I'm a little bicurious, but quite nervous to try anything with a man, what should I do?

I've only ever slept with women and truly do enjoy it, but have wondered for some time what sex with another man would be like. I'm very very nervous because I don't know what to expect. I'm also nervous because it is quite risky. I also don't know how women feel about this. I mean is it okay to explore that side of myself? I know plenty of women who have and men don't care, but I don't know how that scenario is when it is reversed.
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  • it is not widely accepted. I speak from experience as I am a bisexual male and proud of it (thus why I don't go anon.) I don't care what people think. many people, straight and gay refuse to admit that true bisexuality exists that you are either one or the other but the truth is that some people (like myself) are attracted to sexes. finding someone to experiment with will not be a problem and if needed finding a woman open to helping with that experiment shouldn't be hard.

  • I would recommend finding somebody you are comfortable with, and somebody who will respect both your curiosity and your boundaries. I would ask what is it you are curious about, and do you feel attracted to men somewhat already, these are just general questions.

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  • it doesn't matter how women feel about it. its about how you feel about it.
    i would say the best rout would be to do mmf so you have the comfort of a woman and the guy is there for you, too. but you have "support". u can always tell them upfront its ur first time so they won't have super high expectations.
    but odds are, if you are bisexual, it will come naturally and u are worrying about nothing :)

  • It's totally ok to explore that side of yourself! As a bisexual myself, I completely understand how scary it is. With that being said, don't make yourself do anything you're not entirely comfortable with and don't withhold yourself because you're afraid of what others will think. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. It's your life, do what makes you happy. Good luck!

    • Thank you! What should I expect?

    • Well, I suppose that depends on how you decide to deal with it. If you choose to act on it, I would expect a ton of nervousness, almost to the point of not being able to enjoy the action. At least that was true in my case. Descrimation is also a possiblity. But at the end of the day, it all depends on you and what you feel. If you decide same sex relations are not for you, that's 100% OK! What matters is you explored and discovered something new about yourself. If you find you really enjoy same sex relations, that's great too! But it's gonna be a confusing road! I wish you luck and you can always message me or anyone you feel safe talking to about it. It really helps the process!

  • I mean do what you want. But is this curiosity from porn? Do women like bisexuality? As a whole no, but there is some who do. You just have to weed through all the ones who dont to find the few who do.

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  • Could start with a MMF threesome as your first step. She would be there to be a buffer and you would still be close and naked with another man. Then you could find a couple in which the guy is bi too.

  • Before you run out to experiment on your own you may want to learn a little bit about being bi-curious. It is quite normal in all humans if they care to admit it or not, everyone has had those thoughts at least once.
    Since you already have a female lover, you might want to explore bi-curious porn together. Not that you want to practice it, but as a "different" kind of entertainment. This is just my opinion and like belly buttons, nearly everyone has one.

    • Good answer!! Not so sure about the 'belly-button' thing!! :) :) Modern society is really messed up, and it confuses people, that have NORMAL, NATURAL curiosities, and feelings, about their same gender. What is so wrong with two friends, same gender, experimenting, touching, maybe having a little 'play time' together? Why should anyone judge another, for what they like, privately, with whomever they choose? There are frescos, from Greece, depicting the Senators loving their pages. There is Mainstream Porn, with women, loving other women, and guys, loving other guys. But why? I think it is because they like how they feel, with that PERSON! A woman that I dated, and was quite intimate with, recently sent me a response, saying she met a girl, that she thinks she likes!! She had NEVER said anything about liking girls before, so I questioned, and we are close enough that she just said that it 'surprised' her too!! But she seems to love that girl!! I think, good for her!!

  • Always use lots of lube and have him be gentle.

  • I sucked a dick once, and after that I got convinced that wasn't my thing.

    • Was this by any chance during a dark period of your life which involved some form of financial desperation and or drug addiction?

    • @OfDeath Nope, I just wanted :P

    • Damn

  • Definitely prepare your asshole. Other than that being curious is completely okay.

  • I suggest talking to other men about their similar experiences and get an idea of what to expect first

  • Find someone you trust who would be willing to try it and see how it goes. Obviously the hard part is finding that person that you trust and wants to let you experiment with them

  • I've given oral to 4 guys. Nothing else ever appealed to me about men. So, maybe start slow. Good luck.

  • Find a respectful person or friend, talk about it and try it out.

    I am not attracted to guys either but have had many thoughts of doing sexual activities with a guy.

    I did finally go down on a guy once. My girlfriend was involved and helped to break the ice. I ultimately sucked him until he came in my mouth. It was interesting and fun. I kinda want to try it again at some point because I was pretty stressed/uptight about doing it….

  • You don't know unless you try it.
    Certainly a good experience for some.

  • take a dildo and go forth exploring your sexuality dude!

  • Don't Do It, you can't miss something you never had.

    • But what if you are missing out on something AMAZING?

  • I'm bi myself and I got a girlfriend she knows I'm bi u can go bout it by jus talking to lads who are bi or gay an jus tell em u AV Neva dne anything wiv a guy I've only done with 1 lad wen I woz younger but wanna try it again but I said to my girlfriend I'd only do it if she woz there coz wunt want it to look like I've cheated

  • I'm almost 30 and I've been with over 20 women. I'm not attracted to men physically at all but for some reason I've always been curious and thought about trying it out. I want to make another guy cum by Maybe a just a HJ or wtv. I've never acted on it because I have a girlfriend, I wouldn't know where to find someone interested in that, I'm pretty recognizable in my city and can't get caught and I've never met a man I was attracted to sexually either.

  • Why not just find an ugly woman and let her do you with a strap on?

  • I'm guessing it would smell like poopy