I love my boyfriend, but he is into swinging. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I got together about 3 years ago. At first, it was just casual sex but the past year we have really shown we love eachother. I am not the kind of person that goes crazy if he watches porn, or looks at other women. I'm struggling with him wanting me to sleep with other people while he watches, and him wanting me to have sex with friends, then tell him about it. He says it turns him on like crazy. I would do anything in the world to make him happy, so we started exploring that option. Now I'm worried that he won't want me anymore. I have talked to him about it and he says that I will always be the one for him. He says that him wanting me with other men and women just makes him love me more. He has never really specified that he wants to sleep with other women, he actually said that he always wants me there. I know this is confusing, but could anyone give me advice?

[Anonymous]

BTDT. Never left each other because of it.

We broke up for completely different reasons after 8 years.

It was fun while it lasted, and made some pretty good friends, but we BOTH participated.

It takes pretty special people to participate. There can't be ANY insecurity, jealousy, or doubt with either.

Sane room, separate rooms, but we always said that we knew where we laid our heads at night because we knew who we were going home with.

To each their own. If you have doubts, don't! It's not for you... and don't let him force you, by talk or denial of sex If it means ending things, then that's what it means. If he won't respect your boundaries, what's it all worth? No one says you can't change your mind later, but don't do it because he wants to cut you off. Find someone else to get your jollies that'll respect you.

[OlderAndWiser]

What do YOU want? Do you want to be having sex with other people? Do you want him to be having sex with other people? Do you see this guy as a forever partner?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

He’s into cucking it seems? Or I don’t know… But if that is a big deal breaker for you, you need to let him know that you are not interested and you cannot satisfy his needs/sexually incompatible.

[Berethor]

Your boyfriend is pathetic.

[LiamSawyer]

Generally speaking swinging couples usually swing right out of their relationships. There is no loyalty and generally never will be.

[InYourHead]

Give it a try.

[TerryBlaise]

Bad idea. He will leave you after a while and you'll feel like shit after. Cop out now.

[ashish804]

its a risk but what u r giving is open to all so he would stay with u since no other girl will give this offer... u can make it interesting by new ways and position

[Wise4myage]

I say its time for you to move on.

[driven159]

one thing he should do is not do something that makes you uncomfortable and I am sure he will want to have other women too that's the way it works

[FearlessHero7]

That just sounds messy.

[CubaPirate]

Dump him now

[JohnQue74]

Some men are just that way. I am. But if this stresses you out, stop. Tell him your not comfortable with it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he wants some dick.