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Sexual Health I love my boyfriend but he has bad hygiene, what can I do?
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I love my boyfriend and I've been with him for 2 years. I need to rant that he has bad hygiene. Problem, he doesn't think so. Living with him made me realize how dirty this man is :( I spoke to him couple times regarding his hygiene but he doesn't agree with me. He just don't think he has bad hygiene. Shower is a big problem with him. He is always too lazy to shower. If he doesn't go out, he doesn't shower. He can go on without shower for 3-4 days. He has body odor and I have to admit it's a bad one. If he doesn't shower for 1 day, he already smells like armpit and feet. He also loves to wear a thick sweater indoor and make himself sweat. The entire sweater smells like strong body odor and it is gross. But, he can wear it for a whole week without washing. His balls and penis also smells like it hasn't been clean for days! At that point, I avoid being next to him. It makes me angry that it turns me off! The worst is, when I ask him to shower, he refused to. Once, I had to yell at him saying that "you smell like complete s*** & you stink! How is it fair that you want me to smell your body odour!! I don't even want to be near you. It makes me disgusted!" Then, he immediately shower. He works outdoor and doesn't shower after work. He change to his pajamas thinking he is clean. There's so many dust and germs and on top of that, he is full of dry sweat. He doesn't even shower after going to the gym or going to a beach. That is why I don't like going to the beach with him. He comes home and hop to bed with his feet black and his body full of sand! Disgusting! Once, I forced him to shower after working out! But he did not use any bodywash & just rinsk with water! I really don't get it. Also, he only brush his teeth once a day in the morning. If he doesn't have work or don't need to go out, he can live without brushing his teeth for "days"! Help! I love him but his hygiene is terrifying! It takes him 5 minutes to shower and 3 minutes to brush his teeth! I don't get it!
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I have to add that he can shower and, wear the dirty clothes again! :(
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What makes me angry is he keep on anticipating that he is not dirty and that I am being ridiculous.
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38 49The only way you will learn is if you walk out the door. And I would think that this issue is so important that I question why you love him or if you love him
If you've told him this many times and he's not listening then there's only one thing to do
Leave him
That's just plain nasty and I would be so turned off I couldn't help but leave. Yuck...
Simple. Show him this question and all the responses. If harsh public opinion and people telling you to leave him doesn't motivate him to change... I don't know what will.
That's disgusting.
He is gross beyond belief. I can't go a day without showering because I'll feel too grimy.
If your boyfriend continues on his path, I think you'll eventually be fed up and leave him.
You should never have to put up with anybody's bad hygiene. It's not fair to you
Too lazy to shower? WTF?
Tell him.
Why wouldn't have told him already. You're 28 so you're clearly dating an adult. Kick his ass into gear.
I know! Yes! :( unfortunately I do feel like a mom asking a 10 year-old to shower after dinner! He always tell me things like, "I shower whenever I want to shower!" Just like a rebellious kid!
That sounds disgusting. This is normal behavior from a 12 year old boy not a grown man. I think you should leave him.
I suggest that you tell him that if he does not improve his hygiene you will leave him. If he does not comply, make sure you do abandon him, there are plenty of clean guys out there to fall in love with. He could easily give you a vaginal infection if he neglects his cleanliness.
That is disgusting. He's a grown up and he shouldn't have to be told to wash his ass. That would be a huge deal breaker for me.
Does he uses toilet paper to wipe his asshole too?
Am really sorry u have 2 put up with such a person.. he has no ideas regarding the elementary rules of hygiene. Force him 2 shower at least once in a day, if not twice.. Remind him dat we r not living in de caveman era anymore
The guy's obviously mad.
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Hmmm... fire hose?
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Not only wash but high pressure rinse will blow the stink off :P
Lol I don't know about you, but if i was in any kind of relationship, that is definietly a deal breaker for me. that shit you described is gross. My girl better take care of herself and clean accordingly.
If he doesn't adjust, then you'll have to break up with him. That's so unsanitary and a hazard for your health.
Condition him sexually - only have sex with him in the shower :D And make sure to wash him thoroughly. You can condition him for a blowjob too, and only give him one if he brushes his teeth before going to sleep.
If he dumps you for this, he was not worth your time anyway. If he complies, well, it is all good.
No it doesn't work. I tried. I cannot everytime offer if sex in the shower.
Well damn, he is tough.
Cheeses crust that sounds fucking gross, that's break up material in my opinion.
Well he doesn't need to wash his hair daily, but if he smells a lot he should definitely wash at least his body. at least every 2 days or so in my opinion. techncally he should be aware of his own smell but perhaps is just too lazy to do something about it. in that case, thats just like a habit, and habits can definitely change. just tell him that it honestly bothers you, without being rude about it, and if he takes you seriously he will try to change it.
Oh ma gawd.. Novel.. Not reading all that but you shouldn't have to be your boyfriends mom. No excuse for poor hygiene that's disgusting.