I lost my V card to a guy and never heard from him. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I am 24 and I was talking to a guy online for an year.. I was clear that I want to date someone seriously.. He initially wanted to be my boyfriend but I refused because I wanted to meet him at first.. because you know online and offline scenarios are different.. so he was like okay and we went on a date.. he wanted to stay the night but I made him clear that we won't be sleeping together.. And he agreed on that.. so I planned the activities according to that.. we went to movies and we ended up smooching. I was never kissed before that. We went to a hotel so that he can keep his stuff. Then we ended up having sex. He wasn't wearing a condom and when he was taking my pants off. I told him to not to do that. He didn't listen to that. He did on both the sides and I was bleeding. He said he wasn't prepared as well that's why he didn't shave himself. But, sometimes I think he knew it all along the way. When the sex got over he was silent and I was too.. I cuddled him and he left. I didn't hear from him. So I messaged him about my feelings and told him that I want something more.. He told me that it was a hook up for him. I replied that initially he wanted to be my boyfriend and let's give this a chance. I told him that I would change my city for him and never hurt him. He blocked me on Instagram.

I feel terrible and I think it's all my fault because I have misinterpreted everything. Did he block me because I wasn't good in bed? Or I wasn't thick or I'm just not the one.. I get flashbacks about everything - the hand holding, kissing and everything. It has been almost 2 months.. I still think about this. I don't know what just happened I'm confused. I do not know what to lessons should I take from this incident?

[SteveSmith1985]

Ok, this is a straight-up awful story. Just fucking awful.

I am so sorry this happened to you. This has got nothing to do with you not being good enough in bed or anything like that. This has to do with this guy being about the biggest asshole a guy can possibly be. I read this with my mouth hanging open and my hand up to my mouth (like if you're watching something horrific while it's happening). This is so wrong.

But I was unclear about something: Was this consensual sex?

Because: "He wasn't wearing a condom and when he was taking my pants off. I told him to not to do that. He didn't listen to that. He did on both the sides and I was bleeding." I didn't quite understand what you meant here perfectly... that sure doesn't sound consensual to me.

I would love to chat with you a bit, but I think I need to make myself clear on that point. It really does make a huge difference whether or not this was sex you consented to or whether this man raped you. So please do reply (if you're willing to talk to me about this, and it's fine if you're not). And we'll take it from there.

[integrale77]

He sounds a total Dick playing your emotions just for a single night of passion. Think of him as the real looser here he only got a small sample of how it is to be with you.

I never see the point of putting all the effort in getting a girl to go out once with you then do the same again with another girl over and over.

Don't let him make you think of all guys in the same light we are not all like that.

For future I'd suggest setting yourself some personal rules like no sex on the first date or don't got back to a hotel with them, get them to drop you off on your doorstep and if all else fails and the urge takes over take some condoms with you for when they forget!

[Anemone978]

He was just an asshole... I don't know why you went all the way that fast especially for your first time... but I don't know next time make sure to keep yourself safe... and I hope you took plan B or something...

[Asker]

Yeah I did take that.

[LazerBean]

He got what he wanted and now he has no further need or want for you. That's it. He used you.

[HighValue]

That was really messed up of him. You already made your intentions for a relationship clear beforehand. He used you and lied.

My advice would be to date someone in person for at least 3 months to 6 months/12 dates first before going all the way with them, regardless of how long you talk online first.

[FunkyMonkee]

Hunt him down like the dirty dog he is, nail him to a cr4llss and set it on fire! Or, at least, ruin his reputation, somehow, if he has one.

[UncleBilll]

yes the guys wanted to get into your panties that was his goal. I love sex too and not relationships. I date the girl once or twice, I am aggressive in making sexual moves, the moment she says no, or resists with anger on her face, the date is over with I bounce or drive her back to where I picked her up.. The end... The dude crossed the lines even for a dog like me.

[strlb]

You made your intentions clear but he didn't listen or care about your feelings. He only wanted to hook up and leave. That's exactly what he did. In hind sight you should've set your boundaries and stuck to them. I feel for you but it's best to move on and not dwell on someone that didn't oblige to your wishes. There is someone much better, trust me. Best of luck! DM always open

[In_Trance]

move on to the next guy

[tallblondejohm]

Should of called me

[OhyeahCumHere]

I feel so sorry about your story..
But all he wanted was just sex.. You wanted serious relationship
He only wants sex.
Wish you didn't meet him and didn't give your virginity to him cause he didn't deserve it
Your mistake is to believe in him , and to go to a hotel with a guy..

[OhyeahCumHere]

By saying he did both the sides, you mean both vaginal and anal?

[Asker]

Yes.. he did

[OhyeahCumHere]

I think you should have been the one who blocked him, not for him to block you. He didn't respect you, he did anything without asking if you wanted. You and what you want are important

[OhyeahCumHere]

You even told him that u would change your city just for him He can't find a girl like you Where did you meet first time,? Is it an app?

[Anonymous]

You got played.

Advice: Make better choices.