Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
We're lead to believe by modern relationship experts that being possessive and dominant towards your partner are bad things. They are not.
I love it when my boyfriend acts possessive towards me, like when he strictly told me to not to talk to a guy, because he gets vibe from him that he's into me. When he was taking me out for lunch with his friends, he told me to not wear a top which he thought showed too much.
Any relationship 'expert' would immediately go berserk and say "oh my god, he's abusive, dump him!". I say otherwise.
My boyfriend told me not to do these things because he obviously cares about me. He doesn't want me to be ogled at and objectified. He doesn't want me to give wrong signals to that guy who is apparently into me.
You may say, but aren't you a grown adult to decide your own good? I am. But my boyfriend knows how other men think. I don't. Which is why he's guiding me through. My boyfriend is older than me, so there's age experience.
In bed he's completely in charge and oh my. That is the biggest turn on for me. He just pins me down and has his way with me. He gives me love bites in different places. He whispers how I'm only his and his, how lucky he is to have me in his life.
Before this, I dated a guy who was, frankly what we call a 'soyboy'. He never acted dominant towards me, was always like "its your choice, do whatever you want". I always felt something was missing. I didn't feel loved and cherished.
With my boyfriend though, I feel loved. I am a woman who doesn't take shit otherwise. When I'm at school and work, I have my strong woman mode on. I don't take anything lying down, have things done, protect myself. But when I'm with my boyfriend, I can shed that strong woman mode and be his sweet submissive girlfriend. Be protected by him. Let him take control. It makes me feel feminine.
You see, I feel that women in general are not wired to take control. They can take control of need be, but they can't keep it going for long. They need to relax a bit and get out of that shell of strong woman once in a while.
But the way things are going where people are made to act against their nature... I'm worried. A guy taking control in relationship is deemed as toxic masculinity. A girl who loves being submissive is victim.
I just want to share this to show how there are women out there who do like being dominated.
Being dominated by someone requires a lot of trust. You have to trust that your guy wants good for you and won't hurt you Its key for being in such relationship. You need to be strong to let other person take control.
I hope these people realise that men and women are inherently different and the relationship dynamics should be accordingly.
What Girls & Guys Said
37 51I think it is fine to be okay with a guy telling you these things.
Longs if you know if you said no and meant it he would listen.
So basically longs if you happy been 'abused' that's fine but if it makes you sad when he hurts you or something then no.
Cause that would just make you like joker and harley where you think he loves you so you go back to him even if hurts you or nearly kills you and you didn't want that is called a mental illness for a reason.
But if you liked this then sure probably still mental illness but if your okay with it, i ain't gonna judge.
As an experienced dom i am delighted to read your post. You nailed this lifestyle 100%. Well said and dont mind the couple of people who made comments about you not having control of your life.. they just dont "get it". Anyway keep doing what you're doing and enjoy yourself.
I like possessive guys too, it make me feel loved
Possesiveness is great, it shows to me they care. Now, being jealous is another thing. If you see a man hinting on me and you get angry and stop hom is fine, but if you constantly suspecy me of cheating and forbid me to talk to the opposite gender that is not funny.
Here's the problem though: It's too much of a fine line to walk, and it's impossible for us men to know which women are into this and which who aren't.
That's why you should communicate that.
The way I look at this is so long as it's discussed with your partner and both parties are in the understanding of what each other wants And are willing to give to each other what you both want in the relationship then I don't see a problem with being the dominant one in the relationship or being the submissive one. I just really need to trust the person that I'm with. They also need to be able to trust me and the only way you can do that is through constant communication And the respect of each other boundaries.
that was a very soyboy repsonse
Interesting
Myself personally I am not submissive and I am the dominant one in my relationship.
Hey if your into being owned then more power to you, I personally like a women that can freely think for herself without me having to tell her to do/not do certain things - maybe it helps that I have no kinky interests 🤔
The difference between submission and abuse is agency.
Whatever floats your boat.
now you are a true woman... i applaud you very much!
I liked your Take because of its premise until I kept reading and saw the uneducated nonsense about a "soyboy." It's a term that means nothing and smacks of Internet skullduggery wrapped in digital conspiracy non-scientific bullshit. You were doing fine until that.
Trigguhred ! ! !
@Shoenron Huh?
I agree wid you
Im glad you found what you needed, congratulations for you, by the way, I don't think he is being dominant on the bad way.
I mean, he doesn't forbid you talk to all the guys, just the dangerous one, no?
Furthermore, being directive, which is one of the things you like more of him, is one of what I call the five adjectives of sex power.
1. Directive, resolutive, protective
2. Elitist, excel, really competent
3. Funny, gamer, playboy in good sense.
4. Comprehensive, good listener, carer
5. Good looking, handsome
On the test of friend, being on charge is one of the adjectives a woman can say to pass the test ( on other men, I'm more between 3 and 4), but what I mean it's that a good direction is good to being healthy sexually speaking so I find it good to be attracted to it, as while it's on a healthy form.
Glad to see my girlfriend isn't the only one who like my way of handling issues. ;) XD
Have fun not being able to control your own life I guess
I agree with this. There is nothing wrong with a little domination if both partners are okay with it. And also we can all be a little jelaous and possesive, but for me, it's the sign of love, if that behavior is not beyond normal.