I'm 21 and still a virgin, is that a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

I'm turned 21 in May and I'm still a virgin. I have had some sexual experiences, I've gotten a handjob and I fingered I girl. But I never had actual sex. I want to know what it feels like. I don't want to sound cocky or anything, but I know I'm not the most attractive person on earth, but I think I am far from ugly (I was ugly when I was about 12 to 15 years old because I got called ugly many times in middle school.) Is it a bad thing that I'm still a virgin while most if not all people I know are not? If so, could you please tell me why it's not a bad thing?

[Jedi_Sex_Trick]

Its not a bad thing at all.. Dont ever think it is.. Your time hasn't come yet. No big deal. And you will know when its time. I think I would rather be a virgin than to have given it to someone already who might not be in your life and respect and appreciate you. Just be careful. Lots of creeps and STD's. Be patient. Sex is amazing yes. But its not worth rushing because you may regret it. I Dont want you to regret it, It can be a dirty feeling and its with ypu forever. Dont sleep with anyone you will regret. . You are going to be just fine.. I've been divorced for 4 years and I havnt been on a date yet lol. Do what I do. Just pleasure yourself until your time is right. Good luck

[Asker]

Good advice, man. Maybe I'm just jealous that people already had sex and maybe that they are married and have kids and all that. Heck, I know many people who jump in and out of relationships, the date someone for like six months and be single for like a week and are with another person by the end of the same week. I have a aunt who jumps from guy to guy all the time. Part of me wants to have sex with anyone and get it over with, and the other part wants me to wait for the special person. It kinda reminds of that Tom Petty song The Waiting, about how waiting is the hardest part but it's worth it in the end. I'm sorry that you got divorced, I hope you'll find the right person. Thanks again man.

[Jedi_Sex_Trick]

You are most welcome. I won't ever tell you what to do, so I advise you and will ask politley. Will you please, please dont just grab anyone random so you can get it out the way.. Damn it im on my knees askin. Haha.. Hey every time I try to upload a picture it won't let me. Help please

[CapnHawk]

No, it's not a bad thing - not even close. Wait till you find the right woman. The wait is worth it.

[Asker]

I hope so.

[lauragrl]

everyone gets called ugly in middle school so you probably weren't 😊

[Asker]

Maybe so. But I think I'm a good looking person now. :)