people (In general) at all

I feel like if there is anything that could be used against me someone will note it and just keep it in their back pocket until they need something from me (Blackmail if you will). Now sex is something i've always said doesn't bother me i'm more than happy with foreplay hell even sexting i'm content with

In recent years i've actually grown to like sex (Shocking i know), but i don't want people knowing i like it because i feel that they will use it against or in the case of my girlfriend pull the "Do this or no sex for x days" card

I can't shake this inherent distrust of humanity in general, it's part of my DNA

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  • I am kind of in the same boat in that I don't trust people. What you have to do is own that though. There will be people who want to hurt you but that's life. There will also be nice people who want to break down that barrier and those, although few and far between will find a way through and be in your heart.

    I've had more than my fair share of people letting me down and hurting me but these days I literally rise above it and them and nobody can hurt me because I don't care what they think they can do because I have a circle of friends and family who know I am not what is spoken/said about me.

    The sooner you just flip the big finger to anyone and everyone and enjoy your life, you'll find it easier. I am not saying compromise on your values, morals or insecurities. Make them your strongest asset. Genuine people will want to be part of your life.

    Regards sex. That's a pretty hard sell that nobody will believe. I think what you're saying is you're scared of letting someone in and don't want that side of your emotions so brutally exposed in such a level of intimacy until you feel and know they won't hurt you.

    • "The sooner you just flip the big finger to anyone and everyone and enjoy your life, you'll find it easier" That's the thing, i'm quite content living the life i want do and basically telling people to fuck off if they try and intervene (I'm a rather blunt person, especially when pushed). However i still don't trust what anyone says, ESPECIALLY if i know them, i'm more untrusting of people i know more than people i don't

Most Helpful Guy

  • Everyone like sex. If you want people to know that you don't like sex , people might think you have some disorder

    • I mean it's a compelling ruse

Most Helpful Girl

  • I am of the conviction that all humans like sex. It's okay for you to like it and you should feel like you have the right to express how much you like it without fearing someone using it against you.

    If you're girlfriend is blackmailing you with sex or blackmailing you in any other way she's not the one for you especially if she knows your issues and your triggers.

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  • Easy just don't tell anyone

  • Dude, just own your love of sex. If your girlfriend threatens you with depriving you of sex, go out and bang a hotter girl. Or just drop her.