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Sexual Health I think society has had a big influence on me what sex would be like it set huge expectations like this is what you been waiting for all these years for the heaven will open up, your about to become a man blah blah blah. My main concern going into it was I would cum really quickly with in a couple of pumps, boy was I wrong once the condom went on i struggled to stay hard like wtf what happened to my dick. Even when It was in it took a couple minutes to get completely hard if I wasn't quick switching positions it would go soft or if I would go too slow it would start to get soft again so I really had to pound her to keep it hard that was fun but a little tiring. It was probably a straight 5 minutes of hard doggystyle until I finally busted i think i lasted about 13 minutes beginning to end I never expected that to happen my first time after 10 minutes I just wanted to cumm already.
Her pussy felt great it was tight and she was really hot but it just wasn't as good as I thought it would be. While I was going at it i kept on thinking I wish I could take the condom of for i can feel the heat and get my dick wet but I couldn't risk it. Other than the condom Im not sure what else could have made it difficult to get hard maybe all these years of masturbation and porn numbed me down there. I did masturbate an hour befor that could have been it or maybe it was the nerves to preform well. Have you ever had a problem staying hard/getting hard, do you think cutting down on porn will help I watch it about twice a week.
I lost my virginity last night and it just didn't feel as good as I thought it would. Is it just me?
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Also has any one else struggled to insert your dick in her like trying to find the hole? After like 15 seconds she had to help me put it in, I didn't want to a accidentally put it in the wrong hole 😅 it was a little embarrassing but it happened someone tell me its not just me
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17 24Dude.. You jerked off before you lost ot... Ruined your first time.
Also you couldve been nervous or you might jerk off too frequently
I would say i jack off a couple times a week at most I didn't think that was to much but I'll cut down see what happens. I did it right before because I thought it might help me last longer but didn't work out the way I wanted it to. what does ot mean?
Felt like 1000 little angle kisses on the tip of my penis. It was much better than I thought.
how long did you last
Last?
yea penetration to orgasm about how many minutes did you last
Last way of what?
Your penis has never been in a vagina. Dont expect your body to responsive to the stimulation as much. The first time sucks always.
how was it for you your first time?
It did not feel good but not bad either. I could tell i was not used to a vagina. The second and third times were better. The more you do it the better it becomes.
did you have any problems staying hard at first too?
Yeah actually i did, i am not afraid to admit that. I stayed hard the entire time but it was not full hardness. It felt so alien, i never had felt anything like it. Vaginas are so weird man.
yea with me it never got vain pumping hard like it should have been it was at Like a 80 90% but I was still able to cum thankfully. I think it might be an acquired feeling going from years of porn and masturbation to the real thing
Yeah i feel the same about it. Ugh porn, it came to bite me in the ass.
yup i thought all does forums on the Internet were bullshit about porn ruins your sex life I never thought in a million years it would come back to haunt me darn you porn 😤🖕
at your update lol, she put it in for me the first time.
4real I was damn near just wiggling it around hoping it would slip in until she put it in for me i was thinking man where t. f is it 😅 vaginas are a trip!
Sex is like learning to drive. First time you're like "What the fuck is happening?"
i don't know i am asexual
In all the times I've had intercourse, the girl has put it in for me. But things like porn, mental stressors and emotions can definitely have dramatic effects on erections, pleasure-sensing, how long you last before cumming etc..
but you can put it in yourself now right or do you you just rather her just grab it and put it in for you?
If I ever had the opportunity again I'm sure I could do it without any problem. I was just used to them doing it
do you remember how long it took you to put it in with out problem
See my original comment. The longest it's taken the GIRL to put it in - maybe 5 to 10 seconds
no I mean how long did it take you until you were able to do it yourself like a couple weeks or a couple times of having sex. you know what I mean I'm sure the girl didn't really do it 100% of the time for you
Yes, really 100%. I've no memories of ever doing it myself
ok then thanks
Why u bragging man
watchu mean? how is telling people i struggled to keep my dick hard bragging I never expected this to happen in a million years but it happened. I'm just glad she didn't make me feel bad about it that would have been soul crushing
Detailing every little thing that happened on the night you lost your virginity to a bunch of strangers on the Internet is bragging dude. Nobody else cares
I think you need to look up the definition of bragging you sound confused
I had sex on my period so it was all good and great
so no condom?
I don't remember
Yuck
yuck?
The point is (for guys/me) it gets much more enjoyable the more you do it.
Unlike girls we don't feel pain or anything during firs (few) times (possibility ofc).
But it is just a dull feeling, until you do it over and over and over again... then it just becomes a way to blow off some steam, or you start really enjoying it.
Ofc the problem may arise if you used to fap/watch porn a lot, simply you got addicted to porn/fapping. (nothing serious)
how long did it take until you were able to really enjoy it
Frankly I don't know... maybe 5 times or something :/ (don't remember)
It was basically how I thought it'd be for me
did it get better with time?
Well yeah cause we are figuring it out more
My guy and I took like 5 different positions and lots of tries to get it in
You build it up in your head hun as there's a lot of pressure on people to lose it.
As for doing better without, I can tell you now thats a lie. As guys get more. sensation without they finish faster
I don't think I would have had a problem lasting going in raw
You dont know til you try. But generally guys do
so you think going from 15 minutes with a rubber would be just a couple minutes with out one? if I can last 6 minutes with out one I would be happy
Some do as they get over excited. And first times isn't representative of how theyre always going to bs
Get thinner (but not cheap) condoms and do by masturbate before and you'll see a difference.
Most people's first times are lame, though.
I did masturbate like an hour befor that probably had some effect to it i think I'm going to cut down on the porn hopefully it helps
No no no you just should've masturbated three hours ahead of time not just one hour / porn has nothing to do with it, although the mental part of the experience is vastly under appreciaed
yea maybe I was thinking since my reboot time is like 7 minutes when I masturbate it wouldn't have been a problem but I guess it did this time
Lmfao i lost it 3 days ago.. and i had the same shit.. my cock was going soft too.. it's normal because we are nervous.. its gonna take some time.. the second time i preformed well!
that's good to hear how old were you?
24 and you?
20 congrats to both of use i guess lol 🎉 how long did you last?
😂😂thx.. If you wanna count the kissing before it's an hour
no offense but that definitely doesn't count I mean starting from penetration to the point of orgasm
I have trouble staying hard with a condom on too. They suck so bad and I can barely feel anything. It feels much better without one.
right! so do you just raw dog it? when I was fingerings her I was thinking man I wish my dick could fell this wet
age you lost your virginity?
20 years old I'm glad im finally done with the weight of the v card but it wasn't what I was expecting how old where you?
the girl you lost your virginity to, was it a girlfriend, or more casual sex?
some what casual she was cool and all but I didn't have any feelings towards her it was just sex to me. do you think that could have something to do with it. I never really thought of sex having to be with that special someone I just wanted to do it already. I would have preferably would have liked it to be with a girlfriend but whatever it's done.
did you find the girl attractive?
well yea she was hot I wouldn't have fucked her if I didn't think she was attractive
but you can't see her as a potential girlfriend?
I doubt it would happen so probably not