I lost interest in women, am I not bisexual?

So I dated women in my early twenties (both romantically and sexually), I thought I was bisexual since I also am interested in men but I lost interest in women a few years ago, and I don't feel attracted to women anymore. Was I bicurious maybe? Am I bisexual or heterosexual?

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2 mo
Got my answer. It was a phase, I was just curious. It makes sense now. Thanks!
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  • It's VERY common (common meaning about 1/3 of all women) for women to go through a bi-curious phase during adolescence, and typically lasting about 3 years. This most commonly happens around college age - 19 or 20 - but can come a bit earlier or later for some girls. The vast majority of women simply grow out of it and end up happily dating exclusively men once that phase is over. Again, this is quite normal and has been well documented by psychologists over the last 50 years.

    • This explains everything, thanks

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  • I don't know if this counts, but I used to crossdress when I was a boy up till my early 20s. A lot of people at school would make homophobic remarks daily. I think I was 12, and for Halloween, I dressed as a princess, and I felt turned on by it because of the humiliation aspect of it. I started buying women's clothes and cross-dressing. I wasn't interested in guys just wearing women's clothing.

    It's because it wasn't acceptable for a boy to dress like a girl. So I did up until I was about 20. But by then, a lot of people were accepting of stuff like that, and I lost interest in it; it just didn't make me excited anymore. I only date women and I don't feel anyway about that anymore.

    So maybe you were told when you were younger, it was wrong, and it excited you, but as you got old, it just didn't appeal to you anymore.

    • Yeah maybe. I was a teenager when I felt interested in girls.

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  • It's normal for some of us, it's just a phase. I used to kiss and cuddle with my best friend all the time, we never had sex but often used to get very intimate with each other. And one day we just didn't feel that kind of attraction towards each other. She is now married and even has a kid.

    • I had a sexual and romantic relationship with a girl before and I really felt attracted to her then, but now I don't see myself with a woman anymore. I just feel attracted to men.

    • I know, My bestie and even when through same phase, we even used to call each other "wifey". It's normal for some people to have this phase. Nothing to overthink about it.

    • Yeah but that girl was my girlfriend at the time, she wasn't a bestfriend. I don't know why and how I lost interest in women in time. A close friend of mine reminded me of it today and I started overthinking. I guess I was just curious.

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  • Sounds like you stop being bisexual, it's odd, but you should accept it.

    • Or it was just a phase and I was just curious about dating same sex. Now I really don't find women attractive in that way.

    • Maybe, but if you are 100% heterosexual there would be no phase. :)

    • Why is that? Can someone not be curious when they are exploring who they are? I have 100% hetero girl friends who make out with same sex for fun. Everyone is different. :)

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  • i'd say a shame for your future boyfriend/husband

    i bet he would have liked a ffm situation.

    • I don't need a homophobe's comment.

    • girl did you read the comment? i was supporting you being a bi and sayingit was a shame you are no longer one since it would do your future guy a good by increasing the likely hood of a 3 some with another girl.

  • that’s up to you really

    • Just a phase

    • nothing wrong with experimenting

    • Yeah. Thanks

  • Why do we humans feel the need to put labels on things? You are human. When younger, you liked women, now you don't. Just leave it at that.

    • Because I've been told that a person's sexuality doesn't change.

    • Do you believe everything someone tells you. As I said, we are human. Things change. Do you still like every food you liked as a kid?

  • Well it might be evolution kicking in. Humans have to be good at having babies to be a successful species so maybe bi's loose their bi-ness at a point?

    • I got my answer. I was bi curious, it was a phase and I was never a bisexual.

    • cool.

  • Could have just been a phase. Sexuality is absolutely something that evolves over time.

    • Yeah, I guess so.

  • The majority of the girls in my highschool were bisexual. Maybe 1/10 ended up exclusively with women. And this was back in 2008.

  • You sound horribly confused.

    • Wow really? Maybe that's why I'm asking a question on here.

  • You were just going through a phase.. Women's sexuality seems to be a bit more flexible than men's.. I've seen it happen to a lot of women.. Maybe you were never truly bisexual and just connected better with women to the point where it felt like sexual and romantic attraction..

    • Yes, exactly.

  • Just by definition, you sound heterosexual

    • Yeah. It was a phase.

  • البشر فضوليون بطبيعتهم ويحبون القيام بكل شيء. في المراحل الأولى، كانت لديك الرغبة في تجربة هذه العلاقة. بعد ذلك اكتشفت أن العلاقات مع الرجال هي الأفضل مثلا، وهذا بعد التجربة.

  • You was just testing the waters
    You are fine

    • Yeah, just a phase. Now I can only see women as friends, nothing more. I'm out of the phase, was probably just curious. Thanks

    • Ok dear

  • I guess you were bi-curious or bored with women, probably just lost interest or maybe your body’s biological clock is ticking to have a baby and you know you need a man for that

  • Be proud and embrace your straightness. It’s who you really are.

    • I am not ashamed of whom I like. I just wondered if this was a common thing. Looks like it was a phase and it is common for women during adolescence.

    • Yeah. I think there’s even a term for being lesbian until graduation in college.

    • But, yes, it’s likely just a phase.

  • No, I think you just realized that women are just as big of a letdown as men.😆

    • Not really. I remember I really liked that girl whom I dated around my early twenties. We had a romantic and sexual relationship. But now I really don't feel any attraction towards women. I can only see myself being with a man.

    • Whatever you say.

    • Yes. Just a phase :)

  • Straight women would never date other women.. so ur probably bisexual.

    • I don't feel attracted to women even a bit, or see myself with a woman anymore. And some straight women do date same sex, it's called bicuriousity. That's why I'm questioning.

    • Sounds like ur in denial? 🤷🏼‍♂️

    • No? Also I got my answer. It was probably just a phase and I am now out of it. I don't date women, I don't want to have a romantic or sexual thing with a woman. If I was bisexual, I would know. It was a phase.

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